allofme Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 The longest I could last was 4 days. What is wrong with me? He made it clear that he doesn't want me, said he hopes I can find someone better soon and said this is over for millions of times. I still managed to humiliate myself by calling and texting. It's clear that he doesnt have anything left to say to me and doesn't want to take my calls. I am feeling very upset disappointed with myself. I didn't go crazy or harass him. I just can't understand why i am still reaching out. Words can't describe how upset I am with myself.
Skullheart Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 I know how you feel, my long term ex told me the exact same thing. I know it's hard and it feels like you're going to die but you just have to hang in there and not contact him, it will only just make things worse. I made the mistake of contacting my ex within the first two weeks of our break up thinking to myself that talking to her will make her want to stay and not forget about me but it didn't help anything. It's been a month since I last talked to her and it has gotten a little better but it does still hurt and she is always on my mind but it is the only way to move forward. If anything I'd say block him on all social media and remove his number to avoid the temptation to contact him.
Amelie1980 Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 The longest I could last was 4 days. What is wrong with me? He made it clear that he doesn't want me, said he hopes I can find someone better soon and said this is over for millions of times. I still managed to humiliate myself by calling and texting. It's clear that he doesnt have anything left to say to me and doesn't want to take my calls. I am feeling very upset disappointed with myself. I didn't go crazy or harass him. I just can't understand why i am still reaching out. Words can't describe how upset I am with myself. In situations like this...doesnt it make you feel worse to get nowhere with contact?
mightycpa Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Why, you're weak, of course. On your contact list, change his name to "No Contact". If you do contact him in a moment of further weakness, ask him for a video of himself reminding you that you are not wanted. Ask him to get brutal with you so that it sinks in. In order to change, you have to be as strong as you are weak.
Gmuck Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Picture this. You call or text and he just laughs and shows his friends. He shows them and tells them how pathetic you are. How he could have you at anytime. How he stepped on you and broke your heart and you still want him. His ego is swelling. Every call or text he gets bigger and better. He feels so much stronger than you everytime you reach out. I hope reading this makes you see how weak you look and at this point all you have left is your respect. You have nothing else with him but memories and it's you versus him. You aren't a team anymore it's just you and all you have left is respect. So don't give him that. Go no contact and tell yourself everyday you make it thru is one more day where you are taking that power away from him. Everyday you will in away make him weaker by no contact. Block on social media and write down his number, put it Ina drawer and delete on your phone. Just that little hurdle can help. If you keep contacting him, you will push him away and he will lose all respect for you and you will seal the deal on never hearing from him again. Guaranteed. You have to break the addiction. That is what it is. Find one of your girlfriends and see if you can call and text them anytime of the day when you feel the urge. A lot of it is the habit of texting and calls. You breakup and boom you realize how dead your phone is because 90% of the stuff before was with him. A friend who can temporarily fill in that urge when you want to text or call will help. I swear if you can make it 2 weeks you will feel the power. The power that you haven't contacted him. The power that it's been 2 weeks and he hasn't heard from you. Then you will want to shoot for 3 weeks. And so on. I'm 17 weeks in of no email, text, call or in person contact. At this point my pride and respect has grown from this and even though I do want to contact her, my bigger want/need over that is going for 18 weeks. Just get 2 weeks under your belt. It's going to be tough. Just know that going in. Good luck. Many of us have done it. So can you. You are just as human as we are. We aren't any more special.
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