why are men so available and eager?

[Heatherknows]

Color me cynical, but if you're a lot younger, he was probably trying to get you in bed and thought the emojis would be "young".

 

Exactly. Plus he might be sending these kisses to about 20 young women if even one answers positively he will be in for some sex. Plus, there are tons of 20 something females all pretty all posting semi-naked shots on social media. There is so much easy sex out there for a cute 40 something male with funds for a nice date.

 

Yes, that's possible, I know a guy who uses all kinds of nonsense like "stickers" to woo younger women (often successfully)

 

In this case, I think it's just the way he is.

 

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Of course.

I commonly see women describes themselves as a SWF, DWF for example. Single white female, divorced white female.

 

I never thought it meant they are a piece of meat, nor was I confused about their species.

[RedRobin]

I haven't read all nineteen pages... I get the sense the OP has a hard time screening men.

 

The guys she is talking about are likely not all that interested. To me, texting is a sign of disinterest. As another poster suggested, they are probably just trying to warm her up so sex happens sooner.

 

I tell men I meet that I don't text a lot. I use my phone for work, and if he wants to talk to me he can call. That gets rid of the guys texting X number of women trying to keep a bunch in the corral.

 

As for the other line of conversations about multidaters .... If I found out a guy I was seeing was dating a bunch of other women when he met me, I would dump him. I have many times. I don't think those people will be faithful even if I was able to 'get' a relationship with them.... And they all claimed to want a relationship with me. Right. The GIGS are strong with those folks.

 

anyway, I don't have a lot of patience for men or women who seem to be more interested in building a fan club than actually getting to know people they come across. it is especially off putting when those people create threads about all their 'fans', whether real or imagined, then trash them and call them betas.

[Odinani]

We can't all be leading a super-succesful life you know.

For some, being nice and gentle is the only "wealth" they have. Should they be forbidden to date and meet women because at some point in their life they didnt "succeed" ?

 

50% of "developped countries" population only earn just enough to survive day to day... not everyone has a big degree and a career.

 

Now, maybe it's a matter of dating the right person in the right league, but if women think they deserve better than the working class guy who really only has "chivalry" and "niceness" to sell, then we hit a wall, because there won't be a "successful man" for every average lady outthere (but all we know that's what they all want).

 

That's all fine as long as such males accept that many women simply won't be attracted to them.

[loveweary11]

We can't all be leading a super-succesful life you know.

For some, being nice and gentle is the only "wealth" they have. Should they be forbidden to date and meet women because at some point in their life they didnt "succeed" ?

 

50% of "developped countries" population only earn just enough to survive day to day... not everyone has a big degree and a career.

 

Now, maybe it's a matter of dating the right person in the right league, but if women think they deserve better than the working class guy who really only has "chivalry" and "niceness" to sell, then we hit a wall, because there won't be a "successful man" for every average lady outthere (but all we know that's what they all want).

 

This would be a good topic for a thread. I'd be interested in hearing the conversation on this one.

[mrldii]

Oh gosh I seriously hate reading people saying 'females' rather than 'women' and saying they want 'a quality female' like they are going to the butchers to order a piece of meat. It really puts me off if I see this in a dating profile.

 

Agreed.

 

But I *love* it when they do it...saves me the time and trouble of discerning how they really feel about women.

[katiegrl]

Agreed.

 

But I *love* it when they do it...saves me the time and trouble of discerning how they really feel about women.

 

So would that mean that the OP herself has some underlying deep resentment or hatred of men?

 

She referred to men as *male* in her post 280.

 

Honestly, I don't think referring to women as female speaks to how men feel about women ....it's simply ignorance of the English language and the proper usage of certain words.

 

My opinion...

[katiegrl]

Thank you!

 

See your own post 280.

 

You called men *males*!

 

Oh the hypocrisy ...

 

Just sayin.

[mrldii]

So would that mean that the OP herself has some underlying deep resentment or hatred of men?

 

She referred to men as *male* in her post 280.

 

Honestly, I don't think referring to women as female speaks to how men feel about women ....it's simply ignorance of the English language and the proper usage of certain words.

 

My opinion...

 

Yup, it sure does.

 

Especially when one consistently uses the correct [i.e., human-specific] form when referring to their own gender, but *always* gets the non-species-specific (i.e., generic to any animal) form of the opposite gender.

 

 

But, I don't date women, so I don't notice it as frequently as I do men with whom I'm communicating.

[Krieger]

Sounds like excellent husband material to me. I have a single girlfriend who'd like to meet a nice man. Do these SIMP's have a website??

 

No they are not there just being nice to hope someday you sleep with them.

 

I do nice things for people because I want to and do not want anything in return see the difference.

 

I treat woman how they treat me and I am not a door mat.

 

A simp is a guy that says woman can not do no wrong and let woman walk all over him.

[katiegrl]

Yup, it sure does.

 

Especially when one consistently uses the correct [i.e., human-specific] form when referring to their own gender, but *always* gets the non-species-specific (i.e., generic to any animal) form of the opposite gender.

 

 

But, I don't date women, so I don't notice it as frequently as I do men with whom I'm communicating.

 

Good point!

 

She referred to men as *male* ... but women as *women* in the same sentence.

 

Odinani...care to address?

[mrldii]

Good point!

