ADHD and Cleaning Up

[creepygirl]

Any of you ever date someone with ADHD and them being sloppy, having a messy house, car, etc. Them never cleaning up after themselves or just keeping their places messy all the time? Even after you have helped them clean up, they still keep it the same way time and time again? How did you deal with this situation?

[basil67]

The answer is simple:

 

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. This guy is a slob and he's shown that he's not going to change. So you can either graciously accept him for who he is or leave him.

[LostOnes05]

Not the case at all Basil. I have ADHD and I can tell you for a fact that until I got on medication I could not keep things clean. It wasn't to the point where I had food everywhere or insects. It would mostly be my paperwork and clothes that would be scattered. I could clean up today and tomorrow my room would be a mess. Probably a manifestation of how cluttered my mind was. Now, from time to time it gets a little messy but nowhere near as bad as before. Question is, does he take medication? and does he take it regularly? is he depressed at all?

[Lansing]

OP, I can relate to what you are saying. Dated a girl with ADHd who only took meds when she was studying for exams. If your BF is being treated then maybe the messy part if him is something outside of his ADzhzd. Highly recommend this author's stuff, in particular her book for understanding/dealing with a partner with ADHD:

Overview | Gina Pera

[creepygirl]

I am going to help him get his stuff cleaned up and hopefully all will work out, because he is a good person. He does treat me well.

[MidwestUSA]

I am going to help him get his stuff cleaned up and hopefully all will work out, because he is a good person. He does treat me well.

 

Best of luck to you. I am that a person, the clutterer. My husband does his best to help and keep me in line, but, for the most part, we've learned to live with it. We have hobbies, we have 'collections' (not hoards), and we have pets. There's also a lot of love in the house.

 

Priorities!