Flyboy Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 All right, I seem to have gotten myself into quite a peculiar situation and I need to outsource some advice. Here's how it goes: I'm good friends with a girl at work since before I was promoted to a manager. Now I am a manager and one of my duties is looking over her area, which was fine since we were just friends. Until just recently, a new female security guard was there for two days and seems to have taken an interest in me. In fact before her last day at my location, she left me her number. Now of course all my friends and colleagues wouldn't leave me alone about this but the girl I mentioned has taken it rather hard. Apparently by her reaction, it would appear that she wanted to be with me. Now, where things get complicated is that if I follow my heart, it says to go out with the girl, but that would be unethical since she is a direct subordinate. To make it more complex, her protective father works for our head office. Now I did make plans to go out with the security guard, but I know it will hurt this girl. I also know I can't talk to the security guard like I can talk to this girl. The other problem is that everyone has a different opinion on this. Some of my friends say to go out with the girl, while another group say the security guard...which is why I'm outsourcing another opinion. What do you guys think? Go out with the girl and be in a sticky situation at work or go out with the security guard and hurt a good friend?
laRubiaBonita Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 FIRST....Quit telling everyone your business at work! i would say not to get involved with either girl, or anyone you work with for that matter.....especially with her dad being semi invovled. And anything Crazy female thing that may happen will certainly not put you, the new manager guy in a good responsible light. Get a social life outside of work, it can happen!
overseas2004 Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 Go out with the person you like better which is clearly not the security guard. And as for being her direct employer well, niether of you sound like you are working as rocket scientists so I am sure she can easily find another job right? By the way, I would like to ask how old each of you are, just so I am sure you did not omit a glaring problem like she's 18 and you are fifty or something like that???
ConfusedInOC Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 I agree. STOP talking about your personal life with co-workers. Nothing good can come of it. You should NOT date a subordinate. If you want to date her, she needs to quit or you need to quit. The security guard is OK since you don't work together.
crazy_grl Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC I agree. STOP talking about your personal life with co-workers. Nothing good can come of it. You should NOT date a subordinate. If you want to date her, she needs to quit or you need to quit. The security guard is OK since you don't work together. Ditto, especially to the not talking about your personal life at work. It doesn't sound like you're that interested in the security guard though, and if you're not, don't lead her on. If your job isn't that permanent, maybe you should talk to the girl you're interested in and see if she'd like to go out. But before you do, make sure one of you has a new job.
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