HansonGirl Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 a guy i know will leave whenever i come around. if i come and join the table, and i'll start making some small talk with him, he'll eventually start putting his stuff away and will exit. he does it every single time. why does he do that? how would you feel if someone did that to you? i'm really angry at him for doing this. I think i make him uncomfortable for some reason. i tried to be nice to him last time, but you could tell how he couldn't wait to leave, he didn't even bother trying to talk to me. It was like pulling teeth to talk to him. PS oops i posted this in the "dating" section. I wasn't paying attention to what forum i was in. sorry!
Ic1 Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 a guy i know will leave whenever i come around. if i come and join the table, and i'll start making some small talk with him, he'll eventually start putting his stuff away and will exit. he does it every single time. why does he do that? Simple: He doesn't want to talk to you. Why do you keep approaching him? 1
Author HansonGirl Posted November 21, 2015 Author Posted November 21, 2015 Simple: He doesn't want to talk to you. Why do you keep approaching him? well some of the time i am not exactly approaching him - i have to be there anyways, so i have no choice. for example i sat across from him one time. so instead of just staying there, he moved over to a table far away. ugh. and WHY does he do that?
Ic1 Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 well some of the time i am not exactly approaching him - i have to be there anyways, so i have no choice. for example i sat across from him one time. so instead of just staying there, he moved over to a table far away. ugh. and WHY does he do that? Once again: Why is because he doesn't want to talk to you. Where is this table scene staged? The cafeteria?
Qboro90 Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 Just out of curiosity because I've seen you post a bunch of different threads surrounding dating or guys behavior questions. Are you seeing one or two particular guys who are making you think about these things? Or do you interact with a bunch of different men (not saying in a promiscuous way, just socially or dating norms) where you run into these scenarios? I ask because if it's one or two guys then that can mean that you're just inquisitive as to the things that occur between you and them. However if you find yourself irked, or confused, or not understanding, etc at least 1 thing with every male social interaction/attraction/date, then that might be a clue to a bigger picture about how you think about and perceive things. I think it's great that you post and get feedback from people here and can better address what you're going through or understand/cope with it better. But if there somethinggggg with every guy, even little things, that might be something to try and figure out why it's happening. Or if I'm completely wrong and you just like to use the forum for the small, mundane things all the way up to major things and big dilemmas Bc it helps then by all means tell me I'm a crazy guy and there's nothing deeper to it lol. 1
Author HansonGirl Posted November 21, 2015 Author Posted November 21, 2015 Once again: Why is because he doesn't want to talk to you. Where is this table scene staged? The cafeteria? right but why doesn't he want to talk to me? this happened twice. once it was sort of like a cafeteria, but it was more like a lounge. and another time it as in an office and we both had to be in there, but there were multiple tables. so that time, i came in and sat at the first available seat that i saw (which was right across from him) and about 5 minutes later he decides to move to a different table. is he being a drama queen? or do i just make him uncomfortable?
Author HansonGirl Posted November 21, 2015 Author Posted November 21, 2015 Just out of curiosity because I've seen you post a bunch of different threads surrounding dating or guys behavior questions. Are you seeing one or two particular guys who are making you think about these things? Or do you interact with a bunch of different men (not saying in a promiscuous way, just socially or dating norms) where you run into these scenarios? I ask because if it's one or two guys then that can mean that you're just inquisitive as to the things that occur between you and them. However if you find yourself irked, or confused, or not understanding, etc at least 1 thing with every male social interaction/attraction/date, then that might be a clue to a bigger picture about how you think about and perceive things. I think it's great that you post and get feedback from people here and can better address what you're going through or understand/cope with it better. But if there somethinggggg with every guy, even little things, that might be something to try and figure out why it's happening. Or if I'm completely wrong and you just like to use the forum for the small, mundane things all the way up to major things and big dilemmas Bc it helps then by all means tell me I'm a crazy guy and there's nothing deeper to it lol. haha, no it's about 2-3 guys in particular, not every guy I interact with. I am going to send you a PM
basil67 Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 right but why doesn't he want to talk to me? this happened twice. once it was sort of like a cafeteria, but it was more like a lounge. and another time it as in an office and we both had to be in there, but there were multiple tables. so that time, i came in and sat at the first available seat that i saw (which was right across from him) and about 5 minutes later he decides to move to a different table. is he being a drama queen? or do i just make him uncomfortable? Sounds like he strongly dislikes you. And before you ask, we can't tell you why he feels this way. 1
Author HansonGirl Posted November 21, 2015 Author Posted November 21, 2015 but i always thought he LIKED me. perhaps i'm imagining things, would anybody else even notice if this was happening to them? Maybe i'm overanalyzing. would you notice if someone was gathering their stuff and moving over to another table when you came to sit down?
Ic1 Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 but i always thought he LIKED me. perhaps i'm imagining things, would anybody else even notice if this was happening to them? Maybe i'm overanalyzing. would you notice if someone was gathering their stuff and moving over to another table when you came to sit down? Italicized is new info to the thread, bold is even more obvious. Not overanalyzed because you noticed him moving but because you didn't put the pieces together. You tried to hit on him, and he declined. You keep trying, so he's telling you no every time.
basil67 Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 but i always thought he LIKED me. perhaps i'm imagining things, would anybody else even notice if this was happening to them? Maybe i'm overanalyzing. would you notice if someone was gathering their stuff and moving over to another table when you came to sit down? Well, apparently he doesn't like you. Whether or not other people would notice him moving away would depend on if they were aware of him and his movements to start with. If I was reading a book/playing with my phone/talking with friends then I probably wouldn't notice him come or go. But if I wanted to interact with him then I'd certainly notice.
Author HansonGirl Posted November 21, 2015 Author Posted November 21, 2015 Italicized is new info to the thread, bold is even more obvious. Not overanalyzed because you noticed him moving but because you didn't put the pieces together. You tried to hit on him, and he declined. You keep trying, so he's telling you no every time. I wasn't hitting on him, I was just trying to be friendly.
Author HansonGirl Posted November 21, 2015 Author Posted November 21, 2015 Well, apparently he doesn't like you. Whether or not other people would notice him moving away would depend on if they were aware of him and his movements to start with. If I was reading a book/playing with my phone/talking with friends then I probably wouldn't notice him come or go. But if I wanted to interact with him then I'd certainly notice. well one of the times, i was just asking him normal questions like what did he do on his day off. and then a friend came along and i got distracted by that friend. but it's hard not to notice someone who takes forever to gather all their things that were laid out in front of them. it took him a while to do that. looked like he had made himself comfortable, until I came along. I'm just being friendly. can't we just be civil?
basil67 Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 well one of the times, i was just asking him normal questions like what did he do on his day off. and then a friend came along and i got distracted by that friend. but it's hard not to notice someone who takes forever to gather all their things that were laid out in front of them. it took him a while to do that. looked like he had made himself comfortable, until I came along. I'm just being friendly. can't we just be civil? He doesn't want to be friendly. You can't force friendship
Ic1 Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 I'm just being friendly. can't we just be civil? Lol, why are you asking on a dating forum? 1
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