Piddle Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 Let's say a single guy likes a girl. What are the reasons he would not ask her out? I'm thinking main ones include, not getting adequate signals from her, not wanting a relationship despite liking her ...
alphamale Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 being shy or having a lack of confidence?? 2
mrldii Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 I'm not a big fan of figuring out why or why not; regardless of the reason (good or bad, real or imagined, legitimate or completely unfounded), the end result is the same: we're not going out, therefore we're not getting to know one another, therefore there is no relationship. I don't fret about things that don't involve me; since we haven't even gone out, I'm not involved. 7
SwordofFlame Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 Fear of rejection or being labeled a creeper. Not knowing if she's single or interested in him.
truth_seeker Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 being shy or having a lack of confidence?? Hit the nail on the head.
Shining One Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 Being attracted to one of her friends as well. The man can only ask one of them out, so he has to choose carefully. 1
thecrucible Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 If the guy's friends dated her (some guys don't like that). The guy knows something about her that makes him think she isn't gf material even though he finds her attractive. There's no "green light" or she doesn't look approachable. The guy is married, dating someone, into guys, or is already chasing someone else. The guy is just busy doing something and not thinking about asking anyone out. He might be focusing on having fun with his friends. The guy isn't looking for a relationship for some reason. He's not attracted to her. The guy is shy. His friend likes her so he doesn't want to break bro code. He knows the chances of asking out a random woman he finds attractive actually leading to a relationship is probably not high. All I can think of for now.
Erik30 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I guess if the guy thinks the girl is not interested, so why bother. But usually because he is just not into her. If he really does like her, he'll find some way. I'm assuming you like some guy, and are wondering why he hasn't asked you out yet? 1
smackie9 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 A) has no ballz or B) not interested or C) is gay or D) has a GF 3
thecrucible Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 A) has no ballz or B) not interested or C) is gay or D) has a GF I like your replies because they are always quite succinct and get straight to the point. 1
truth_seeker Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 A) has no ballz or B) not interested or C) is gay or D) has a GF E) waiting for the right moment F) has a wife G) timid and shy 1
Krieger Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 This just for me: I cant afford to date that girl. She brings more to the table than I do She is bigger weight wise than I am She is a single mother She could be seen as boring She does not treat others that can do noting for her like crap She only thinks about herself mean to animals or children she works a Walmart and not going to college or doing anything with her life. If she is over 25 and still gets blackout drunk every weekend like she is 21 and party's like she 21 with her friends. Going out for drinks is ok but getting so drunk i have to carry you home every weekend get old.
Krieger Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Also if she lives on fast food ,coffee ,and nicotine.
loverboy69 Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 My current SO and I used to be coworkers. While we worked together he avoided me for over a year all the while having a massive crush on me unbeknownst. He appeared outgoing and friendly to everyone in the room but me. I didn't know he suffered from a mild form of social anxiety. To me he came across as unfriendly or disinterested since he did everything he could to avoid me. In his mind I was unapproachable. He thought I wouldn't like him because he didn't have a BA, because he made less money than me, because I dressed nice, because I had a nicer car and lastly because he thought he wouldn't be attractive to me. I actually started to like him too but avoided asking him out because we worked so closely together and I didn't want the drama. Things got really awkward. Point is we both liked each other but for our own reasons we didn't ask each other out until much later. Both of us were waiting for the other to make the first move. 1
Author Piddle Posted November 22, 2015 Author Posted November 22, 2015 I'm just asking because it's the story of my life. lol. They can't all not like me in that way (I'm sure it's the case a lot of the time) - so wondering what else it can be with guys in general.
phineas Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I don't date coworkers any more. Period. I don't date party girls or women going through divorce or unable to afford their own place. I'm 43 so the above are perfect examples of women and the situations they are in when I meet them. But for younger guys, probably too shy and the woman hasn't made it clear she is interested enough for him to risk rejection.
truth_seeker Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I don't date party girls or women going through divorce or unable to afford their own place. This falls in line with my Social Media thread (looking people up). At 43, I don't blame you. The party girl, who is probably broke, living with roommates or family, will immediately look at you as their Sugar Daddy.
phineas Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 This falls in line with my Social Media thread (looking people up). At 43, I don't blame you. The party girl, who is probably broke, living with roommates or family, will immediately look at you as their Sugar Daddy. well most empty nester's i meet are party girls. If I see another online profile with "I work hard during the week & play harder on the weekend"...
phineas Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I'm just asking because it's the story of my life. lol. They can't all not like me in that way (I'm sure it's the case a lot of the time) - so wondering what else it can be with guys in general. You need to tell us where you are meeting those guys so we can have a better idea.
alphamale Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 Also if she lives on fast food ,coffee ,and nicotine. that describes me
truth_seeker Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 well most empty nester's i meet are party girls. If I see another online profile with "I work hard during the week & play harder on the weekend"... That and this: "I don't take life too seriously". Anytime I read that line I automatically think airhead who is DTF with random guys.
stillafool Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I guess if the guy thinks the girl is not interested, so why bother. But usually because he is just not into her. If he really does like her, he'll find some way. I'm assuming you like some guy, and are wondering why he hasn't asked you out yet? This^^^^^^! I don't care how shy a guy is if he likes you he will find a way to show you.
Krieger Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I'm just asking because it's the story of my life. lol. They can't all not like me in that way (I'm sure it's the case a lot of the time) - so wondering what else it can be with guys in general. In order for a woman to get my attention she needs to satisfy me emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and physically.
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