matt1221 Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 I get mixed signals from this girl i've liked for a while. I think she might be a little interested in me, just maybe not as much as I am interested in her. She is always talking about this guy she thinks is hot and asks her friends if she should text him, but it's always within an earshot from where I'm standing. I swear she does it so I can hear it. Even though she is not talking to me directly, i get a sense that she wants me to hear it. I think she's a little self conscious, and she might be trying to sound more appealing to me. Either that or I'm way off and she's trying to tell me she's not interested. Either way, she seems to laugh at my jokes and I catch her checking me out sometimes. I kissed her once, but I doubt she remembers anything ( she drank excessively that night). I've never been good at making the first move or telling a girl how I feel. I think she's been around the block a few times, but oh well nobody's perfect. What is your opinion? And how do you think I should go about making a move on her?
smackie9 Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 (edited) If she is checkin out a hot guy basically in front of you speaks volumes...she's not that into you. Sorry bud but just because a girl is friendly, touchy feelily with you doesn't mean she's interested. The only way to make a move is to ask her out on a date. If she blows you off, move on. Confidence wins the girl. If you fumble and get nervous....not going to work. Edited November 20, 2015 by smackie9 3
Author matt1221 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Posted November 20, 2015 misunderstood.. The guy was not there. She was saying that to her friend in front of me only when I was around.
Raena Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Are you sure you aren't the "hot" guy she's wanting to text? Is this high school? Sounds like it.
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Any woman who talks about another guy in front of a guy who she knows likes her is doing it to dissuade the guy from asking her out or she's an immature B word who is trying to play him & make him jealous. Either way, she's not the girl for you. She could be playing the game Reana suggested & you are the hot guy Either way, game players should be avoided not encouraged.
Wewon Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 I get mixed signals from this girl i've liked for a while. I think she might be a little interested in me, just maybe not as much as I am interested in her. She is always talking about this guy she thinks is hot and asks her friends if she should text him, but it's always within an earshot from where I'm standing. I swear she does it so I can hear it. Even though she is not talking to me directly, i get a sense that she wants me to hear it. I think she's a little self conscious, and she might be trying to sound more appealing to me. Either that or I'm way off and she's trying to tell me she's not interested. Either way, she seems to laugh at my jokes and I catch her checking me out sometimes. I kissed her once, but I doubt she remembers anything ( she drank excessively that night). I've never been good at making the first move or telling a girl how I feel. I think she's been around the block a few times, but oh well nobody's perfect. What is your opinion? And how do you think I should go about making a move on her? Sounds like she's putting you in your place. It will be a very rare woman that will reject you by saying, "Sorry Matt, I'm not interested in you romantically." So to avoid confrontation or an uncomfortable conversation women send 'hints' to frustrate and discourage you from moving forward.
Lois_Griffin Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 She's made it PAINFULLY clear she's not interested. Those aren't mixed signals you're getting just because she occasionally toys with you or laughs at your jokes. 2
xUnknown Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 if she does it so she knows you can hear it, she is doing it to make you jealous. **** that. Find someone else.
Jersey born raised Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 (edited) Not good at making the first move, fine next time she does it walk up to her and say "appreciate the comments, but if you want to hook up - just ask" and then walk away. As you are walking away if she says "I wasn't talking about you" stop turn say "if you say so" start to turn stop and say "hey my loss, my bad, sorry about that" with a grin and walk away. Do not worry about what she or others think, just do it. Hey: while a coward dies a thousand deaths, a brave man but once. As I said to a friend who asked me if I would die for him, "guess so, it is not like I am doing anything special next week. I don't flirt a lot. When I do I consider these points: is it rude, is it crude, is it inappropriate (i.e nuns, married women, CO-WORKER, etc.) Good luck Edited November 20, 2015 by Jersey born raised
Jersey born raised Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 PS if you take my suggestion do not say "if you say so babe". Doing so is both crude and rude and marks you as an *******. If you don't grasp this point stay away from her. You will only make a fool out of yourself.
LoveRefreshed Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 If you're in doubt after what people are posting here, just ask her out. However, from my experience, girls do not talk about other men unless they aren't into you. Some girls may try to play at the jealousy aspect if they think you're playing games. (Have you played games with her?) I think this is more common among highschool girls. If you're above 25, I think it's unlikely she's trying to make you jealous. I mean in some regards, she could be 'hinting' that she has options and if you don't step up, then she's going to move on. Which brings me to my first suggestion. If you like her, ask her out.
Imported Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 OP, there are some women girls even well after high school that try to use jealousy to spur a guy they are interested in to pursue them. In some cases, it's just letting it be known that you are not the only guy in the world. You need to decide for yourself what the situation is and what you are going to do about it. 2
Hopeful30 Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Yes and no. Yes if she's playing games and trying to get your attention this way. No if she's mature.
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