leslee Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 i have been talking to this guy for about 7 months. about 10 months ago he got out of a 7 year relationship he does still talk to her sometimes but he says he loves her but he cant be with her. me and him spend alot of time together but when i ask him to go out and do something he always has a excuse as to why he cant go out with me. when we do go out he acts as if we are more friends than "together" even though everyone knows that we talk and see eachother. he says the reason he doesnt want to get serious is because he has applied to many different schools and he doesnt want to get serious and then have to leave me. but is this just a excuse as to why he doesnt want to be with me like that. he tells me that he wants to be with me but he cant and i dont understand why. is he just playing with my heart or should i give it more time to change?
Illusion24 Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Ask yourself this: If he leaves are you willing to do a LDR??? Do you want to be rebound girl??? Getting out of a 7 year relationship is hard...It's like being married. You can't expect him to want to get into another relationship when he just ended one of 7 years. Take your time, hang out and as time passes feelings will grow and get stronger. I think he's right in not starting something with you and not being able to give you the type fo relationship you're looking for. The memories of her are still their and maybe you make him feel good again but he still has some healing to do...I would just be their for him and try not to fall so hard for him. Take it slooww you never know
lil_country_cowgirl Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 U do have to realize that he just got out of a 7 YEAR RELATIONSHIP. give him some time to get over that. I agree with neversaynever its like he just got out of bein married. Just be there for him and maybe after a while he will see that ur tha girl for him. But for now just give him his time and space but be there if he needs u. Keep going places and talkin to him but dont expect him to act like u all r "together"
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