why are men so available and eager?

[Odinani]

Oh, they use OLD too IME

 

You're not going to find those men on OLD. They're out getting laid in person.

[LoveRefreshed]

There are guys who throw in the occasional smiley or winky emoji. Then there are guys who tack 3 to 4 heart emjois or blushing face emojis onto pretty much every message. The latter is a soppy idiot and is acting like a schoolgirl.

 

:rolleyes:

:lmao:

 

Do you have any filter on what men you start messaging to begin with? It's like if I came here to complain about the alcoholics and single mothers in OLD.

 

Also pretty excited for your next series of threads down the line. Boyfriend is emotionally unavailable. Never talks to me or communicates. He just gets angry and runs off to drink with his friends.

[oregon0011]

Hahaha, so true.

 

I usually text without emoticons and every girl will always at some point go "Are you mad at me? What did I do?" then I have to explain I'm not, and I'll get pressured to 'out' it, then I will get upset because nothing is wrong.

 

Exactly. Girl texted me she will be running late. So I texted back "ok what time?"

 

She then delayed, then was asking if I was mad. So I had to say I wasn't mad. Then she kept asking if I was sure. Now the whole mood was somehow ruined. Hahaha

[oregon0011]

:rolleyes:

:lmao:

 

Do you have any filter on what men you start messaging to begin with? It's like if I came here to complain about the alcoholics and single mothers in OLD.

 

Also pretty excited for your next series of threads down the line. Boyfriend is emotionally unavailable. Never talks to me or communicates. He just gets angry and runs off to drink with his friends.

 

Next thread "why are all the guys who I date from online players and liars?"

[Odinani]

Here's a snippet of this from one guy yesterday. He texted me to ask what cuisine I like. My reply was really brief and just listed three different cuisines I like, and that was it. His reply

 

"mmm....lots to choose from. :love:I can't wait to cook for you. Hahahahahaha.:p [+ 3 blushing emoji]"

 

Immediately followed by 8 more text messages [with no replies from me inbetween] listing what foods he cooks and how he invents his own recipes.

 

I didn't reply.

 

Then this morning he texted "Good morning, my dear! Happy Friday!"

 

He is either 42 or 43, can't remember which.

[truth_seeker]

There are guys who throw in the occasional smiley or winky emoji. Then there are guys who tack 3 to 4 heart emjois or blushing face emojis onto pretty much every message. The latter is a soppy idiot and is acting like a schoolgirl.

 

 

Then tell him you're not interested in speaking with him anymore and he'll stop texting you.

[truth_seeker]

Here's a snippet of this from one guy yesterday. He texted me to ask what cuisine I like. My reply was really brief and just listed three different cuisines I like, and that was it. His reply

 

"mmm....lots to choose from. :love:I can't wait to cook for you. Hahahahahaha.:p [+ 3 blushing emoji]"

 

Immediately followed by 8 more text messages [with no replies from me inbetween] listing what foods he cooks and how he invents his own recipes.

 

I didn't reply.

 

Then this morning he texted "Good morning, my dear! Happy Friday!"

 

He is either 42 or 43, can't remember which.

 

I have to ask: what pictures did you post on OLD? Are you the girl in the pic I see here (sand on your butt)? If that's you, and you posted pics like that on OLD, then guys are going to get revved up and be aggressive with you.

 

I've had "friends" in the past who were hawks when it came to women - very aggressive, say anything and everything to get the girl. I call these guys sociopaths. Stay away from them.

[Odinani]

I have to ask: what pictures did you post on OLD? Are you the girl in the pic I see here (sand on your butt)? If that's you, and you posted pics like that on OLD, then guys are going to get revved up and be aggressive with you.

 

I've had "friends" in the past who were hawks when it came to women - very aggressive, say anything and everything to get the girl. I call these guys sociopaths. Stay away from them.

 

No, I'm not. My OLD pictures are attractive but I'm wearing actual clothes and the poses/outfits aren't provocative.

[Odinani]

I have to ask: what pictures did you post on OLD? Are you the girl in the pic I see here (sand on your butt)? If that's you, and you posted pics like that on OLD, then guys are going to get revved up and be aggressive with you.

 

I've had "friends" in the past who were hawks when it came to women - very aggressive, say anything and everything to get the girl. I call these guys sociopaths. Stay away from them.

 

This guy I quoted is not coming across as a sociopath. More an overly eager guy who doesn't seem to get much female attention. That's strange given that going by his profile pic he's a good looking guy.

[truth_seeker]

This guy I quoted is not coming across as a sociopath. More an overly eager guy who doesn't seem to get much female attention. That's strange given that going by his profile pic he's a good looking guy.

 

Maybe it's not him in the profile pic

[oregon0011]

This guy I quoted is not coming across as a sociopath. More an overly eager guy who doesn't seem to get much female attention. That's strange given that going by his profile pic he's a good looking guy.

