Candy Cane Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 So I have become resolved to not contact my ex. I don't answer his calls nor do I return them. I guess he caught on to what I was doing so he blocked his telephone number so that I would answer. He kind of tricked me. He didn't say anything important. Just made up stuff to talk about. I think he cares about me but not enough to love me. That's why we broke up. So...what do I do now? If he's making all this effort, should I be talking to him? Any suggestions?
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 If he tricks you again, ask him point blank if he loves you the way you need to be loved and if he can give you the relationship that you want on your terms - if he says no, then ask him to stop calling and hang up on him. If he says yes, then tell him you need some time to think about that and hang up. Give yourself a good couple of weeks with absolutely 'no contact' to have some unbiased, uninterrupted time to think. Then really, really think about what it is you want - and whether or not you are really going to be able to have that with him, or if you'll find yourself settling for less just to experience minimal happiness.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia If he tricks you again, ask him point blank if he loves you the way you need to be loved and if he can give you the relationship that you want on your terms - if he says no, then ask him to stop calling and hang up on him. If he says yes, then tell him you need some time to think about that and hang up. Give yourself a good couple of weeks with absolutely 'no contact' to have some unbiased, uninterrupted time to think. Then really, really think about what it is you want - and whether or not you are really going to be able to have that with him, or if you'll find yourself settling for less just to experience minimal happiness. I love the advice. That will work for me, if he'd call!!!! LOL It's basically what I told my bf when we broke up. He couldn't promise me that he would be able to make time for me. He loved me the way I needed (note the past tense), but it's hard to feel it when you only see the person once every couple of weeks, and then that person goes away to work for several months without returning like he said he would. sigh. If I called him, he might turn the tables and give me HIS terms....such as "you need to be more patient, and understand that my job is important and is 24/7. Once I have my finances in order, and the money starts coming in, then I will have more time for you..."
Author Candy Cane Posted May 27, 2005 Author Posted May 27, 2005 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia If he tricks you again, ask him point blank if he loves you the way you need to be loved and if he can give you the relationship that you want on your terms - if he says no, then ask him to stop calling and hang up on him. If he says yes, then tell him you need some time to think about that and hang up. Give yourself a good couple of weeks with absolutely 'no contact' to have some unbiased, uninterrupted time to think. Then really, really think about what it is you want - and whether or not you are really going to be able to have that with him, or if you'll find yourself settling for less just to experience minimal happiness. Thanks. That's very good advice. I appreciate it.
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