mrx23 Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 I'm a guy in the age range 23-26. I've met this girl recently and we went out on 3 dates so far (over the course of 2-2.5 months due to both of us being master students with a lot of course work) Please note: the time difference between the first 2 dates was 2 MONTHS! but between the 2nd and 3rd date 2 weeks (and probably there's gonna be a 4th date this week or the next). The thing is the dates were really fun and i really liked that she has similar interests as mine which actually made me like her more. I would really like to (and hope to) go into something more serious with her (i have no bad intentions at all). In summary: she's everything i could ask for in a girl! Before proceeding with the question, it is important to justify myself: Due to previous bad experiences with a few other crushes/dates (where those girls ended up dating guys 10 years older than them) (I'm not saying this is bad! I respect their decision), it kind of pushed me to protect myself more from heartbreaks, go on a slower pace in dating, and focus more on my studies (believing that i can't actually stand a chance against guys who have already managed to start their career life since i am still on that path i.e. these guys are in their 30s) . I've managed to give all my time to focus on my career path and to try and achieve success in order to get over this (while of course at the same time loving what im doing). Now, as i already mentioned, the dates were really fun (basically dinner/drinks) but so far i havent managed to kiss her on the lips! (i did hug her, kiss her on the cheek (during hellos and goodbyes), i was playful like holding her in the air & spinning her اand even complimented her but there were no hands holding and no kisses on the lips). I don't know why i didn't even try to kiss her! It is important to note that during our third date as we were discussing our views on relationships and love in general, i found out she once dated a guy who was almost 10 years older than her. Some friends said you need to escalate, be more of a badass. But i can't seem to understand how you escalate , and 2nd, it's in my nature to be a good person and treat people well. I can't stand being an ******* no matter what. if i want someone to like me, i want them to like me for me (not for someone i pretend to be!). What are your recommendations? What do you think i should do? Is there any chance to fix this mess? Im afraid of being friendzoned and if so, is there a way to avoid that? I have good self-esteem, i know what i want out of life and i am a fully determined person when it comes to my future and career! But i guess all of this was at the cost of my love life...
Rydo Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 You already know what you should do. 4 dates without a kiss is just weird. I always kiss on date 1 because if it socks then saves me from date 2. 1
preraph Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 Well, if you're waiting for her to do the lip kiss, you may never get there, so next time you drop her off for the evening, just lean in and kiss her on the mouth. As long as she seems responsive, make it nice and long. If she seems lukewarm, keep it shorter and no tongue.
Cali434 Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 So funny because I went out with a guy 3 times and he didn't kiss me and I just made a post about it. I think we girls start to think you are not interested if you don't kiss! I actually thought back to the date and think about what I did wrong. 1
jibbyjacobs Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 Be confident in your attraction to her and go for the kiss when your guys are at a close and relaxed proximity. She will respect you more and generally be more attracted after you take this confident step. Be confident, be comfortable, be a man
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