Do you think couples who have threesomes are naturally cheaters in their heart?

[GiaJackie]

I know that some people choose to have an open relationship or like to bring an extra person to the bedroom yo spice things up. I try not to judge and think thay if they're happy and honest with each other then it's all good.

But i was thinking. Is it possible that those types of people are cheaters in their hearts? Like if their relationship was closed and exclusive would they be likely to cheat and be dishonest? Cuz if they're in a open relationship you would never ever know if they would have the ability to stay faithful. Do you know what I'm saying?

If you're with someone and they want to have an open relationship i feel like you would never be able to tell how faithful they are to you because you guys would be "cheating with permission." So how do you know of they would be faithful if the relationship was exclusive?

Like i said i try not to judge different relationships. I think it's possible for two genuine and honest people to participate in an open relationship. But i think having an open relationship could also be a way for a natural cheater to hide who they really are. What if they wouldnt remain faithful if you stopped having an open relationship? You would never know..

 

Btw incase you are wondering I'm not in an open relationship but i have been before and was completely secure. But now i can't get this idea out of my head

[central]

No. I don't think there's any correlation. Some may have been or someday may cheat but I would bet that most do not. Far more people who have never done this, have or will cheat - so you could make a better case that people who don't have threesomes are the ones most at risk of cheating. Your premise is nonsense, IMO.

 

I would also add that people who mutually and consensually discuss and agree to threesomes are approaching this openly and honestly, so are less likely to go behind a partner's back and cheat on them.

[Xiomn]

If I had a partner and she brought up the idea of having a threesome I personally would think at least a little bit that she might cheat in the future, especially if I were to say no.

[ExpatInItaly]

No.

 

I am a woman and I have participated in threesomes a couple of times while in a relationship. I have not been unfaithful to my boyfriends, in the sense that sex with others occurred only in the context of the threesomes, never outside of it.

[Gemma1]

There's a big difference between having an open relationship and having a threesome. That being said, I do think that if a person wants an open relationship and is denied that, they are probably more likely to cheat. That doesn't mean that ALL people in such a situation would cheat, or even the majority. I just think that statistically, they are slightly more likely to cheat. The reason? Someone who wants and prefers an open relationship obviously doesn't value monogamy the same way that a "normal" person does. This increases the chance that they will fail to put safeguards in place that a monogamous couple needs to do in order to really prevent cheating.

 

Again, this doesn't apply to everyone. For the record, I am in an open marriage and I strongly believe that if I were to want it closed, my husband would not be any more likely to cheat than someone who had always been monogamous.

[kendahke]

No. Cheating is done when the significant other is kept in the dark on purpose. Engaging in 3somes and swinging isn't a part of that dynamic by definition. Two different universes altogether.

[Ic1]

In my opinion there's nothing wrong with threesomes and open relationships if both are equally ok with it. But I find those that find such plans enticing aren't attractive to me because they don't see sex as I enjoy it every time. Making Love. It's done in a form of 'recreation'. Nothing wrong as long as all involved are comfortable and on the same page.

 

Something to note, some prostitutes don't kiss clients because they save that as their act of love. When they're dating due to their own interest, sex comes before a kiss because a kiss is special.

[katiegrl]

No. Cheating is done when the significant other is kept in the dark on purpose. Engaging in 3somes and swinging isn't a part of that dynamic by definition. Two different universes altogether.

 

I agree with this .... it comes down to *integrity* and how much integrity a person possesses.

 

A person who cheats lacks integrity. There is no arguing that.

 

A person who wishes to engage in an open relationship ... but is denied that by their partner, while they might have the desire to have sex with others, if they possess *integrity,* then they will value the commitment they made with their partner, and will NOT cheat.

 

On the other hand, if such person lacks integrity, then they would be more inclined to cheat IMO.

[thecrucible]

I don't judge but sometimes I think open relationships benefit the man rather than the woman. I'd rather have the guy all to myself. I'm fitting the 'jealousy' trait of Scorpio quite well there haha.

[smackie9]

How can it be cheating when they express interest openly in having sex with others? Cheaters do it in secret/deception. There is a big difference in open sex vs cheater.

 

If you don't swing that way or find it morally wrong, I can see why you are having trouble trying to understand why people choose to live this lifestyle, and what their mind set is.

 

They can separate the emotional involvement from pure sexual satisfaction.

[pcs13]

I offered a threesome with my guy the other day with the only thought that I want both of us to have a good time. We feel a lot closer after that. He was happy and I was happy too!

[bubbaganoosh]

If a couple wants to invite another person into their bed and they both agree to it and have a set of rules to follow and the third party agrees to the rules then have at it. I think it comes down to having trust in each other.

 

The only problem I see with it would be if one partner or spouse is more into it then the other or one feels left out it could cause problems. If that happens, how hard is it to stop and go back to the old ways without complications. My best advice is think before you jump in because you can't take back history.