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My ex girlfriend just wants sex with me but she has a relationship

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Andfnd4 New Member

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I broke up with my ex girlfriend of two years six months ago, it was because she had a problem with my parents I wasn't able to establish peace between them fast enough, after the breakup I asked her to come back and she didn't, we stopped talking for about a month because she wanted to be friends with me but it didn't work, after that she reached me and said ended up having sex regularly for obout two months until I asked her to come back again and she refused again, now she has been dating another guy for about two months and are a couple since last week but she reached me again and had sex, she is having sex with both of us and I asked her why is she doing it if she has a boyfriend now, she told that she simply likes too much having sex with me and that she wouldn't come back because I hurt her too much because I took too much time to solve the things between she and my parents and she just doesn't love me anymore, she wants to keep having sex a couple of weeks because she is going very serious with this new guy and she is in live with him, she says she is almost sure she will never come back but she wants to be friends.

 

I still love her but I don't know what to do, obviously she is playing with me but I can't let her go.

stillafool Established Member

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Stop having sex with her. She will not come back when she is getting what she wants withou the relationship. If you are that great in bed some other girl will treat you like a king and not some side piece. I know you love her but she has closed the door to a relationship. Do you want to share fluids with her when she is sharing her real life with someone else? She had a good opportunity to come back but she didn't and won't. Move on. And, you CAN let her go. Be strong and move on because that's what will impress her.

JollyDays Established Member

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Let's see...you broke up with her basically because her and your parents couldn't get along...wants FWB, so you oblige...doesn't want to rekindle the relationship but you still pine for her...enters another relationship, but wants to continue the FWB arrangement, your feelings and her current SO be damned...

 

 

So to summarize...she has created discord in your family...****s around on her SO with you, AND is playing you like a fiddle.

 

 

AGAIN, WHAT DO YOU SEE IN HER?

 

 

She is a narcissistic slutbag, and you're playing Russian Roulette with your health (HIV).

 

 

Don't mean to be harsh, just keeping it real (KIR in my world).

 

 

Institute no-contact for your own well-being.

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Itspointless Established Member

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Why don't you ask what her new boyfriend thinks about this? I am curious to his opinion.

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stillafool Established Member

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OP, honestly she does sound like a slut. Move on you can do better.

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mightycpa Established Member

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I'll bet that there are hundreds of guys who would love to be in your position.

 

I'm going to go against the grain here. One of the biggest problems that the dumped have is that they see their exes as one idealized thing, when really, they are flawed people. NC is frequently advised to help them detach.

 

I'm here to tell you there's another way. It will hurt, for a while, but the reward at the end is that you see your ex in a completely different light... you see her as she is, not what your memory wants her to be.

 

You take her up on her offer, and bang her like a screen door in a hurricane... but this is the important part - NOTHING ELSE. She can spend the night, but only if she blows or bangs you in the AM. If she's tired and has to leave early for work, tell her to go home. If she wants breakfast, give her five bucks. Treat her just like the person she's offering to you.

 

I'm telling you, this is a path to recovery too.

 

Who she really is will soak in eventually, and in the end, you'll see her for the hosebag she must be. I guarantee that you'll find indifference very quickly.

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Clearly Evolution doesn't always get it right. Because you would think it is in the best interest of a species to actually want to detach from the parents in order to go and reproduce??

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Charlie Harper Established Member

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You should move on, she is a cheater, and she is not worthy material, what if she comes back with you and have sex with is "other2 exboyfriend? SEE?

 

Move on, plenty of fish in the sea...

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End it now. This will turn out very badly for you. She claims to be in love with him - yet you're okay with letting her have sex with you? Seriously? Tell her no more. Then see if she really does choose you over him. Then you'll know your answer. But you will always - and I mean always, come up as second choice if you let her have her cake and eat it too. In the end, you will be the only one left hurting.

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Andfnd4 New Member

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Thank you to everyone for your advices, I already left her

Wewon Established Member

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I see that my advice has saved the day.

 

My work is done here. :-)

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Thank you to everyone for your advices, I already left her

 

She sounds extremely manipulative and selfish. Make sure she doesn't try to lure you back into doing what she wants by waving the hope of reconciliation in front of your face. People like this can pull out all the stops if they aren't getting their own way, I was stuck in a similar situation for years.

Good Luck.

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Chi townD Established Member

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Gee...you had to break up with her because her and your parents weren't getting along? I wonder if your parents saw something in her that you didn't see? I mean, if she was cheating on her current boyfriend with you....I'm betting that they did.

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JollyDays Established Member

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She sounds extremely manipulative and selfish. Make sure she doesn't try to lure you back into doing what she wants by waving the hope of reconciliation in front of your face. People like this can pull out all the stops if they aren't getting their own way, I was stuck in a similar situation for years.

Good Luck.

 

 

I can relate as well, which I was so harsh in my message---not towards him, since I don't know him, but the situation itself. I allowed a manipulator to yank me around for about 4 years after our breakup with her breadcrumbs, and in the end, she said I was nothing more than a loser---before she met me, when we were together, and forever (in her opinion, which amounts to a warm bucket of piss), which is strange, since she was pregnant by a married man with 4 kids at home, but what do I know? LOL

 

 

I hate seeing people getting caught up in their feelings for these manipulators, aka narcissists, because that's all they are. Oh, what wasted years. :(

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walkingonair Established Member

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Respect yourself. Stop having sex with her! She isn't respecting you, she's treating you like garbage. Don't you wanna be treated with respect?

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