MissLY Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Met a guy online 4 days ago. He immediately took an interest in me and asked me out for brunch on Sunday. The next day he invited me to a party that a friend of his was having. I ended up going and had a great time. He asked me "so when are we having a real date?" And I told him that I cleared out my Sunday for brunch and was looking forward to it. He said the same. At the end of the night, he texted me "I really enjoyed your company tonight. Looking forward to brunch on Sunday." I responded with "I had a great time as well. Talk to you soon." On Friday he asked me if I got home safe the evening before. I said yes and then he asked me what I was doing for the weekend. I told him I was working and had family visiting. He told me that he was meeting friends at the beach. That was the end of our convo. No mention of brunch. It is now Saturday Night. Should I text him Sunday morning to see if we're still on for brunch? He just seemed so interested in making it happen that it feels weird he didn't follow up to confirm it himself.
thecrucible Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Just text and ask what time he can come round for brunch. I assume that because you were the one who made first mention of the brunch, he assumed you were organising it. I mean I would if I were him.
Qboro90 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 You should've texted him Saturday to find out what the details were for brunch tomorrow but even so you can text him Sunday before 11/12 and say "we still brunching today or what? Never heard from you about it... Lemme know"
d0nnivain Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Especially with an OLD date I would definitely touch base before heading out. I confirm all meetings, business, family, friends & dates. It's not being desperate or clingy. It's just common sense before you deal with traffic etc. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I am going to echo the others and say you should contact him to confirm the time and place. It's logical. Just a quick and direct message: "Good morning! What time should I be ready for brunch today? see you soon!"
phineas Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I've been seeing a general theme on these boards lately. Women too lazy to send a guy a text & expecting him to do all the heavy lifting. They just sit there and wait for the man to contact them & wonder if he isn't interested.
FeelingFireworks Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I've been seeing a general theme on these boards lately. Women too lazy to send a guy a text & expecting him to do all the heavy lifting. They just sit there and wait for the man to contact them & wonder if he isn't interested. Take a chill pill. Where in her post does it sound like she's expecting him to do any 'heavy lifting'? You sound quite bitter. I'm going to go against all the other posters. I wouldn't text him. This isn't to be controversial, but because HE asked YOU on a date and you already communicated positively that you were clearing your Sunday for him. You provided him with he clearest positive signal when he took it on himself to invite you out, so he should do the respectful thing and follow up that invite with a plan. Let him show some leadership as all these small things can set the tone for things to come. What I do in such a situation is that I keep a plan B. If the guy doesn't follow up, I do my plan B. If he calls at the last minute I politely explain I've made alternate plans, offer a reschedule and still do my plan B. What I don't do is chase him up (he knows about the brunch) or wait around. I want to measure his integrity & interest level at the same time as keeping personal frustrations to a minimum. In my experience, doing this makes the guys who do like you respect your time going forwards, and the men who are only lukewarm or want you to pursue them go away. Always try to make plans at the time he asks you if possible. And also for next time don't say you've cleared your whole day. I know you're being nice and You like him, but it can translate as too available and eager which might work against you. 2
phineas Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Holy wall of text batman. And lol at the " bitter" . Who needs to take a chill pill now? Take a chill pill. Where in her post does it sound like she's expecting him to do any 'heavy lifting'? You sound quite bitter. I'm going to go against all the other posters. I wouldn't text him. This isn't to be controversial, but because HE asked YOU on a date and you already communicated positively that you were clearing your Sunday for him. You provided him with he clearest positive signal when he took it on himself to invite you out, so he should do the respectful thing and follow up that invite with a plan. Let him show some leadership as all these small things can set the tone for things to come. What I do in such a situation is that I keep a plan B. If the guy doesn't follow up, I do my plan B. If he calls at the last minute I politely explain I've made alternate plans, offer a reschedule and still do my plan B. What I don't do is chase him up (he knows about the brunch) or wait around. I want to measure his integrity & interest level at the same time as keeping personal frustrations to a minimum. In my experience, doing this makes the guys who do like you respect your time going forwards, and the men who are only lukewarm or want you to pursue them go away. Always try to make plans at the time he asks you if possible. And also for next time don't say you've cleared your whole day. I know you're being nice and You like him, but it can translate as too available and eager which might work against you.
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