Long term relationship went poof. What went wrong and are my standards too high?

[Rejected Rosebud]

If I were a "hot girl" I would realize that it's a depreciating commodity and not get so arrogant about it.

If any person thinks of themselves mostly as a commodity, they probably have issues and you'd do best to stay away. I have no clue whether your ex had any of these kinds of issues, all we got is your pov and that is telling me that you are definitely buying into this thing.

 

BTW I am all in favor of people going out with others who they are very attracted to. Nothing wrong with that, but you are looking at it weird. Like her looks are the standard.

 

You described your relationship with her 100% in terms of how into you she was. All we know about her is that she is hot. And you finally told her you were interested in her after months of her pursuing you. Maybe it was too late.

[eightninevision]

I see what you're saying, but it's just due to me providing limited information to keep it brief.

 

Obviously we had lots in common. And we spent a lot of close time together on trips, etc. We both expressed we were "into each other" many times during our relationship, and were officialy dating, so obviously we were into each other. But it wasn't until the very end that we both said I love you. Then she split.

[Rejected Rosebud]

I kind of think that if you talked about your concerns and feelings regarding why your relationship ended the way it did, and how you need a new girlfriend as hot as the last one, in 2 separate threads, you would have got a better kind of response.

[Grumpybutfun]

Men are shallow. It's how we're wired. You want a hot GF. Nothing wrong with that.

 

Keep holding out for a woman you find very attractive. Otherwise you're doing yourself a disservice and wasting the time of both of you. You do not need to settle. Sure, women on here will call you shallow. Who cares.

 

As far as the ex, be glad for your turn. That's all she really was. If she'd proven herself to be a keeper, then it would be a real loss. But she wasn't. So, forget her and be grateful for the sex and fun times.

 

Keep doing you, and don't f*cking settle.

 

Speak for yourself, pup! Yes, the only worth of women is looks so don't settle for anything that will make you happy. Even if she is a an idiot with no personality and dumber than a rock, don't settle. Beauty is everything. Lmao

 

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Edited November 20, 2015 by Grumpybutfun

[eightninevision]

I kind of think that if you talked about your concerns and feelings regarding why your relationship ended the way it did, and how you need a new girlfriend as hot as the last one, in 2 separate threads, you would have got a better kind of response.

 

 

Well, break ups lead to complicated emotions.

 

 

Let's assume this girl was in it just for the chase, and that she did just stick around until she had me on the hook. Then I chased her after we broke up. She never ignored my texts, but gave me pretty short responses. I told her off once, and apologized a few days later and she responded with a very long text saying she understood and had then had a short story to tell me.

 

 

But we have not gone more than 10 days without contact since the breakup (my fault). Assuming this is all about her "tinglies" and all she wants to know is that I'm on the hook. Two months until she moves. You think if I don't make a move she'll reach out to see why I stopped chasing?

 

Take your wagers now, because that's what I'm doin, and I'll let you know what happens.

[Silver_star]

good luck with that.

[eightninevision]

good luck with that.

 

That's a wager I can't do it I believe? Haha

[eightninevision]

Men are shallow. It's how we're wired. You want a hot GF. Nothing wrong with that.

 

Keep holding out for a woman you find very attractive. Otherwise you're doing yourself a disservice and wasting the time of both of you. You do not need to settle. Sure, women on here will call you shallow. Who cares.

 

As far as the ex, be glad for your turn. That's all she really was. If she'd proven herself to be a keeper, then it would be a real loss. But she wasn't. So, forget her and be grateful for the sex and fun times.

 

Keep doing you, and don't f*cking settle.

 

Thanks, Oregon_Dude. I've read some of your other posts and I like your wavelength.

 

Honestly, it's super tough holding out for these girls I'm really turned on by. I dated the captain of the cheerleading team in highschool and got burned (obviously, it's high school), then went on to a girl I was barely attracted to out of convenience and totally broke her heart during college, which made me feel awful. Huge period of time between that one and me at 26 y/o now with this past girl who broke my heart. In between I went 3-6 months at times without getting laid, which, being in my sexual prime, is kinda absurd if you ask me.

 

So the downside to having this complex of wanting a physically stunning woman is that I have a lot of time between girlfriends and keep getting burned by the hotties!