HansonGirl Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 ...and i don't mean unintentionally said something that you found offensive. I mean someone who actually told you an insult DURING the act. When i was younger i went out with a guy like that, and it actually wasn't what caused us to not go out, we actually went out more after that and the insults kept coming. For some reason i was thinking about him recently, and i remembered that. I still think that's the dumbest thing you could do, to insult your partner DURING sex. Like what is that going to accomplish. However, now that I am older, I think perhaps he was incredibly insecure - he was small in size, and I think perhaps he thought i made fun of him or something (I didn't - i liked him very much at the time, aside from the insults), but I didn't say much (in general) and I was often accused by people of smirking unknowingly (well people would say, "it's not funny, hanna!" and i'd be like, "WHAT?! i didn't say anything!!" so i assume my facial expression looked like i'm amused or something). Anyways, i still think that's a weird thing to do, to hurl insults during the act of sex, I had always thought "did he just say that?! naaaw, there's no way he'd say something like that" but i know he did. not cool. never had it happen before or since this particular person, but i've never been with someone as tiny as he was either!
mrldii Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 No, I would not go out with someone again once they'd deliberately insulted me, in OR out of the bedroom...in the middle of the sex act OR in the middle of Caramel Lattes after dinner.
Author HansonGirl Posted November 20, 2015 Author Posted November 20, 2015 No, I would not go out with someone again once they'd deliberately insulted me, in OR out of the bedroom...in the middle of the sex act OR in the middle of Caramel Lattes after dinner. Well nowadays I wouldn't either, but when I was younger, I convinced myself that he couldn't have possibly have meant that, so i overlooked it. but i agree with you! i wouldn't do it now. this was about 10 years ago or so!
lilmissjava Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 This is just me but the insults started to fly after the relationship was dead and regretting being so nice during and after sex when he wanted validation that he was a "real man" I lied to avoid this very situation lol
RecentChange Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 I have never been insulted while having sex with anyone ever. I honestly can't remember any of my boy firnds saying anything to insult me. I most certainly wouldn't put up with that kind of BS. Now, ordered - in a kinda "rude" way during sex, yes, but that's a turn on for me - more like roll playing then an insult.
Author HansonGirl Posted November 20, 2015 Author Posted November 20, 2015 This is just me but the insults started to fly after the relationship was dead and regretting being so nice during and after sex when he wanted validation that he was a "real man" I lied to avoid this very situation lol I don't understand what you are saying... you are saying he was no longer into me so he insulted me during sex? i guess that'd be an explanation, but nobody was pointing a gun to his head!
lilmissjava Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 I don't understand what you are saying... you are saying he was no longer into me so he insulted me during sex? i guess that'd be an explanation, but nobody was pointing a gun to his head! No, I wasn't implying anything of the sort. He was clearly insecure with himself and to deflect that, he insulted you. That isn't normal.
Author HansonGirl Posted November 20, 2015 Author Posted November 20, 2015 No, I wasn't implying anything of the sort. He was clearly insecure with himself and to deflect that, he insulted you. That isn't normal. oh haha, thanks for clarifying :-) what did you mean that you had to lie?
lilmissjava Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 oh haha, thanks for clarifying :-) what did you mean that you had to lie? I would never insult anyone during sex. I insulted him after the relationship ended... Sometimes cheaters bring out the truth and I told him I lied about him not being small in size when he was. He cheated. Wanted to hurt him back lol I know I'm bad. Bad Java
Maggie4 Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Must have been some kind of fetish, like spanking??
Lansing Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 OP, can you give some examples? Like, was he saying "you gained weight" or was it like "you dirty slut" or something? Maybe he thought he was talking dirty to you, depends on what was said. 1
joseb Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 OP, can you give some examples? Like, was he saying "you gained weight" or was it like "you dirty slut" or something? Maybe he thought he was talking dirty to you, depends on what was said. Yeah, there is a world of difference between the two... OP, can you give some examples?
Buddhist Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 I mean someone who actually told you an insult DURING the act. No. Because that would have been the end of the act, immediately and the end of the relationship or 'dating' too. 1
MoreAmore Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Only when I wanted him too. I am kinky like that.
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