Author Amelie1980 Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 It shouldn't feel like she's giving anything precious away. I recall her saying this guy was a player. I'm sure she's far from the only person who has "nice" messages from this guy. Isnt that true of anyone on here? He's not the only man to have nice messages from me....i have a history as do most people.
Blanco Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 Isnt that true of anyone on here? He's not the only man to have nice messages from me....i have a history as do most people. Sure, but these messages would mean infinitely less to me if I knew they were coming from a "player."
darkbloom Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 It shouldn't feel like she's giving anything precious away. I recall her saying this guy was a player. I'm sure she's far from the only person who has "nice" messages from this guy. I dated a dude who cheated on me and lied to me about it for a year. He still wrote me some very "nice" letters and did some sweet things for me. I was in love with him. They were precious to me. Even if the crapy stuff he did wasn't so much. My point is you can't keep reliving that stuff. No matter how good or nice they were to you.
Author Amelie1980 Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 Sure, but these messages would mean infinitely less to me if I knew they were coming from a "player." That is true. But i feel what i feel.
Blanco Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 I dated a dude who cheated on me and lied to me about it for a year. He still wrote me some very "nice" letters and did some sweet things for me. I was in love with him. They were precious to me. Even if the crapy stuff he did wasn't so much. My point is you can't keep reliving that stuff. No matter how good or nice they were to you. I still have anything any of my long-time girlfriends ever wrote to me, so I'm certainly not advocating just tossing aside the past. When my last girlfriend and I split, I exported all of our texts from three years and saved them to my computer. I haven't looked at them and likely won't again. But I have them. It's fine to hang on to these things, so long as you aren't peeking at them in your most vulnerable times. Hopefully that isn't what OP is doing with these messages.
Author Amelie1980 Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 (edited) I still have anything any of my long-time girlfriends ever wrote to me, so I'm certainly not advocating just tossing aside the past. When my last girlfriend and I split, I exported all of our texts from three years and saved them to my computer. I haven't looked at them and likely won't again. But I have them. It's fine to hang on to these things, so long as you aren't peeking at them in your most vulnerable times. Hopefully that isn't what OP is doing with these messages. No i just read the naughty ones sometimes. For fun. but the nice ones i tend to skip. Edited November 25, 2015 by Amelie1980
Simon Phoenix Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 The problem is I cant do it. I have over a year of nice messages from him on whatsapp. I dont want to delete them so his number stays there even if i delete him from my phone. Yes you can. You just don't want to. You enjoy being stuck in the muck. You enjoy the dysfunction of your interactions with this guy and prefer it to recovering and finding a healthy relationship with a "good" guy. That's why you've allowed yourself to be an option twice and why you are willingly jogging in place hoping to get picked for a third go-round. I guess if that's your thing, you do you. But it sounds pretty counterproductive and pointless to me. 1
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