LOLITA85 Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 So court decided my ex fiancé could take the baby with him for 4 hours a week on Sunday. He comes and gets the baby at my mothers home so my mother interacts with him so I don't have to face him. The 2 times he took the baby along he sent me pictures of her. I don't see those as important messages since I am in low contact and did not respond. Today I get a new picture of him and the baby and a long text with emotional BS saying how he understood how it probably hurt me he took our baby along on Sunday, but that it's good we love her both on our sides and to look at how happy she looks on the picture and blablabla ... I am not going to go into details, but basically emotional BS once again. What I would want to understand is what is he trying to do sending me those texts ? I have been ignoring him for a while (because I do not feel I need to have contact unless it's about urgent things involving the baby) he left me for someone else after the baby was born, if he is that happy, why is he even putting his time into this ? And am I doing good by ignoring him ? Advice is greatly appreciated !
SunlightJune Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 Tell him to stop contacting you unless it is an important message about the baby. Tell him he doesn't get to act like everything is fine after what he did.
7121157 Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 So court decided my ex fiancé could take the baby with him for 4 hours a week on Sunday. He comes and gets the baby at my mothers home so my mother interacts with him so I don't have to face him. The 2 times he took the baby along he sent me pictures of her. I don't see those as important messages since I am in low contact and did not respond. Today I get a new picture of him and the baby and a long text with emotional BS saying how he understood how it probably hurt me he took our baby along on Sunday, but that it's good we love her both on our sides and to look at how happy she looks on the picture and blablabla ... I am not going to go into details, but basically emotional BS once again. What I would want to understand is what is he trying to do sending me those texts ? I have been ignoring him for a while (because I do not feel I need to have contact unless it's about urgent things involving the baby) he left me for someone else after the baby was born, if he is that happy, why is he even putting his time into this ? And am I doing good by ignoring him ? Advice is greatly appreciated ! Sorry youre going thru this. I think it is good what you're doing. Only communicate if its about the baby, and when you do keep the conversation "business" like. Shouldnt really talk about anything else outside of your baby. You really wont know why he's doing what he's doing. If you try an investigate why, that might set you back again. Its a risk to take. But honestly, from my experience, trying to figure out the meaning will drive you crazy. Just my opinion. Remember to love yourself and know youre better than all that BS being thrown at you. Know your worth and your value. Take care of yourself, because youre the only one that controls your happiness. 1
Blanco Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 Take it a step further and suggest that any interaction between you two be done via email and only concern logistics regarding your daughter.
Author LOLITA85 Posted November 19, 2015 Author Posted November 19, 2015 The problem is I did tell him several times to only contact me if something was wrong with the baby or if he wouldn't be able to make it for some reason to come and get her. I've been ignoring his texts, but it's like he keeps trying and it's annoying and is hurting my recovery because YES I do wonder what's his deal by sending me those things.
7121157 Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 The problem is I did tell him several times to only contact me if something was wrong with the baby or if he wouldn't be able to make it for some reason to come and get her. I've been ignoring his texts, but it's like he keeps trying and it's annoying and is hurting my recovery because YES I do wonder what's his deal by sending me those things. Keep ignoring it. Its all you can do. Eventually, he'll give up. The hardest part is overthinking what the message means. You can also talk to him, and let him know you would like him to stop with those kinds of messages.
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