sportygirl Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Morning :-) Just looking for a little bit of advice. Had a lovely relationship with a man for a year. However he decided to prioritise other things in life and end our time together. Naturally I've been devastated as I loved him. Anyway... I've maintained some dignity in the past few weeks since the breakup. However, naturally I've been bending mums ear on the fact that I'm pretty cut up about it all, and it turns out in her over - caring she this wek (6 weeks after breakup) sent him a text to say all she thinks about him and how it's crushed me. I'm trying to work out how best to redeem all this. Last thing I wanted was for him to know I'm a total mess... and on top of that to come from my mum?!?! (I'm 30). Do I message him to say all is okay and she just acted in haste? Pretend I don't know?! Problem is this guy is also very depressed at the moment, and I'd like him to reach back out to me one day.... so I'd like to build up the image of me a little from where mum left off (!!), and also not have him feel like a totally awful human being! Or is everything better left unsaid without me digging a deeper hole for myself?
ManyDissapoint Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 If he's a rational and normal person your mom's contact won't affect things much. However you should tell her that it's not her place to contact him. The next part is up to your judgement on the situation. You can send him an email saying that you did not put your mom up to it, and insist on respecting his space, and he knows how to get in touch with you if he desires to do so.
Amelie1980 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Just leave it. Who cares what he thinks of you now, he didnt want to be with you anyway. when i had a bad break up my mom threatened to contact my ex too and asked for his address and his parents address. I had to lock my phone so she couldn't find his number and she even went through the white pages trying to find the addresses. So not only did i have to deal with my feelings over the break up i had to deal with my mom making things worse. I said to her if she contacted them it would make her look crazy and me too. She would be giving him a massive ego boost knowing how cut up i was. I had huge fights with her over this. I would tell her to butt out of my life and make it known she has made things worse. In terms of your ex. He is your ex now. There is nothing to fix. Who cares what he thinks now.
Amelie1980 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/556904-loves-me-wants-future-will-call-year If it's this guy...definitely dont bother saying anything. 1
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