LooperDooper Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 I have been away from the dating scene for a good 8-9 months as I wanted some time for myself to feel confident and ready again. Naturally I've been ready for awhile but I'm not looking, if somebody comes along good if they don't I'm very happy at the moment so I'd rather be patient for someone special. Here's my dilemma... Lately, like in the past 3 weeks especially, but always there has been a huge amount of infidelity around me. Like I am starting to lose hope that people aren't faithful anymore. My 2 best friends have cheated on their girlfriends in the past 2 months (one of them more than once), a girl (a friend) with a boyfriend tried to get me to kiss her a couple of weeks ago, my ex cheated on me, went to a bar with some classmates and several people in relationships were extremely flirty with randoms they'd just met, I had this friend where we had a FWB strictly going on but one day I was with her she told me she had just broken up with some guy (she never told me she had a bf or if she cheated on him with me), I have a friend whom I hang out with on occasion (nothing has happened but I think she was into me but I was in a relationship back then) and now she's in a relationship but she literally never mentions it or even answers her phone to him when she's with me. I mean it's their life I don't really care but every time I see it, the less I trust people. I don't have trust issues but let's just say in my last relationship I smelled something was funny and was tagged along for awhile until it ended so naturally I am very protective and not the easiest guy to fall for somebody. I'm probably the most faithful person that I know, not even drunk would I do anything if I was in a committed relationship, but now I feel like even people I'd never expect are just unfaithful. Is the entire world like this? Or am I just coincidentally in a circle of deceit?
ravfour4 Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 It's not the whole world, but it certainly is a lot of people. I've been surrounded by it as well. Many people are bad communicators and fear being alone, instead of ending a relationship, they cheat. I had the person I trusted most in this world lie straight to my face and tag me along for months, despite my gut feel I enabled it.
lilmissjava Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 People are now more accessible. Digitally that is. There is no empirical evidence that suggests that the entire world is not trustworthy, but we do have the innate ability to become attracted to the shiny and new, both men and women. The trick is how you deal with that attraction, and in your case, those around you act upon it. Although your query seems to have some merit based on your social surroundings, I would think that it has something to do with the age grouping (early mid-20's) and people just generally finding themselves as they mature. Now, I am not provoking any other thought here other than IMO, it has a lot to do with social media and OLD sites like Tinder that prompt people to cheat on their SO's, because of the fact that people are more accessible through the Internet. It is almost like an addiction, or some sort of game for some, to see who and how quickly they can hookup. Rinse and repeat. Trustworthiness is rare these days. But a lot us still do have a moral compass.
DoesntGetIt Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 My and my ex-wife were faithful for 14 years (separated due to lack of feelings, nothing more, we still get along really well and talk all the time). I've never cheated, don't see the point. It just complicates everything for a few moments of pleasure. There are people out there who will be faithful all the time, and will be direct if they aren't feeling the relationship anymore (instead of cheating waiting for it to end). Just look for the good ones. Forget the coolness, hotness, suaveness, just look for a truly good, honest person.
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