Tonic Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 So Im curious as to what everyone's opinions or ideas are on approaching someone you don't know at all or just don't know that well. How would you go about it, guys and girls? Also what is your idea of the best small talk topics? (In before Smackie9 says grow some balls )
d0nnivain Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 Depends on the situation. I volunteered at an event two weeks ago where I knew 1 person. I walked up to several other volunteers, mostly women, like me, held out my hand to shake theirs & said Hi, I'm Donnivain, I'm volunteering with this through xyz organization. I found most of them horribly rude because only about 10% of them actually even told me their names; most looked at me like I had 2 heads. In most business & social settings, what I did was the correct way to start an intro & I have had great success with it over the years. Small talk easily focuses on the current surroundings. In a bar you can talk about the game on TV or ask what they are drinking. Although I found it to be a very negative experience, in my volunteer situation, I would have followed up with a Q about how they came to be involved. 1
truth_seeker Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 If you're interested in someone but have no idea on how to approach them, break the ice, you could talk to someone who knows them and ask to be introduced. 2
Author Tonic Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 Im just surprised how many rude and unfriendly people there are. For example, when I go to the shops and head out of the checkout, I will always smile and ask how they are an how there day has been but would be lucky to get a friendly response back. Wasn't sure where I was going wrong
Xiomn Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 "Hey there... abortion, am I right?" "Whoa, getting ahead of yourself aren't you? First you need to get me pregnant, fancy coming back to my place?"
ZA Dater Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Good topic, I think some people are more approachable than others. I have to date never really worked out how to approach people, when I do, I usually read the situation completely wrong and then talk about something which doesn't really fit the environment or situation.
Empyrea Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Good topic, I think some people are more approachable than others. This is so true! I know a lot of people like that. When I go out alone, no one ever talks to me! Whether I'm walking my dog, or sitting alone at a cafe, alone at some event.. never. I don't know why (resting bitch face?), but I'm not approachable at all. And then there are these people who can't go anywhere without having someone start up a conversation or ask for directions, anything. Men, women, children, everyone is drawn to them. And if I go out with this person, I get to experience that - strangers talking to us out of the blue. And I get it, they just have this warm inviting aura about them. Now I'm not saying I would enjoy that in every scenario, sometimes I just want to be alone or read my book, but it does make me wonder how I will ever meet anyone if I'm so unapproachable.
ZA Dater Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 This is so true! I know a lot of people like that. When I go out alone, no one ever talks to me! Whether I'm walking my dog, or sitting alone at a cafe, alone at some event.. never. I don't know why (resting bitch face?), but I'm not approachable at all. And then there are these people who can't go anywhere without having someone start up a conversation or ask for directions, anything. Men, women, children, everyone is drawn to them. And if I go out with this person, I get to experience that - strangers talking to us out of the blue. And I get it, they just have this warm inviting aura about them. Now I'm not saying I would enjoy that in every scenario, sometimes I just want to be alone or read my book, but it does make me wonder how I will ever meet anyone if I'm so unapproachable. I was told I am totally unapproachable, my short shaved hair style I was told makes me look aggressive which is far from the truth. Like you it would be nice for people to pay me some attention sometimes...
truth_seeker Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 This is so true! I know a lot of people like that. When I go out alone, no one ever talks to me! Whether I'm walking my dog, or sitting alone at a cafe, alone at some event.. never. I don't know why (resting bitch face?), but I'm not approachable at all. And then there are these people who can't go anywhere without having someone start up a conversation or ask for directions, anything. Men, women, children, everyone is drawn to them. And if I go out with this person, I get to experience that - strangers talking to us out of the blue. And I get it, they just have this warm inviting aura about them. Now I'm not saying I would enjoy that in every scenario, sometimes I just want to be alone or read my book, but it does make me wonder how I will ever meet anyone if I'm so unapproachable. I'll say either you're too good looking or look like a b-tch.
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