Brian2 Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 This one's for the more modern ladies. If you've ever chatted a guy up or asked a guy out, what about him made you do it? I'm interested in what makes the difference between guys who get approached/asked and guys who don't.
crazy_grl Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 "ask-out-able" LOL. I love non-existant, gramatically incorrect words like that. To address your question: I'm not sure I have a specific answer. For me, it's probably very similar to how guys decide whether to approach a girl. Most guys who I've asked out have been guys I've met at least one other time beforehand through other people, class, work, etc. There's nothing really consistent with those guys other than that they were smart, funny and showed a genuine interest in me. For the guys I've never met before, they have to be well dressed. They don't have to have the best clothes money can buy, but they have to look like they take pride in themselves and their appearance. I have to find them attractive (of course). A smile doesn't hurt, and maybe a look or two in my direction. If he's alone or with only one or two other guys, I'm more likely to approach him than if he were with a large group. I would find that intimidating. If he's with a group, he should come to me where we can talk more privately. Also, if there's another woman around, I definitely won't approach unless it's clear that she's not with him (like if she kisses another guy or something). If you're asking to figure out a way to get women to pick you up, I don't think you'll have much luck. Not a lot of women are willing to do that. They see it as the guy's role. So if a woman happens to approach you, it's just chance.
Merin Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Hmm.. I've never asked a Guy out.. However the Guys that I will approach to talk to are the ones who have shown interest in me.. Is he making a lot of eye contact with me.. Is he smiling.. Appears open to talking.. Isn't being an idiot with his boys.. Those are the clues I take from a Guy that he is interested in talking to me.. while I don't mind approaching a Guy to say hello and see how he responds, I just don't ask Guys out..
quankanne Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 the best ones, in my opinion, are the ones who are friendly, who aren't arrogant or looking as if he'd be happiest giving the world a cold shoulder. A sense of humor is always a big plus ... I'm also a sucker for blue eyes and accents ~ which interestingly enough, DH has!
lindya Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Being funny, interesting, sane and single makes a guy more approachable.
Brian2 Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Thanks all. Originally posted by crazy_grl "ask-out-able" LOL. I love non-existant, gramatically incorrect words like that. Thanks. It gets the point across well enough, I see. If you're asking to figure out a way to get women to pick you up, I don't think you'll have much luck. Not a lot of women are willing to do that. They see it as the guy's role. So if a woman happens to approach you, it's just chance. I agree that I wouldn't want to count on it that particularly much. It's still painful though when I saw it happen to other guys a few times right in front of me and I'm thinking "WTF?! And I'm nothing?!". (As you can guess, I'm on the wrong side of that social barrier, which is why I asked the question--why not be one of the guys for whom that actually happens? I sure don't see myself as somehow not worth so much as a "hey :)" or a friendly introduction.)
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