 

I guess all these pick up gurus teaching "text game" must be on to something. Apparently if you wrote a few too many lines you are an overly eager loser who gets no female attention.

 

So it goes back to games to get a female. Delay response. Couple words. Ignore her texts. Etc etc. Then you are a cool guy with lots of women. Oh wait. Then the guy doesn't seem to be interested so might be a player? Who knows.

[Odinani]

I guess all these pick up gurus teaching "text game" must be on to something. Apparently if you wrote a few too many lines you are an overly eager loser who gets no female attention.

 

So it goes back to games to get a female. Delay response. Couple words. Ignore her texts. Etc etc. Then you are a cool guy with lots of women. Oh wait. Then the guy doesn't seem to be interested so might be a player? Who knows.

 

Extremes are not necessary, just displaying self-respect and confidence. To contrast his text game with that of another, more confident guy I'm talking to.....

 

Confident guy: "You mentioned you love Thai food. Me too. I know a great new Thai place, how about we grab a bite there on Wednesday evening?"

 

To the point. Confident. Brief. No love-heart emoji necessary.

[Mrin]

Meh. Most men have poor text game. And a general inability to read a woman's reaction - especially if not in person. As the "designated pursuers" we men have a tendency to stick with what's worked in the past. Somewhere along the line, these guys have learned that this sort of lavish attention via text works. So that's why they're doing it.

 

But as someone else has already stated more or less, this is all just game until the first meet up. Then you get a real sense of who a person really is.

[Odinani]

The first time he texted "I'm really looking forward to meeting you" I thought it was kinda sweet and that he might genuinely be excited to meet me. But when he texted "I'm really looking forward to meeting you" again the very next day, that's when it sounded desperate and like he's thirsty and gets no action.

[LoveRefreshed]

The first time he texted "I'm really looking forward to meeting you" I thought it was kinda sweet and that he might genuinely be excited to meet me. But when he texted "I'm really looking forward to meeting you" again the very next day, that's when it sounded desperate and like he's thirsty and gets no action.

 

Why do you focus so much on how much action or female attention a man gets? It's like you're desperately unaware of what you want and need society to tell you.

 

You want a partner and a player. Honey, good luck.

[Odinani]

Why do you focus so much on how much action or female attention a man gets? It's like you're desperately unaware of what you want and need society to tell you.

 

You want a partner and a player. Honey, good luck.

 

 

Because like many women I'm not interested in dating beta males. They're just not sexy.

[LoveRefreshed]

Because like many women I'm not interested in dating beta males. They're just not sexy.

 

Men who need a lot of woman attention are by definition beta males. Men who know what they want in a woman and go for it are alphas. Also, you're clearly not aware that men don't fall into two categories. How old are you?

 

 

It seems you just want a trophy man to go around bragging to your friends about how awesomely hot and desirable your partner is. If you are looking for a partner, you should start writing down qualities of a man you want. If emotionally closed off muscle sticks are it, well you're doing good, and please by all means, ignore this.

 

Also, since attractiveness is subjective, why do you care what others find attractive? If you're attracted, that's enough.

[Heatherknows]

Translation: "I really can't wait to have sex with you."

 

THAT is why they are so available and eager.

 

Hellllloooo...... not rocket science hun.

 

Exactly. More like "I can't wait to have sex with you and never text you again."

 

[LoveRefreshed]

Exactly. More like "I can't wait to have sex with you and never text you again."

 

 

And a lot of men are like, "I'll not text her until we have sex. And then nothing changes".

[Heatherknows]

Because like many women I'm not interested in dating beta males. They're just not sexy.

 

Then make sure you only respond to the best looking men with great jobs who have tons of women after them. They might not remember your name or anything you say but they won't text too much. So that's good.

[Maggie4]

From that text example, these men are acting silly. Silly is not the same thing as available. Silly is just not your type.

[oregon0011]

Because like many women I'm not interested in dating beta males. They're just not sexy.

 

Realistically, a guy who has a lot of women, yet also online dates, will just want you for sex. And I think you complained about that in another thread.

 

The "needy guy" you mention sending too many texts is most likely texting many women. It's just a numbers game.

[Oregon_Dude]

Probably because you're soooo gorgeous.

[smackie9]

When I was single I had guys sending me roses the day after the first date (and nothing happened romantic on the date at all, no kiss or anything).....too muchy, too mushy. I see things haven't changed.

[LoveRefreshed]

When I was single I had guys sending me roses the day after the first date (and nothing happened romantic on the date at all, no kiss or anything).....too muchy, too mushy. I see things haven't changed.

 

I think guys can be romantic but unsure of when it's time. I think we hear stories of it and it makes us think that is what women want.

 

My friends Grandma told us how her Husband came four days a week, wearing the same suit with a boquet of flowers just to ask her on a date. Everytime Grandma said no. Then after something like 11 months, she said yes.

 

Said she's never regretted a day after she said yes. Those beta men...