mortensorchid Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I understand the feelings of rebound - that you were with someone for a while, whatever happened happened and then it ends, and you want to show the other person that you can get someone again, you're looking for a quick fix to get over the other person, you're not wanting to deal with the emotions / healing having to do with the previous, you're so eager to have someone in your life you will jump into the next thing very quickly. Of this I understand. I also realize that the person is not thinking rationally because of the previous hurt. I am just angry that I seem to be that person that men rebound from. In my lifetime, I have had four serious relationships (as an adult, not counting high school because that's different), as well as several short ones. In EVERY CASE save for once or twice, I (the woman) has been dumped by the men. All they ever do is complain about how women do not appreciate them, they want this or that which they are not giving them, women are crazy, etc. I am not one of them, I am a reasonable, level headed person who does not bring dramatics to the situation, enjoy having a good time, and try to be the best person possible for them. All of them have dumped me, then rebounded to another woman barely 6 months later. All of the others have done the same. Of the four serious ones mentioned, two of the four married the other woman barely a year later, one remained (and probably will remain) single since, and one moved in with the woman. Of those three, two of them are now divorced and the one was dumped by the women - who have cheated on them, used them, and ripped their lives apart. They said they didn't mean to hurt me when they came back and said that they made mistakes. Do I believe that? I don't know. I just wonder why it is that people operate like this and not let logic take over from their animal hormones. Just wondering what others think.
smackie9 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Stop being the best GF you can be and put your expectations first. This usually flushes out the garbage quickly, and you find the one who respects the independent person that you are. 1
kendahke Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Water seeks its own level, sweetie. Theirs was way below yours.
Maggie4 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 these men hurt themselves, and the rebound women that they used. The guy that got married quickly, at some point soon after, probably realized his mistake. This is reckless behaviour, poor decision making, low EQ, willingness to use others, none of which you need in your life.
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