Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 So once again, I am out of town for work. I get a text last night from my BF "Can't you feel my heart, there should have been 12, can't you feel my heart" WTF?????? I sent him a text back saying "I guess this was for someone else" and have not heard ONE word! The orig text came to me last night, and when I woke up I sent my reply. I have the worst taste in men I swear!!! How do I handle this?
Toodaloo Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 So the guy tries to be romantic and you accuse him of cheating... Not good. Or The guy is cheating and you caught him... Not good. You leave it until you can see him face to face and find out if you are being unreasonable or if he is a douche bag. Apologise if its you and hope for the best, dump him if he is a douche.
PegNosePete Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 My first thought is he's watching a game with his buddies, was excited, and thought there should have been 12 goals. Did you try calling him up and asking about it?
Author Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 yea, maybe I am over reacting. been burnt to many times. I will sit on this. 1
Toodaloo Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 yea, maybe I am over reacting. been burnt to many times. I will sit on this. Talk (not text) to him about it.
stillafool Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 How do I handle this? You already handled it when you sent back your text.
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Regardless of anything, the question that sticks out to me is WHY didn't he respond after he texted her? He could have very well blasted her for jumping to such idiotic conclusions or explain what that random text was about. He did neither which is a bit of a red flag. 1
Redhead14 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 (edited) So once again, I am out of town for work. I get a text last night from my BF "Can't you feel my heart, there should have been 12, can't you feel my heart" WTF?????? I sent him a text back saying "I guess this was for someone else" and have not heard ONE word! The orig text came to me last night, and when I woke up I sent my reply. I have the worst taste in men I swear!!! How do I handle this? Why did you think it was mean't for someone else to begin with? And, he may not be responding because he's embarrassed that you didn't give him a sweet reply back and is feeling lame now. Or upset that you thought it wasn't for you OR he's not replying because he wishes he was sending it to someone else who would appreciate it . . . Bottomline, you jumped to a conclusion for some reason. Have you had reason not to trust him lately? Edited November 24, 2015 by Redhead14
hippychick3 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Regardless of anything, the question that sticks out to me is WHY didn't he respond after he texted her? He could have very well blasted her for jumping to such idiotic conclusions or explain what that random text was about. He did neither which is a bit of a red flag. Exactly. No reply is the biggest red flag of all. And, what man says to his friends "Can't you feel my heart" while watching sports?? 2
Redhead14 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 yea, maybe I am over reacting. been burnt to many times. I will sit on this. You don't have to sit on it. Just calm down and be objective for now. Pick up the telephone and find out what's going on. been burnt to many times -- Have you been burnt many times by HIM? If he himself hasn't given you reason not to trust him, that was a very unfair response. And, so I can understand that he didn't respond to you because he thinks you're angry/upset and may just want to wait until you're home to talk about it.
candie13 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 what do you mean he's your bf ? How many times have you two dated?
Author Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 We have dated about 1 year. I have been lied to cheated on a few times in my past and was so hurt. He knows I get insecure, as I have told him I get that way at times. This text? I don't know what the " I sent 12" meant, twelve what???? and he has never said to me "Can't you feel my heart" EVER. I feel blindsided a bit And still? Not even a phone call or a text to try and explain this!!!
Redhead14 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 We have dated about 1 year. I have been lied to cheated on a few times in my past and was so hurt. He knows I get insecure, as I have told him I get that way at times. This text? I don't know what the " I sent 12" meant, twelve what???? and he has never said to me "Can't you feel my heart" EVER. I feel blindsided a bit And still? Not even a phone call or a text to try and explain this!!! "Can't you feel my heart, there should have been 12, can't you feel my heart" -- 12 is a reference to how many beats per second you should have felt would be a logical and unbiased guess at least. Perhaps he was a little tipsy and feeling a little lonesome. I'm assuming the best of him because we don't know anything else and he if he specifically has never caused you to feel he can't be trusted, he deserves at least the benefit of the doubt. And, so what, if he's never said it before . . . it wouldn't be special anyway if he said if every single day!!! Don't play the passive-aggressive game. Give him a call and have a conversation. Frankly, I don't understand why you two didn't have a phone call to talk before bed anyway while you're traveling (or did this come in after you did talk)? If you did talk, what was he doing, etc. then? Was he drinking?
