Tdog2121 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 So quick overview... I met this girl a while back and we dated and lived together for almost 2 years. Eventually she left me for what I thought at the time was another guy. I went strict NC for 5 months and never truly got over her. She reached out to me and we got back together and during that time she told me she didn't actually leave me for another guy she just told me that so I would leave her alone. During those 5 months of NC she had a new boyfriend for 3 of those months. We started having the same problems again after a month of us getting back together. Now she's back with the ex that she dated for those 3 months even after she told me she hated him and talked really badly about him. What do I do now?
Amelie1980 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 So quick overview... I met this girl a while back and we dated and lived together for almost 2 years. Eventually she left me for what I thought at the time was another guy. I went strict NC for 5 months and never truly got over her. She reached out to me and we got back together and during that time she told me she didn't actually leave me for another guy she just told me that so I would leave her alone. During those 5 months of NC she had a new boyfriend for 3 of those months. We started having the same problems again after a month of us getting back together. Now she's back with the ex that she dated for those 3 months even after she told me she hated him and talked really badly about him. What do I do now? Nothing. I wish I could take this advice myself but: when someone treats you like an option remove yourself as an option. She moved on with another guy... can you consider dating?
Dylon Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Surely you know what the answer is. What do you want to happen that is within your control? "Move along. She's not the one you are looking for."
Draper Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 You walk away - this time for good. Don't ever let yourself be someone's second choice.
Chi townD Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 So quick overview... I met this girl a while back and we dated and lived together for almost 2 years. Eventually she left me for what I thought at the time was another guy. I went strict NC for 5 months and never truly got over her. She reached out to me and we got back together and during that time she told me she didn't actually leave me for another guy she just told me that so I would leave her alone. During those 5 months of NC she had a new boyfriend for 3 of those months. We started having the same problems again after a month of us getting back together. Now she's back with the ex that she dated for those 3 months even after she told me she hated him and talked really badly about him. What do I do now? You move on and don't look back. Dude, you have to see that she's lying to you. You went NC for 5 months but she dated someone for 3. Dude, she was cheating on you and she left you for this other dude. It's all about appearance; but, not only for you but for everyone! If one day she's with you and then the next she with a new guy, people are going to know she cheated on you. So, she probably kept this new relationship secret until enough time went by where she felt comfortable enough to take this new relationship public. My guess, this new dude kicked her to the curb and she came running back to her back up plan (you). But, I suspect that this dude reached out to her and she went running back. Dude, you are NOT someone's back up plan. You are NOT a consolation prize. You deserve someone who is going to cherish what the two of you have together and there are girls out there that know how to be loyal to the guy they chose as their own. That wants to be with you because there's no other place in the world she would rather be. This bitch isn't it. Time to heal and move on. You know the saying screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice shame on me. Start a hard NC on her and move on.
mightycpa Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Tell her YES to the sex, NO to everything else. Girls love that.
Wewon Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Now she's back with the ex that she dated for those 3 months even after she told me she hated him and talked really badly about him. What do I do now? You know that NC thing your did? Do it again...permanently. Seriously, there is a point when you are only participating in your own pain. On top of that, she never really has to make a decision since both of your are welcoming her back with open arms. Let her make it work with the other guy (the one she speaks badly of and hated).
xUnknown Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Don't believe her... she left you with him. She only said that because had she told you the truth, it would be harder for her to manipulate you into being back with her. move on from this one...
qubist Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Man, she can't even make her mind she must be the problem then. wish her a happu life with the other guy and move on
Amelie1980 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I dont think it is because she cant make her mind up. I think she wants the other guy, he isnt sure about her and she keeps coming back to you as a fall back.
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