rosier Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 (edited) I have been thinking this for a while and I just wanted to write about my experiences and feelings on the subject, generally to get it off my chest so it may end up being a rather long post. Ironicly I have turned to the internet to do so. Social Media is completely effecting my life. I have a Boyfriend who I am very happy with and I do trust him. Then it comes to Social Media. For some reason its like a different world and we are different people. He rarely does ANYTHING on it atall. Its the small things. So a couple of times hes gone out and I notice at 3am or whatever he has facebook friended with some girl. This has happened a handful of times. At first I ignored it then it started to bother me. Why is he going out and managing to talk to someone so much they end up facebook friends? And why isit always girls. I started to ask subtley and often turns out its a 'old friend' who has also befriended everyone else he was out with. But now its become a sort of phobia of mine. I cant sleep when hes out clubbing simpley because i cant stop checking to see if he has befriended anyone. The worst was when he was on his holiday. Its starting to really wreck my life and my relationship. We argued over it a while ago . Its making me feel like im going mental i hate it. Everything else about us is great. I have no issues with him going out and enjoying himself , I know he will talk to new people and old people. I hate social media because its showing me glimpses of whats going on without the full story. I dont know how to overcome it. I wish I could delete it but its like an addiction now and in an irrational mad world i feel as if i delete it he will get away with loads of things :(. As i say he never uses it, we are not in a 'facebook' relationship and he never posts anything. It should be irrelevant but its like facebook is more of real life then life and its starting to make me feel really down. Recently its moving on to me noticing hes always online, thing is I know he likes to watch videos because he does it when im with him but in my head i have all these crazy scenarios that hes talking to these other girls and the worst is when hes online but hasnt replied to my message. Again it shouldnt matter! And it never used to Ive never let it get to me until now and I cant cope with it Does anyone else get this problem? I wish everyone would just delete it Edited November 20, 2015 by rosier
GunslingerRoland Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 1) Facebook isn't particularly good at knowing when people are online. If you have a browser open somewhere with facebook open, you are online. Doesn't matter if you are nowhere near that computer. 2) This jealousy sounds out of control. Unless I'm missing a key part of the story, just adding someone as a friend, shouldn't be that big of a red flag. 3) How often is he going clubbing without you? To me that would be so much more of a worry than Facebook. Adults don't really go clubbing except to get laid. 5
Author rosier Posted November 20, 2015 Author Posted November 20, 2015 Your right it is out of control which is why its getting to me so much because I feel like im going crazy when ive never been like this before. Its not the befriending in general its the 3am night club befriendings. He goes out often but we are in our early 20's
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Repeat after me: Social media isn't real. It doesn't matter. Him going clubbing without you is a bigger problem. Why aren't you going with him? If he likes clubs & you don't you may be incompatible. 2
Author rosier Posted November 20, 2015 Author Posted November 20, 2015 I do go with him somtimes and to be fair he often invites me just i dont like it as much as he does
Male Posted November 22, 2015 Posted November 22, 2015 I do go with him somtimes and to be fair he often invites me just i dont like it as much as he does Invite him to do something that you both enjoy doing then. There should be a time and a place for you to want to hang out and do something together. If he refuses, and only wants to go clubbing and you just happen to tag along then thats an issue.
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