She already lied a lot to me, and cheated on me at least once

[suru]

Hello,

Sorry for the bad English!

 

 

She lives far away, but we spent "good" 10 month together physcially what happened is that I had to come home for a few weeks and we had plans that I will go to her country again, for another 3-4 months.

 

Then she started to freak out. I'm going to see my friend I don't bring my phone with me, she writes to my friend on facebook that where I am. When I checked my phone at home, its like 10 calls. Left the house for 3 hrs.

 

I told her I hate facebook. I told her for a year. From half year point I had a fake facebook account, but in August I decided to delete the fake account that I had 8 friends, it was her, 2 friends, and rest is family. For sure I delete it because I have something to hide. I probably already have someone. Not that I hate smartphones, social media and all those ****... And I told her about that a lot. I mush have someone!

 

I was sick one day and my good friend had a "farewell party" before he moves abroad for at least year. I was so sick that I cancelled on him. Then changed my mind and said, okay but I can only stay for 2hrs. Then I'm coming home, talking to my GF(we werent ex that time), then I literally pass out at 2am after talked to her for an hour. She said she knows that I went out drinking, hope I had good time with a girl...

 

While she kept talking to a guy that she kissed when we werent together, and met up with him while lived in my house in europe and lied about it. But of course I am the liar and the cheater. I must have someone.

 

Then she started to ****ing break up with me. She broke up with me 3 times in 2 weeks. "I don't go where this is going!!! I have enough of this, lets end it!". Next day: "Ohh I was just mad". First 2 times I was freaked out. But when she did that the 3rd time I was laughing for like 3 mins and hung up the phone on her, so next day she calls me and says "ohh i was just joking". No she wasn't she was mad and since I laughed at her she tried to get on that wave. I said "okay, lets just keep it this way. I don't love you anymore"- which wasnt true. I was very mad at her, I loved her tho. She made up that story that I must have someone... Not that she was a crazy bitch and ****ing choked me out! No. It was someone else. She doesnt even admit she broke up with me 3 times in 2 weeks.

 

So it happened like early September, around 10th. We talked once a week or something. Probably twice on the phone. She calls me one day and says she will come to Europe, lets meet up, I say okay, why not?

 

 

 

The important part: she already bought her plane ticket, we say we meet for sure. Few days went by.

We start talking like how many ppl we had been with. I say 0. She says 2. In 4-5 weeks. (but the problem is that time I jerked off. Sometimes to porn. I see.) I obviously freaked out, I didnt react to it well. I was yelling at her- I know i did it wrong. This is October 23, friday.

 

She said she was very upset she wanted to move on. But we talked. We didnt cancel the plans that we will see each other again, and have a relationship talk, and lets see if we can work.

 

 

 

But on October 24 she says she goes out with her friends, but we could set up a phone date, and that she will write me a long message later. She disappeared. As later I caught her lying, she went to a guy's house she already ****ed with while talking to me,when we didnt cancel plans and we have talks about relationship.

 

She explain it like that we were on bad terms. She says it was only grey, not black bc we werent together... I think its bull**** bc she can **** whoever she wants but then dont have relationship talks with me, and dont set up that she will be with me for at least a months. But she tricks me it was okay... She is very good in it. She can make you feel so bad about urself that you will just accept whatever she does because thats your fault anyways, if you are different it never happens. That I was bad with her so she felt insecure and went to the "nice guys" house and ****ed him.... Next day we talk like nothing happened... I caught her 2 weeks later! She didnt say a word only when I caught her. First she tried lying about it. So she tricked me to accept it... Made me feel bad about myself, and that I yelled at her, and said she is a slut. Ok.

 

But then I find this from oct 24:

 

[19:18:12] A: ur still dating that guy tho?

[19:18:16] A: like still meting w him?

[19:31:43] A: adn like if we ever met

[19:31:49] A: would you cut connections w him?

[19:31:51] A: like cutting

[19:31:55] A: not like you cut w robert

[20:33:52] A: its not obligatory

[20:33:54] A: like you choose

[20:33:57] A: and based on that

[20:33:58] A: i choose

[23:27:32] K : I have a reply... Want to work on it and will write when I'm done... Prob tonight or tmrw morning ((((editors note: she already knew this point that what will happen that night)))

 

[0:58:19] A: its cold on the bycicle

[0:59:20] A: you can write it simple

 

[2:32:40] K: Idk what that means right now ... Honestly I'm so confused by u

[2:33:01] K: I need the night to think

[2:33:16] K: Because I don't know what reality u are I

[2:33:17] K : In

[2:33:20] K : Or me

[2:34:04] A: what do oyu mean

[2:34:29] A: … "I need the night to think"

[2:33:16] K : Because I don't know what reality u are I

[2:33:17] K : In

[2:33:20] K : Or me

[2:35:25] K : I msg u later

[2:35:30] K: On my way to meet friends

[2:36:05] K : Honestly need to sit and write my thoughts to u

[2:36:14] K : Because I don't think u understand

[2:36:16] K : Still

 

So this point she was on her way to that guys house. When she thought about whether she can cut connections. Later she claimed we didnt have this talk that time.

 

She says we never had the talk about not seeing other ppl. Thats why she did it.

 

 

What do you think about this action? She already lied a lot to me, and cheated on me at least once that I know.

 

 

Thanks,

 

NB

Edited November 22, 2015 by suru

[big dog]

If you haven't already... then get rid of her. Too much isn't right here.