l2hvn Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 "I see trees of green, red roses too I see them bloom for me and you And I think to myself what a wonderful world." i am in and i just want everybody to know. i haven't felt this way in a long, long time. i forgot what it was like. and let me tell yah, it's the best feeling in the world.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Well good for you! Wish you all the best! I understand the feeling and you just want to stand on the tallest building and shout it! Well go ahead!
sami Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 That's all you need to do and stay like that. Don't fall out of it. Good luck
Author l2hvn Posted May 27, 2005 Author Posted May 27, 2005 aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! hahaha.. there! only thing is, my bf has no clue.... i want to tell him how i really feel about him but, i've never said the "L" word first. ever... i never played games with him but this one i think i should hold back. what do you guys think? would it make a difference on who says "I Love You" first?
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 I think it makes a difference...What if you say and he doesn't feel the same way (not saying he doesn't) You could scare him away. But the moment when he says it back to you is electrifying. Fireworks and the whole 9! I would say it to him and tell him that if he's not ready to say it to you, its OK. You just wanted to let him know how your feeling. Good luck with everything.
Author l2hvn Posted May 27, 2005 Author Posted May 27, 2005 Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue You could scare him away. exactly my thoughts. i hope he won't. and sami, i was never the first to utter the "L" word so i don't really know exactly how to approach this. im afraid i will scare him away if i said it and he says, "that's sweet. thank you." maybe i should give it some more time. but im quite pretty sure he's just as happy and content as i am. heck, he already made some storage space for my clothes in his closet. and he's going to introduce me to his family in July when they come visit him. *a little nerve-wracking for me.* i've read somewhere that a girl should never say I Love You first. ever... i've always followed this rule. not only that, but in the past, my ex's have fallen for me first before i've fallen for them. but this one's different.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 When my exH first said "I love you" it was way too soon, so I said to him, "Don't say that unless you really really mean it". Well that scared him away and he hardly ever said it throughout our 13 yr marriage. Just like the first time he went down on me and me, being so inexperienced, said Oh, i'm not sure I like that. Well, he stayed away from there forever too instead of making me like it.
blind_otter Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 IMO, you should say what you feel. I have always thought that love is a gift that you give, and you can't ask for anything in return - not even an equal amount of love. You fell in love with him without having him say it first. I dunno. I said it first to my exhusband, and to my current BF. They both said it back only a few days later. My exhusband was a doof and said it while we were at a bar. My current BF said it in a long, flowery letter.
RecordProducer Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Don't say "I love you" first! He should be the one. Men accept it as a rule to say that first just like the proposal. Good luck! Enjoy your love.
scarlyjones Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer Don't say "I love you" first! He should be the one. Men accept it as a rule to say that first just like the proposal. Good luck! Enjoy your love. What?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! *sigh*....wow...........
Author l2hvn Posted May 27, 2005 Author Posted May 27, 2005 so....... some of you said i should say it and some of you said i shouldn't....
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 We don't know your BF. If he's the dominant type, than if you say it first, that could scare him. If he's commitment phobe than don't say it. Do you think if he loved you, he would have said it? Think about that. B/c you know you do. SO when he says it you can express yourself fully.
blind_otter Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Do what feels right. It's really the only advice anyone can give. For me - it's important to tell someone if I love them because they might die in a fiery car crash the next day, and how would I feel if they passed away without knowing I love them? Like shyte. My mother worked as a nurse in an emergency room for several years and always says stuff like this - you never know when a loved one will be injured or killed even, as she's seen thousands of people die during her 30 year nursing career.
Skeered Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 This prolly won't help you at all but I had to share...lol my boyfriend said it first but it was pretty much the same time i wanted to say it to him...I think we had both been trying to figure out if it was too soon but in a moment (not even of passion or anything) he said he loved me I thought for a moment and said it back..saying I Love you too me is as strong as a marriage vow...you don't throw those three words around without knowing full well that this is true. But I totally know where you are coming from I2hvn, because I am right there with you I have never loved anyone like I love my boyfriend it was in an instant that I felt it. He has shown me what a true love is. ok enough of me stealing your post...if you feel it, say it, but don't expect it right back, he may take the time to think it through before saying it and in that case when he does it's for real and feel blessed.
scarlyjones Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Dont listen to the people who tell you that "you should say it first because of........" or "He should say it first because....." Just say it if you feel you are ready. Only you can gauge if hes the type it will scare away. Use your best judgement and if you know it wont scare him away,...then I say go for it. It feels GREAT to be in love. Enjoy..............
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Originally posted by scarlyjones Dont listen to the people who tell you that "you should say it first because of........" or "He should say it first because....." Just say it if you feel you are ready. Only you can gauge if hes the type it will scare away. Use your best judgement and if you know it wont scare him away,...then I say go for it. It feels GREAT to be in love. Enjoy.............. Yup, What she said
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