Jonson Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Just broke up with girfriend after 2 years. We dated for 2 years was very loving relationship. Good for the most part. We love each alot . But she is under stress money wise, and has just taken on 2 new jobs to make ends meet. I think she takes it out on me sometimes. Im gutted, I love her so much and wanna marry her one day. she was acting distant this week. So I asked her today what was wrong, she said she was not happy, then said shes not happy with herself. We talked for awhile then hugged and she started crying really emotionally, I cried a bit to. She hugged me very tight and was nice. She said I not hugged in a long time. After we cuddled on the couch and we hugged close some more. Then I drove her to work, she said take care of your self. Then she sends me a text saying you do reliase we wont see each other after today with a question mark? and she said I dont mind staying in touch. I asked her was she seeing someone she said no. Should I stay in touch or text her? I think shes mad at me over something that I did not do. I really am I love with this girl, and hate the thought of not being with her.
neowulf Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Just broke up with girfriend after 2 years. We dated for 2 years was very loving relationship. Good for the most part. We love each alot . But she is under stress money wise, and has just taken on 2 new jobs to make ends meet. I think she takes it out on me sometimes. Im gutted, I love her so much and wanna marry her one day. she was acting distant this week. So I asked her today what was wrong, she said she was not happy, then said shes not happy with herself. We talked for awhile then hugged and she started crying really emotionally, I cried a bit to. She hugged me very tight and was nice. She said I not hugged in a long time. After we cuddled on the couch and we hugged close some more. Then I drove her to work, she said take care of your self. Then she sends me a text saying you do reliase we wont see each other after today with a question mark? and she said I dont mind staying in touch. I asked her was she seeing someone she said no. Should I stay in touch or text her? I think shes mad at me over something that I did not do. I really am I love with this girl, and hate the thought of not being with her. You both need to work on your communication. It sounds like she's having some doubts about the breakup. Doubt often means the person isn't "done" so much as at the end of their rope. Give her about a week or two, no contact. Let the breakup sink in for her. Then, contact her and talk it out. Try to communicate that you really do love her and need to try and understand why things didn't work out. Listen to what she tells you. The comment about "We haven't hugged like this in a long time" could be a huge clue.
lilmissjava Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Best thing to do is give her the time to deal with everything. Don't contact her, you both need the time apart to gain some perspective on your situation. People don't break up out of the blue, there is always a reason and sometimes those reasons aren't so obvious. Give her time and let her reach out to you when the time is right. That time isn't now, neither of you are in a good emotional state and things might just get worse. 1
Author Jonson Posted November 23, 2015 Author Posted November 23, 2015 Thanks for the replys, I dont really think she wants to let go.She seemed like all she wanted to do sunday was cuddle and be close to me. It was really nice. She said once in the past she did not wanna see me, but then begged me for me to come and see her. I dont think she would say, I dont mind staying touch if she did not wanna see me again. I wont contact her for awhile.
Ic1 Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 She said once in the past she did not wanna see me, but then begged me for me to come and see her. This deserves a lot of thought. She left you, then made you come to her again. This episode could play similarly. If so, it's a bad trend that means she tests you every once in awhile. Not whether or not you care, but whether or not she can control you to some extent. 2
Author Jonson Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 The other thing she went out for dinner for a work do, friday night. She was leaving her job for another better one. She said she had great time and got some nice gifts from the staff. She did not text me, and when I text her to ask was she ok late, she said fine. She was on whatsaap over an hour? then the next morning she was on it early am, when I came downstairs and asked who she was talking to she said her girlfriend? and was hiding her phone outa site? Does this seem fishy?
smackie9 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 The other thing she went out for dinner for a work do, friday night. She was leaving her job for another better one. She said she had great time and got some nice gifts from the staff. She did not text me, and when I text her to ask was she ok late, she said fine. She was on whatsaap over an hour? then the next morning she was on it early am, when I came downstairs and asked who she was talking to she said her girlfriend? and was hiding her phone outa site? Does this seem fishy? Yes. When they do a 180, it usually means someone is pulling them in the other direction.
mystikmind2005 Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 I have seen this a few times in my life. Sometimes when stars die, they go out with a bang! Same thing sometimes happens when a woman finally accepts the relationship is over. Interestingly, on two of the occasions this happened to me, the relationship lingered on for a while before finally 'officially' ending, but i always knew the exact moment it had already ended before that.
Author Jonson Posted November 24, 2015 Author Posted November 24, 2015 Im gonna give her sometime, I really dont think theres anyone else. I think Im just paranoid. I am hurting of the thought shes gone though. Not sure why she would say in the text lets stay in touch?
neowulf Posted November 24, 2015 Posted November 24, 2015 Im gonna give her sometime, I really dont think theres anyone else. I think Im just paranoid. I am hurting of the thought shes gone though. Not sure why she would say in the text lets stay in touch? Saying "Lets stay in touch" is a trick people use to try and soften the blow. Honestly, it's bad for all involved. You both need proper space to get your head straight. Don't "keep in touch". Go no contact.
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