Author Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 We do talk every night a couple of times. Usually he then calls right before he goes to bed to say Good Night. He did not last night, and I fell asleep watching a movie. I woke up to this message. He has still not called or texed me back!! VERY unlike him.
Redhead14 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 We do talk every night a couple of times. Usually he then calls right before he goes to bed to say Good Night. He did not last night, and I fell asleep watching a movie. I woke up to this message. OK. So you guys didn't say goodnight as usual. He maybe missed doing that and felt like being a little romantic. You didn't answer so hopefully he thought the best of you and that you fell asleep. OR maybe he's doing all the mental gymnastics you're doing and thinking the reason you didn't answer the text at the time was because you were messing around with someone in your room . . .
PegNosePete Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Regardless of anything, the question that sticks out to me is WHY didn't he respond after he texted her? Maybe his phone ran out of credit.
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Listen, if you've been dating for a YEAR then you BOTH should know better for heaven's sake. Playing mental gymnastics and being passive aggressive isn't going to solve anything in the end. You don't appear to be in a very mature relationship. 1
Author Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 He did not call last night, it would have shown on my phone, he doesnt have a limit on his phone for calls, neither do I. He would NOT have sent such an obtuse message. I have still not heard one word from him. Not a text, not a call. VERY out of character for him. I am trying not to let me feelings run wild and assume anything. BUT!!!! That text was NOT meant for me, he was still up and he clearly did NOT call me last night! He seems to have been busy texting someone else. I called him out on it, and had it been some innocent misunderstanding? A call or text laughing and explaining was all that was needed. 5 hours later and nothing? GUILTY of something.
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Seems there's just a major communication issue. You need to hear what he has to say about it. Like others said, he hasn't responded!!! That means he's either upset/embaressed that you didn't reply to what he said and doesn't know what to think, or he doesn't know how to explain it was for somebody else... Don't assume ANYTHING yet. He's the only one that has the answer you're looking for, get ahold of him, go to his house. Get to the bottom of it, it might have been for you and there was a misunderstanding...
PegNosePete Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 5 hours later and nothing? GUILTY of something. Why did you bother making a thread if your mind is already made up?
kpl Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 He could just be busy. It's hard to believe you've been dating a year and have a solid foundation and one little thing happens and you think the worst. Something is already afoot here and if you blaming him for other guys who have hurt you then you don't need to be in any relationship with anyone.
Empyrea Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 I think it's strange your mind immediately went to him cheating.. I mean, even if the text was meant for someone else, it still wouldn't make a whole lot of sense. Especially since you said that he usually calls you every night. Maybe he was drinking with friends and too drunk to call, or just forgot to call and sent what he thought was a romantic text instead. Sounds like it could be a lyric from something? Unless you have reason to believe he'd be texting some other girl. It's weird he didn't reply, but maybe he was miffed at you jumping to conclusions, or hung over still.. I would call him, or text, say you were half asleep when you read it and it didn't make sense to you. I mean, it still doesn't, but whatever.
littlez360 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 I lived with my GF for a yr and a half. I ****ed up some texts with her trying to be cute and she thought it was strange. I've been in situations where she wasn't able to get ahold of me and I couldn't call all day. Perhaps those two situations collided with him and this is just turning into a dramatic situation for nothing.
Author Nicole11 Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 (edited) Oh? I guess I have been so hurt in the past, maybe I am not to trusting, I don't know. It just FEELS like something is not right. I don't know if I am overreacting because I have been cheated on and hurt a few times before. Edited November 24, 2015 by Nicole11
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