TheArtist Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Things like Tinder and Hinge seem to be really popular at the moment, and although I've not experienced them myself, I'm thinking I might try them in the future. Does anyone have any success stories on getting a relationship to blossom through them or are they really just the hook-up apps that they seem to be? What are your experiences? 1
mike_89 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 If you're looking for a relationship I don't think they are the places to go to. All guys I know that are using Tinder aren't looking for something serious, and the same is true of most girls I dated through Tinder (only one told me explicitly she was looking for a relationship). My personal opinion is that dating apps are great and easy ways to meet people but as most of the people using them are just using them for more casual ends, you're best off not being on there if you're interested in something more serious. Might be different in other age groups though, the above seems to be true for the 20-30 range. 1
mariekatie Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 Things like Tinder and Hinge seem to be really popular at the moment, and although I've not experienced them myself, I'm thinking I might try them in the future. Does anyone have any success stories on getting a relationship to blossom through them or are they really just the hook-up apps that they seem to be? What are your experiences? From my own experience only, Tinder is mostly used for "hook-ups". Okcupid was filled with people writing long messages, mostly pick up lines etc. Not my type. POF was average. What works best for me is Skout, i actually met quite a few good friends and one of my ex & current bf is from there. Good luck! 1
Male Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 Location has everything to do with how a dating app works out. If you dont live in or near a large population, you obviously will have few people to choose from. I live in Ohio, and 90% of the women on there write on their profile "Not looking for a hookup...looking for long-term". I think many women in this area are very very behind the times as far as dating, technology, and having freedom to actually enjoy a sex life outside of a relationship. Even if some of them do want a hookup, they sure arent open about it, like many women are in large metro areas. I have also noticed that just about every woman that is 37 yrs old on Tinder is some sort of spam-bot. They match with you, say hello, and then send you an url to some sex page. They are always hot enough to be a Victoria's Secret underwear model which is so out of touch with reality for these parts its not even funny. I've also tried OKCupid. I set my search criteria for women between the age of 35-48 within a 25 mile radius and it came back with 11 women. As I said...location, and not living in the bible belt where women are stuck in the 80's helps tremendously. 1
Author TheArtist Posted November 23, 2015 Author Posted November 23, 2015 This is really informative, thank you for all your answers so far. I'm actually in my mid-30s so I'm wondering if women are past the hook-up stage by then. I'm sure there is a ton of spam on there though.
compulsivedancer Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 I met my boyfriend on Tinder the second day I was on it (we have been together 8 months now). He was in my first batch of swipes (not surprising, since I live an hour from a city, and he was one of the few closer than that). I tried tinder because it was so easy to set up. My boyfriend said he started to set up a regular dating profile on OKC, I think, then realized that most profiles were primarily photos anyway. He figured if he was just doing a photo, might as well be tinder. I think the problem girls get into is giving themselves too many options at a time. If you take the time to properly vet your options instead of writing everyone off immediately, you won't screen out all the nice guys who say "hi" as their first post. 1
Male Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 I think the problem girls get into is giving themselves too many options at a time. If you take the time to properly vet your options instead of writing everyone off immediately, you won't screen out all the nice guys who say "hi" as their first post. Exactly what I've been preaching for years, but since I'm a guy, women dont want to hear it from me. A lot of women do not know how to handle the situation of having so many options via social media, dating sites and dating apps. They become drunk on all the attention, instead of actually focusing on finding 1 guy to date. They also become experts at how a guy should approach them. Just saying "hello how are you" isnt good enough for most women, they will bash you for not writing more. But if you met a woman in public, are you going to say something like "hello how are you"...or are you going to give her a 3-4 sentence sales pitch trying to market yourself to her? Why would I need to say much more than a general greeting when online? If she's not even interested why do I have to go above and beyond before hand? Its as if these women demand that a guy exerts X amount of effort or else they wont talk to him at all. Its so completely selfish and one-sided.
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