littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Oh? I guess I have been so hurt in the past, maybe I am not to trusting, I don't know. It just FEELS like something is not right. I don't know if I am overreacting because I have been cheated on and hurt a few times before. I get it... I've been cheated on too. But whether he meant it for you or not, clear it from your mind... "Center Yourself" and let him bring things out. If he meant it for you, you're beating yourself up for nothing. If he meant it for somebody else, he's not worth beating yourself up. Like I said, if you can't just get ahold of him and get an answer, then call a friend, go have fun and forget about the situation until the answer becomes clear.
Redhead14 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Oh? I guess I have been so hurt in the past, maybe I am not to trusting, I don't know. It just FEELS like something is not right. I don't know if I am overreacting because I have been cheated on and hurt a few times before. A reaction like this to anything you don't have all the information about and making assumptions is always an overreaction. Call him and talk to him. because I have been cheated on and hurt a few times before -- So you're going to make him suffer the sins of the guy/guys before him? Maybe he did mean if for someone else, but you might as well check into it now and address all this. If he is, get it out in the open. If he really mean't it for you, be prepared to apologize profusely and for him to be hurt by you having that reaction for no reason.
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 I typically listen to "**** it" by Eamon when I don't know if I should drop a relationship or not, somebody cheating on me or not... It prepares me for the worse... But if things end up fine then I just laugh about it.
katiegrl Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 He did not call last night, it would have shown on my phone, he doesnt have a limit on his phone for calls, neither do I. He would NOT have sent such an obtuse message. I have still not heard one word from him. Not a text, not a call. VERY out of character for him. I am trying not to let me feelings run wild and assume anything. BUT!!!! That text was NOT meant for me, he was still up and he clearly did NOT call me last night! He seems to have been busy texting someone else. I called him out on it, and had it been some innocent misunderstanding? A call or text laughing and explaining was all that was needed. 5 hours later and nothing? GUILTY of something. FOLLOW YOUR GUT ..... If it's telling you something feels off, then it probably is.... No one here knows your history together, so listen to your own instincts and respond accordingly.
katiegrl Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 FOLLOW YOUR GUT ..... If it's telling you something feels off, then it probably is.... No one here knows your history together, so listen to your own instincts and respond accordingly. To add ...something sounds off to me too... After receiving your message, if it *had* been for you ....he would have responded back saying so... His silence = guilt. IMO.
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Come on now... have an open mind. Silence=Silence that's all. Be calm, enjoy yourself without him until he explains. If he doesn't contact you, just keep enjoying yourself... Don't react to it at all. Just keep moving and let things play out. You're kept your responsibility in the relationship, now sit back and chill.
Author Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 That is exactly what I am going to do. I am not going to freak out, it seems clear to me what it is, and I am going about my day and life.
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Our minds naturally always look for an answer/solution/reason. Often we do this when we truly don't NEED an answer/solution/reason.
Author Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 That is exactly what I am going to do. I am not going to freak out, it seems clear to me what it is, and I am going about my day and life. And just to add? He did call a minute ago ( I did not answer), and quite truthfully? I do not feel like talking to him right now. That text was NOT meant for me and I know it, He KNOWS I know it and I don't feel like getting into this when I am at work. No way in hell it was for me! No way. I KNOW this man!!! He can sit and think about that, because I will give him the time to explain when I have time, and if it is some chicken **** excuse? I will be polite, tell him I have to go and that will be it. He will be as good as dead to me. No way to explain that at all, no way!!! "Can't you feel my heart. There should have been 12. Can't you feel my heart" Try waking up to THAT text from your guy.
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Quick question... Had he been drinking last night/smoking pot/drugs? I've woken up to find out I've sent some "WTF???" texts.... He might have been calling to say: "hey, I was so drunk when I sent that, I don't even remember what I was trying to say to you" I think I've said that word for word to my GF before...
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 OP, regardless how you handle this or what happens to this relationship, you really need to do some serious work regarding your past relationship issues. They are going to haunt you BIG time if you're not careful. This last post speaks volumes to your state of mind and that isn't good for anyone. This guy may very well be a d*ck in the end and your instincts served you well but then again you might be wrong and your insecurities blew up a pretty good thing. All I know is that you'll never find a happy and secure relationship with any man until you heal past wounds. Period. 1
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 (Your boyfriend in a drunken spinning room) *Sits on bed, staring at his phone with one eye open and the other closed so he doesn't see double. Begins to message you what he meant to say... "I drank a little too much and I miss you, I wish you were here, can you feel my heart? I drank 12 beers, there should be 12 left in the case. I can feel your heart... Goodnight babe, gna pass out now." *Then continues to sleep in way too late, he's hung over, can't find his phone anywhere. Finally finds it, see's his messed up drunken text, and calls to explain. You don't answer. He's in lala land. WHAT IF....?
