Coollaxer Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 So she's my first real girlfriend. First love. First everything sex, not kiss but she's the first one I've had sex with and touched another women's body. Now we are both 18 and we have been dating 6 and a half months and I ****ed up.. No I didn't cheat or anything like that I'm not like that. But after we lost our virginites to each other we promised to keep it between us. And I didnt... I told 5 of my friends. NOT BLABBING about what we did or how we did it just simply saying yes that we did have sex but one friend in particular always told me be wanted to go get me laid and I always told him I wanted to do it right and that In a special way. So I texted him saying that "hey I have to tell you somthing that finally happened" and he just sent back a smirky face so he knew and that was that but I tried explaining to her that I said finally bc he is always trying to get me to lose my v card and that's how I did it.. Now what happen is I lied to her and she went through my phone to find out all the messages that I told people and that was 3 and a half months ago. Now it's felt really different latley and she finally told me she hasn't been able to trust me. But prior to this we had sex and a condom broke and she freaked out and we got a plan b ands she came to my house to pick it up, I was kinda sketched out by her taking it in front my house (stupid on my part) and she sisd she would go take it in a parking lot and it was 9 at night. So she took it by her self. And she freaked out on me. Badly and how I wasn't there for her and it's just that she hasn't Been able to trust me. But the funny part is she told 2 people we had sex when she was drunk with out asking me and she's furious I told 6 people but it's not that bad on her that she told 2 ( she did tell me the Next morning and did not lie to me.) but other than that I treat this girl like a legit princess and that is no exaggeration. So Is my first love almost over or is there some way to fix this?
mystikmind2005 Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 Oh my, she has allot to learn about guys doesn't she? hehehehe You have allot to learn about women as well, and just remember that feelings are not always logical or fair.... you have to allow some give and take in that regard,, don't be too rigid with logic and fairness, but don't be a doormat either, just find a good balance in between You have a good chance to save this if you can avoid getting carried away with the intense emotions, you need to learn to discipline your emotions or they will use you.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Oh my, she has allot to learn about guys doesn't she? hehehehe You have allot to learn about women as well, and just remember that feelings are not always logical or fair.... you have to allow some give and take in that regard,, don't be too rigid with logic and fairness, but don't be a doormat either, just find a good balance in between You have a good chance to save this if you can avoid getting carried away with the intense emotions, you need to learn to discipline your emotions or they will use you. This is great advice. OP, you have to understand that 18-year-old girls generally aren't the most logic-driven individuals. I wasn't either at her age. She is letting her emotions control her actions and it sounds like she might enjoy the control she has by "freaking out" and getting you to lick her wounds when she's upset. She took a pill alone in a parking lot - really? Holy Drama Queen. And you were "sketched out" by taking a pill in front of your house? Come on. It could have been anything to the casual observer, even an aspirin. Look, if she really was so hurt by your actions she'd already be gone. I understand her not loving the fact that you weren't honest about who you shared your private life with, but if cannot work with you to overcome that then it's not going to work.
Samhain Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 You were freaked out about her taking a pill in front of your house?? As though any onlooker would know you had sex and an accident occurred? When women, or girls in this case, speak about losing their virginity it's probably different to a guy bragging he finally lost his. Maybe that's her issue. Your friends talking about "you gotta lose your v card" may not have been the ideal people your girlfriend wanted to know about her personal life. It's all down to maturity. You both have a way to go.
Buddhist Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Let her have her hissy fit, I get the vibe she'll probably get over it.
Lois_Griffin Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 You already had a long thread on this silliness several months ago. Do you kids think you're the very first humans to blab to your friends that you finally had sex? That childish nonsense has been going on since the dawn of time. I will say you were a complete jackass for acting like some paranoid child about her taking a pill in front of your house. You clearly aren't equipped to handle the adult ramifications of a sexual relationship, that's painfully apparent. You two have a whole lot of growing up to do. More so, you should be on your knees kissing her feet that at least SHE had the good sense to take that Plan B pill and wasn't foolish enough to entertain the idea of being pregnant instead of taking it. Even though her infant boyfriend acted like a douche bag and made her go off to some parking lot to take it. Good God.
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