 

She referred to men as *male* ... but women as *women* in the same sentence.

 

Odinani...care to address?

 

I'm pretty sure OP has been unabashedly upfront about her contempt for [certain] *males* and makes no apologies for it.

[katiegrl]

I'm pretty sure OP has been unabashedly upfront about her contempt for [certain] *males* and makes no apologies for it.

 

Agree, however IMO her contempt is for more than [certain] *males*...

 

From reading her posts, I suspect it's for pretty much the entire gender. Albeit subconsciously.

 

She has admitted to being abused in the past, so that is most likely a big part of it, and why I have suggested therapy on many occasions.

[ManyDissapoint]

Simply put, OP, men are doing what they *think* will work. By work I mean get into your pants or get into a relationship with you, depending on what that guy wants.

 

I think you might be hard-pressed to find an alpha man who will put up with your rather mean, and hypocritical behavior that you've displayed in this thread and others. Many Betas will though. That's some food for thought.

[Zing]

Next thread "why are all the guys who I date from online players and liars?"

 

/thread on page 2.

 

You're pretty much damned if you do damned if you don't. No one wins in the current dating game/hook-up culture. Whoever cares least wins.

[loveweary11]

Simply put, OP, men are doing what they *think* will work. By work I mean get into your pants or get into a relationship with you, depending on what that guy wants.

 

I think you might be hard-pressed to find an alpha man who will put up with your rather mean, and hypocritical behavior that you've displayed in this thread and others. Many Betas will though. That's some food for thought.

 

This is good insight. OP made my ignore list. First person ever on it. There are only 2 on it.

 

I can't see many men putting up with the caustic/toxic venom that comes out hourly.

Pretty much betas only, as you said.

 

To attract decent people, you have to be a decent person.

 

OP has a long road of self discovery and thinking before she'll attract the kind of guy she's looking for.

[insert_name]

This is good insight. OP made my ignore list. First person ever on it. There are only 2 on it.

 

I can't see many men putting up with the caustic/toxic venom that comes out hourly.

Pretty much betas only, as you said.

 

To attract decent people, you have to be a decent person.

 

OP has a long road of self discovery and thinking before she'll attract the kind of guy she's looking for.

 

I find it all tiresomely passive aggressive.

 

Get text from guy > run to the internet to humble brag about the attention > trash the guy on the internet as a beta when she won't say it to him directly > rinse and repeat over way too many threads than the subject deserves.

 

The poster earlier summed it up beautifully: OP is drowning in a cup of water.

[WaitingForBardot]

:bunny::bunny::D:D:D:D:D:D

 

Oh the irony... ..lol..

 

Anyways, I don't really have a problem with anything the OP says she wants or is trying to do, just with how entitled and dismissive she comes across when someone she judges to be below her standards has the audacity to ask her out. Oh the inconvenvience... ...again... ..lol..

 

That and the definitions of alpha and especially beta males being thrown about in this thread are quite different than how I've heard them described before. I suppose they've just evolved over time.

[Heatherknows]

Oh the irony... ..lol..

 

Anyways, I don't really have a problem with anything the OP says she wants or is trying to do, just with how entitled and dismissive she comes across when someone she judges to be below her standards has the audacity to ask her out. Oh the inconvenvience... ...again... ..lol..

 

That and the definitions of alpha and especially beta males being thrown about in this thread are quite different than how I've heard them described before. I suppose they've just evolved over time.

 

As long as a guy is alpha in the bedroom I really don't care about much else. And he doesn't even need to be alpha all the time. BTW this terminology is so simplistic it's up there with "good girls" and "bad girls" but I'm just going with the LS flow right now.

[Miss Peach]

Excessive texting before the first date is pointless. It doesn't create any chemistry for me at all.

 

This is actually a technique some guys are using to build rapport so that the first date doesn't feel like a first date. That way they can bring up sex earlier.

[Miss Peach]

Simply put, OP, men are doing what they *think* will work. By work I mean get into your pants or get into a relationship with you, depending on what that guy wants.

 

This has been my experience of why men do *almost* everything they do.

[jay1983]

This is good insight. OP made my ignore list. First person ever on it. There are only 2 on it.

 

I can't see many men putting up with the caustic/toxic venom that comes out hourly.

Pretty much betas only, as you said.

 

To attract decent people, you have to be a decent person.

 

OP has a long road of self discovery and thinking before she'll attract the kind of guy she's looking for.

I actually found the OP one of the most entertaining on here.

[Maxtor]

LOL

 

I love the bipolar threads.

 

"Why are men so egotistical?"

 

"Why men dont want to be in a relationship?"

 

"Why are men *******s?"

 

and when MEN likes to treat women like princesses I love to see:

 

"Why are men texting me good morning each time OMFG so ruuude!"

 

Thats because women arent princesses. Hollywood is dead wrong.

[Heatherknows]

I actually found the OP one of the most entertaining on here.

 

Me too. The thread has kept my attention.

 

Five Stars.

 

(I wanna hear what happens when she goes out with the alpha dude.. Does he text her the next day? Does he change his phone number...)

Edited November 23, 2015 by Heatherknows

[Robert]

As this thread has devolved into something other than discussion of the OP's specific issue in the original post, we'll close it up. Thank you for the participation. ~6