Are there women out there that don't enjoy sex but still do it.

[SwordofFlame]

As in they do not enjoy it and only do it to make their significant other happy. If so, what are the tell tale signs? I suppose you can ask, but that might make for an awkward conversation.

[sly_fly1]

Yes, there called rape victims

[preraph]

Yes. They're called married women. Usually why they're tired of it is because their mate wants it more often than they do or don't wait until the woman is in the mood and ready, so they just tolerate it to keep from rocking the boat, which only causes deeper resentment. A lot of men just connect physically and want to do it all the time, perfectly happy that way. Women are mostly not like that and need to have their emotions in a good place and be rested and feel loved AND still be attracted after doing it 82 times with the same person.

[Els]

Honestly, there's a lot of grey area in this one. I think almost every considerate person in a LTR has had a few occasions when they didn't particularly feel like having sex at this specific moment, but went with it because they wanted to make their partner happy, and perhaps eventually got into it in the process (if their partner is good). I don't see the need to ferret 'tell tale signs' out in that case. As long as you aren't coercing or giving ultimatums or anything really *******-ish that would make them feel pressured to do so, if they choose to do it it's because they wanted to for whatever reason, and that isn't necessarily a bad thing.

 

On the other hand if this was the case ALL the time (or even the majority of the time) then I'm sure you two could have a mature conversation about it instead of 'looking for tell-tale signs'.