Jonp219 Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 So I went on a date with this girl I met at an event. We met up yesterday after she got out of work and went to a coffee shop. We sat there for 2 hours and just talked about stuff. After 7:30 she said, "I got to go I gotta get up at 6 tomorrow". I said, " Oh OK, I was going to go over there and grab a bite to eat". She said, "Oh OK, well I join you then". I took her to one of my favorite diners, we had a good meal, I tried to be just a little physical (arm touching, hand touching, etc.). However, she really wasn't touching back much or at all. I walked her to the train station and hugged her goodbye. She told me, " text me when you get home" and I playfully said, "nah, you text me lol". It felt like she was more like a good buddy than a potential mate. didn't seem like there was a lot of chemistry from her end even though we eerily have a lot in common. I think I was expecting too much out of a first date, but I feel there should be SOME indicator of sexual chemistry there. I like her, but I don't want to get the wrong idea of her. I normally go for the kiss on the first date but this time I didn't feel like it was right to do so. Should I call back or no?
lilmissjava Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 I would give her another chance, she might not be comfortable just yet to give off those signals you are used to. If there is no second date, you will then know. 1
Author Jonp219 Posted November 19, 2015 Author Posted November 19, 2015 I would give her another chance, she might not be comfortable just yet to give off those signals you are used to. If there is no second date, you will then know. Agreed. We'll see what happens when I ask her out on Saturday.
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 We'll see what happens when I ask her out on Saturday. On Saturday are you planning to ask her to go out with you on a different day some time in the future? If you expect her to want to give you a Saturday night date, you need to ask before Saturday. If some guy I barely knew called me on Saturday for a date that night it is highly unlikely that I'd have room in my social calendar. I'm not talking about a woman who follows "the Rules" and says no on principle. I am reminding you that people have lives. Bear in mind that next week is a holiday & many people have family obligations that don't leave much room for dating, so if she says she is busy don't automatically assume she's not into you. This is a busy time of year. Seriously, the next free weekend I have is Saturday January 30, 2016. I'm not kidding. 1
Author Jonp219 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Posted November 20, 2015 On Saturday are you planning to ask her to go out with you on a different day some time in the future? If you expect her to want to give you a Saturday night date, you need to ask before Saturday. If some guy I barely knew called me on Saturday for a date that night it is highly unlikely that I'd have room in my social calendar. I'm not talking about a woman who follows "the Rules" and says no on principle. I am reminding you that people have lives. Bear in mind that next week is a holiday & many people have family obligations that don't leave much room for dating, so if she says she is busy don't automatically assume she's not into you. This is a busy time of year. Seriously, the next free weekend I have is Saturday January 30, 2016. I'm not kidding. God no lol. I'm asking her out on Saturday to take her out early next week. I'm almost NEVER free on weekends so I understand where you're coming from lol 1
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