malik_yoba Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I met this girl at work. We became good friends but, there was obvious sexual tension / flirting. We got to know each other extremely well (over a period of 3-4 months). We talked all day and night (phone / text). There are about 2,000 messages between us on my phone. We got so close people at work assumed we were seeing each other. So I asked her out. Twice. The first time, she said yes but, our work schedule messed things up. The second time, she said yes again, but then quickly said she was busy when i tried to hammer down the exact time and date. Said she was busy the whole weekend. Since she didn't give another day or time, I assumed she was blowing me off. I didn't take it too well. I basically ignored her for the next couple of weeks. At first, I was ignoring her because i was hurt. Now I can at least talk to her as i've started to move on but, i dont pay her anywhere near as much attention as i did months ago. Now she's being weird. It's been a month since this happened. At work, I'm cordial but, I keep our convos short. She tries to have convos with me every day and tries to extend them, always keeping the convo going when i'm turning to leave. She smiles and stares. She stands really close to me whenever we're around each other. Laugh at things i say or runs her hands through her hair. She says uncomfortable things that are weird now seeing that we don't talk anymore, like how much im there for her or how i'm always saving her. It's not what she says but, how she says it. I work with a lot of women, so the way she acts vs the other girls sort of stands out. She'll sometimes show up in my department to ask me silly questions. She likes everything I put up on Facebook and Instagram. EVERYTHING. She's doing all of this eventhough I've basically shut down towards her. Yesterday, she sent a text asking me to do something she couldve easily gotten the girls we work with to do. EASILY. This is the first we've talked in about a month outside of work. What gives? Is she playing games? tl;dr: I asked out a girl at work after getting to know her for 3-4 months. She rejected me. After I cut off contact and stopped talking to her, she starts to act flirty and weird toward me.
smackie9 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 She's an attention whore (co ck tease)...you don't need that crap, delete her off your social media and block her access. 2
oregon0011 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 She's an attention whore (co ck tease)...you don't need that crap, delete her off your social media and block her access. She is a woman... 1
Zippy2000 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 She's an attention whore (co ck tease)...you don't need that crap, delete her off your social media and block her access. A bit harsh Smackie!!!!!! I ve read some of your posts and there`s no way but the Smakie way. Its like block everyone. No second chances. To Malik. Id maybe give her a chance. If you block someone or delete them. Not only is it rude but the other person may have no idea why you removed them. Remember you work with this person so any blocking or deletion will show resentment and ill will. Id maybe talk to her and see where it goes. Maybe she realised she missed you when you stopped talking to her. Give her a bit of time. Everyone does. 1
RedRobin Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Agree with the above. If a guy flirts with me... And I flirt back... And this happens a few times without him asking me out or responding to my invitations to do things that are not work or group related, the flirting on my end stops... And he's back to being gender neutral lab guy like all the rest of my male colleagues. So it goes with her. Back to being a business colleague. No more personal stuff or chit chat.
smackie9 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I disagree....you don't give people chances when they are playing games with you. She was asked out twice, with the same result.....that was her second chance. 4
oregon0011 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I disagree....you don't give people chances when they are playing games with you. She was asked out twice, with the same result.....that was her second chance. I wonder how many of us would not be here if all men listened to this advice.. 2
Wewon Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 She's an attention whore (co ck tease)...you don't need that crap, delete her off your social media and block her access. Agreed, if you're playing her game you're more likely to resent her. Maintain your distance and don't get sucked in.
Author malik_yoba Posted November 22, 2015 Author Posted November 22, 2015 I disagree....you don't give people chances when they are playing games with you. She was asked out twice, with the same result.....that was her second chance. That was my mentality too. If she was interested in me, she wouldn't have said she was busy. Not without offering another day or time. So I backed off like I thought she wanted me to. Usually when girls reject me, it becomes obviously that I had no chance in hell with them, because they become so completely distant to let me know they have NO romantic feelings for me. I've never had one go back to flirting with me.
Robratory Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 tl;dr: I asked out a girl at work after getting to know her for 3-4 months. She rejected me. After I cut off contact and stopped talking to her, she starts to act flirty and weird toward me. Ask her straight up, "Is there something wrong with you, girl? I mean, I ask you out, and you blow me off, and when I mind my own business, you start acting flirty. What is it? You want on or you want off?" Seriously. Confront people on their bull****. 2
WomenWubber Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 She sounds kind of repulsive, like she's trying too hard. But maybe that's just me.
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