Going Where I Want But Not Where He Wants?

[creepygirl]

My Bf is noticing that we are doing everything I want to do, BUT that is only because, whenever I ask him "What do you want to do?" he never suggests anything or we already have something else planned. So we never do what he wants. But in a discussion him and I had, he doesn't like how we always do what I want to do, but never do what he wants to do. I am willing to do what he wants but trust me, it will just lead into another discussion or fight or misunderstanding and I don't know what to do here.

[Robratory]

At some point, you have to slap him upside the head and say, "Is there something wrong with you, boy? How can you complain we never do what you want when you never suggest doing anything!"

 

If that leads to a fight on his part, if he's not willing to see how unreasonable his position is, then you'll probably be better off ending the relationship.

[basil67]

And this is part of the reason you made the other post about not loving him. You're not on the same page!

[creepygirl]

And this is part of the reason you made the other post about not loving him. You're not on the same page!

 

He always tells me, "It doesn't matter what we do, as long as I am with you, because you make me happy".

 

BUT yet he complains we never do what he wants, and always what I want.

[Fuerza]

My ex was like that, when we were going to meet up he would always ask ME what I wanted to do. I got SO sick of it eventually, a man needs to be able to say 'I want to do this with you' instead of being lazy all the time and then complain.

 

Talk to him about it but he has no right to complain if you're the one coming up with all the ideas.

[ExpatInItaly]

He always tells me, "It doesn't matter what we do, as long as I am with you, because you make me happy".

 

BUT yet he complains we never do what he wants, and always what I want.

 

Tell him to either suggest something or quit his b*tching. And don't engage in the conversation any further than that.

[creepygirl]

We are going to work on where to go as far as picking places to hang out and go out on dates etc. Him and I are going to make this work. We do care for one another a lot.