shortee Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 (edited) I've known him for a couple years now and we met through work and casually dating for awhile. We work for a large hotel chain and don't always work together, so I didn't think this could become an issue. We recently spent the weekend together, but afterwards he was acting a little distant. Still he would come up and talk and act interested and texting and making plans. Recently, I had found I had severe tendinitis and carpal tunnel and had to have surgery and be out of work for months. I've been living with my sister for now and she's been extremely helpful with everything, so I guess he doesn't feel obligated to come over and help out with things. Still it would be nice to see him and I let him know that. He was texting me quite a bit during this. The other day, he texted he was going to come over and see me and would call after work. Well the time came and went and no call. I was in some pain so I took a nap and I woke a couple hours later to a text saying "hey wyd" that's it. I asked if he was coming to see me and he texted he was tired and was not coming over. I haven't responded to his last text. And he has not texted me. I'm not sure what's going on with him. In the time I've been away, he has not made any effort to come see me. And I have a pretty long road to recovery. I gave him a second chance already and this is blowing it for me. Should I give him another chance or just go nc, even though when I go back to work it will be hard? Edited November 21, 2015 by shortee
Robratory Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 It's not unreasonable to ask someone frankly, "Talk to me. What's going on with you?" And if they won't talk or they give you bull**** excuses, just take the high road and put them out of your lives. Do not pine for such time-wasters! Real affection is not like this. This is bull****. It's drama you'd think people would grow out of by the time they graduated highschool, but as you can see, they don't. And I'm not saying you should dismiss people over little things, but this cold shoulder game and acting silent is not a little thing. Text him that he's been hurtful and that you didn't deserve to be treated that way, and that's it. Don't argue with him. Act like you're Mary on Downton Abbey.
Author shortee Posted November 21, 2015 Author Posted November 21, 2015 I wish it were that easy to just put him out of my life, but I do work with him and I'll have to see him when I go back. He hasn't texted me since. I want to text him something, but not sure what I should say or if I should even contact him at all at this point. I need to focus on recovering not his bs.
Amalyn Posted November 21, 2015 Posted November 21, 2015 I wish it were that easy to just put him out of my life, but I do work with him and I'll have to see him when I go back. He hasn't texted me since. I want to text him something, but not sure what I should say or if I should even contact him at all at this point. I need to focus on recovering not his bs. One reason to not date people you work with. I think you need to communicate with him and find out what is going on. And like the previous poster mentioned, feel out his answer and if it seems like bull****, then go no contact.
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