Best best friend/ Girlfriend broke up with me Just 1 weeks before my exams..

[Hbk69]

OK guys, I will cut the long story short:-

 

This girl was head over heels in love with me around 8 years back... She proposed me twice while I rejected her nd dated around 12 girls in that period...

 

Now we continued to stay best friend nd last year I got feelings for her...so I proposed her, nd after a shocking reply saying in don't love u anymore like before or mayb I am confused, she said yes by telling me that she is happy to be around me...

 

Her parents were searching a groom for her so she asked me abt marriage plans nd I said I am nt sure bat it nd she got a bit upset but then she agreed nd we started dating.

 

Now because of exams pressure, I used to tell her to rall to me daily nd we would fight a lot because of anger issues but all fights were mostly about her nt talking to me nd not anythg else...nd I must tell u guys thatvi was very sweet to her, nd praised nd pampered her a lot..

 

Now just one week before my exams, she dumps me saying that she doesn't feel for me nd she feels compelled to call/msg wic is normal in a relationship nd she wants to be free....

 

Then I met her nd told her that how much I like her nd if marriage commitment is a reason then I am ready to commit to her now also BT she saysbkets sath as friends nd if somethg happens later, she will tell me..noe we have been talking as just friends...

 

I can move on like I did before but somehow I want to get her back(many ppl will say it's a bad idea) but she is 15inches shorter than me nd doesn't look good too BT I oversee all this nd love her..she loved me for8 years what could have gone wrong...how to proceed from here?

[Hbk69]

Replies pls

[d0nnivain]

Your Q & situation are a bit hard to follow.

 

Some woman you don't seem to have all that much respect for seems to have had some kind of crush on you for 8 years. In that time you have dated at least 12 other women. You describe her as 15 inches shorter than you & that she "doesn't look good".

 

Somebody's parents may have arranged a marriage. Even though you weren't sure about her, you agreed to this. I'm sure your reluctance didn't help. It certainly couldn't have made her feel anything other than you were "settling" for her because she basically threw herself at you over the years.

 

Now while you claim you were nice to her on the phone & praised her & pampered her there were anger issues & you fought all the time on the phone.

 

In light of all that she called everything off. Her timing, one week before your exams, could have been a bit more considerate but the reality is you didn't care one whit about her until you realized how much her adoration stroked your ego.

 

Let her go. Concentrate on your studies. Going forward don't get engaged to a woman unless you truly think the sun rises & sets on her.

[Hbk69]

Your Q & situation are a bit hard to follow.

 

Some woman you don't seem to have all that much respect for seems to have had some kind of crush on you for 8 years. In that time you have dated at least 12 other women. You describe her as 15 inches shorter than you & that she "doesn't look good".

 

Somebody's parents may have arranged a marriage. Even though you weren't sure about her, you agreed to this. I'm sure your reluctance didn't help. It certainly couldn't have made her feel anything other than you were "settling" for her because she basically threw herself at you over the years.

 

Now while you claim you were nice to her on the phone & praised her & pampered her there were anger issues & you fought all the time on the phone.

 

In light of all that she called everything off. Her timing, one week before your exams, could have been a bit more considerate but the reality is you didn't care one whit about her until you realized how much her adoration stroked your ego.

 

Let her go. Concentrate on your studies. Going forward don't get engaged to a woman unless you truly think the sun rises & sets on her.

Bro you're right,very right...I made a mistake nd I took that relation very lightly but now I have realised she's the one nd I am ready to go up to any limits to show her that I truely love her then its up to her whatever she decides, I will accept it...

 

But my confusion lies here, how to approach her nd tell her all this, directly telling her won't be good I guess as she won't believe me..any help pls..

[Chi townD]

Okay, a little hard to read. I take it that English isn't your first language, but I think I have the jest of it.

 

 

Here's the hard pill to swallow. She said she doesn't have feelings for you anymore. So, why would you want to try and stay with a person that doesn't want you?

 

 

It also sounds like she wants to remain friends with you. Well, you can't. Not while your still have romantic feelings for her. You have to distance yourself. So, you need to go NO CONTACT (NC) with her. No contact whatsoever. Remember, she made the choice and the choice was to have you out of her life. Therefore, you give her what she's asking for.

 

 

You need to show her what life is going to be like without you in it.

[Hbk69]

Okay, a little hard to read. I take it that English isn't your first language, but I think I have the jest of it.

 

 

Here's the hard pill to swallow. She said she doesn't have feelings for you anymore. So, why would you want to try and stay with a person that doesn't want you?

 

 

It also sounds like she wants to remain friends with you. Well, you can't. Not while your still have romantic feelings for her. You have to distance yourself. So, you need to go NO CONTACT (NC) with her. No contact whatsoever. Remember, she made the choice and the choice was to have you out of her life. Therefore, you give her what she's asking for.

 

 

You need to show her what life is going to be like without you in it.

 

Well I have been in 10 relationships nd I know abt NC and I am surely gonna do it...but no NC can make her realise that she may miss me when I am anot around.. But what abt my mistakes?? Should I be honest and tell her that it WS my bad that I fought and I didn't commit to marriage when she asked....my mistake that I didn't take care of her...

 

When is the right time to tell her all that?? I won't force her to be with me or rake me back but I have to admit my mistakes nd show that I am willing yo change...should I do it now or after no contact....

 

Thanks

[Hbk69]

I need more suggestions, help guys