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 "I can't feel my heart beat... There's 12 beers left in the case, which means I drank 12... You seriously can't feel my heart beat"
Author Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 See that is it!!! I have been lied to and cheated on, and everytime? I had this 'gut feeling' that in the end was right on. Right now I truly can't tell if it is my gut or my insecurities. I am at work right now and just am not in a position to talk on the phone and that is that.
StBreton Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 (edited) That is exactly what I am going to do. I am not going to freak out, it seems clear to me what it is, and I am going about my day and life. And just to add? He did call a minute ago ( I did not answer), and quite truthfully? I do not feel like talking to him right now. That text was NOT meant for me and I know it, He KNOWS I know it and I don't feel like getting into this when I am at work. No way in hell it was for me! No way. I KNOW this man!!! He can sit and think about that, because I will give him the time to explain when I have time, and if it is some chicken **** excuse? I will be polite, tell him I have to go and that will be it. He will be as good as dead to me. No way to explain that at all, no way!!! "Can't you feel my heart. There should have been 12. Can't you feel my heart" Try waking up to THAT text from your guy. OP ... I'm not sure what's going on. I will say this...maybe your bf is in the medical profession ... possibly he's having a dalliance with someone in the medical profession so he's made a cute reference to her or your bf is really into fitness and has knowledge of respiration and again is making a cute reference to someone he's having a dalliance with. Normal adult respiration (breaths) is 12-18 breaths per minute and this is not a "well known fact" except for those in the medical profession/fitness buffs. It seems he is alluding to this fact in his text... can't say for sure. It is a reference to someone he has had some "experience with." To determine breaths per minute, one can watch someone's chest rise and fall or hold one's hand (or possibly head if cuddling) on their chest. When you talk with him ask him specifically if he is referring to what I have mentioned and ask him point blank what's going on. Glad you have an attitude that you deserve all of someone's heart. Edited November 24, 2015 by StBreton
Author Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 Well I talked to him, I asked him about the text, first he says he didnt have his phone last night, he didnt text anyone, then he asked me to read it to him, and was stuttering over his words, no explantion at all really and suddenly said "I have to go" and hung up.
katiegrl Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Well I talked to him, I asked him about the text, first he says he didnt have his phone last night, he didnt text anyone, then he asked me to read it to him, and was stuttering over his words, no explantion at all really and suddenly said "I have to go" and hung up. Busted! This would be a dealbreaker for me ..... You?
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 hmm... still vague... hard to say. Still no explanation, I say still no assumptions.
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 I would be going crazy asking myself wtf "there should be 12" means...
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Has he shown any interest in a girl starting with the same letter as yours? next to eachother in his contacts? Usually the chat windows are arranged according to when they occurred on a phone though. So he may have mixed up who the text was supposed to go to. Then again, there may be some weird explanation... Again, you haven't gotten an explanation yet. You've only seen one perspective so far.
StBreton Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 "Can't you feel my heart. There should have been 12. Can't you feel my heart" Wait...what if he sent someone a dozen roses ... that would explain the 12 reference and the "can't you feel my heart" ... 1
katiegrl Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 (edited) Has he shown any interest in a girl starting with the same letter as yours? next to eachother in his contacts? Usually the chat windows are arranged according to when they occurred on a phone though. So he may have mixed up who the text was supposed to go to. Then again, there may be some weird explanation... Again, you haven't gotten an explanation yet. You've only seen one perspective so far. His no explanation IS his explanation. Combined with his (at first) denial.... followed by stuttering when confronted (which is a clear indication that someone is lying). Common sense. God blessed us all with it.... we need to use it! "Can't you feel my heart. There should have been 12. Can't you feel my heart" Wait...what if he sent someone a dozen roses ... that would explain the 12 reference and the "can't you feel my heart" ... St.Breton I agree with you! That sounds like a very likely scenario. Edited November 24, 2015 by katiegrl
MidwestUSA Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 "Can't you feel my heart, there should have been 12, can't you feel my heart" -- 12 is a reference to how many beats per second you should have felt would be a logical and unbiased guess at least. I hope not! That would be some serious tachycardia at 720. But I'm always open to dragging out the defibrillator and cardioverting someone. It's fun to watch them bounce! 4
Empyrea Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Hmmmh. His reply sure did seem suspicious.. This might be one of those cases where objectively there doesn't seem anything to be worried about, but you have to trust your gut, because only you know your partner, and everyone else is just guessing. Curious to hear how this one turns out! Hoping for the best!
losangelena Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 I don't ever believe someone say, "I didn't have my phone with me." Really? Mine may not be in my hands constantly, but I pretty much know where my phone is at all times. He didn't have it on him and it spontaneously texted you? Omg, my eyes can't roll any further back in my head. Where did it come from then? Did Casper the Friendly Ghost snatch his phone or something? 1
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