thebiglimp Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 i met this girl on tinder for a one night stand, sex is incredible, turns into two, three night stands. i wanna make it more permanent, a relationship, so i ask her out, she refuses, we still meet for you-know-what, then on the fifth and the last time, i let it be known in so many words that i will not see her again unless we go on a date. once again she refuses, letting me know that this is pure tinder/sex thing and she has other guys lined up. but somehow we get emotional in the end of the night, and as i leave, she starts crying. sad, genuine tears. i comfort her, assuring her that she can trust me. so we go on a date the next week, planning to spend the whole day together but she overreacts on little things i say, acting pissed off all day, and after dinner, tells me to go home. we barely had any communication that day, her just overreacting and ignoring me, while still spending time together for 6 hours... we now only text briefly, and she avoids the question of next date. and here are some extra tidbits that confuse me even more. -she had at least two guys i know of, lined up for short term dating thing. she'd tell me she had dinner with this guy, cuddled with that guy, ect. these i know for truth. yet she cries at little old me when i ask her for a date, the same kind of thing? -she did text me after ditching me that night that she was afraid of love. but given the circumstances, and the fact it was but a text, i still find it hard to believe she was telling the truth. i mean she acts like i'm dirt then sends me that kind of dramatic comment? what can i take from this? and can i still win her over?
Ic1 Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 You can take a warning that this one is dangerous! Why would you want to put any more effort into her? And even if she started chasing you and asking you out, would it be best for you to say "yes"?
losangelena Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 I don't think you can win her over. People are complicated and have complicated emotions. But take her at her word—she doesn't want anything more. You will probably both have an easier time if you adhere to that fact. 1
joseb Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 Either see her as a shag buddy or stop seeing her. Stop trying to force her into a relationship when she has clearly told you that's not what she wants. 1
xcupid Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 Time to find someone else. This whole thing just won't turn out well.
mystikmind2005 Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 I cannot find any fault with her at all because she was completely honest with you from the start with what she wants. Obviously she is sad she cannot have a loving relationship, any woman would be, and you are rubbing salt in that wound. Just go for FWB and try to be a good friend to her and perhaps in the long run, who knows?
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