goodbyebluesky Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 me and my ex boyfriend dated for a little over a year. things were great for a long time. he always knew what to say, he did everything for me, he always would tell me how much I'm worth the world to him and he loves me and wants a future with me and so on... over the past few months things begin to get rocky. we started to argue a lot over the most pointless things and I could tell he was getting tired of it, so was I. about 3 and a half weeks ago he said we should take a break because doesn't no if he wants to be in a relationship anymore and that he's depressed and needs to learn to make himself happy before he can be happy with someone. we took our break which turned into a break up because we agreed it wasn't fair for me to be waiting around for him to decide if he wants to be with me anymore. so then we didn't speak for about a week and then one morning he called me saying how he misses me and loves me and wants to see me and try to make us work. we made plans to hangout for this past weekend. then when Friday came around he messaged me saying he doesn't think we should hangout anymore so I asked why and he said he hungout with a girl over the night and "things happened".. I was and still am devastated.. then in Saturday he even went to a porn convention with a girl and this guy which is completely not like how he was when we dated. I have a feeling that was the girl he hooked up with but I'm not completely sure, and it's confusing because I know she has a young baby at home and lives with her boyfriend, if they even are boyfriend and girlfriend anymore. I don't get it. so this past week I've been very upset and trying to move on but then come yesterday he changes his Facebook to "in a relationship" but doesn't tag anyone's name in it.. so I deleted him because I can't take seeing things anyone, I'm getting to hurt. I don't know if he did that to get me mad or jealous, I don't know if it's true... but I'm so hurt, I'm so upset and mad and confused.. I'm physicall sick over it all.. I don't know what to think or believe about anything anymore... I'm having such a hard time dealing with this.. it's like he's a completely new person.. I'm becoming so depressed.
Ivanov1990 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 The girl i dated is now with a girl and im a boy. Think of it this way, the person you once knew is no longer the same. Your boyfriend that you were with before has now changed into a new person and even if you did get back together it wouldn't even be the same. I suggest you do no contact with this guy and i guarantee he will eventually contact you.
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Break ups hurt & they leave you questioning a lot. However you know things weren't good. You also know he's a smooth talker. The fact that he was emotionally out of your relationship before you official broke up explains why he moved on already. It's good that you deleted his FB. You need to not see him.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Break ups hurt & they leave you questioning a lot. However you know things weren't good. You also know he's a smooth talker. The fact that he was emotionally out of your relationship before you official broke up explains why he moved on already. It's good that you deleted his FB. You need to not see him. I agree with all of the above. He was already detaching emotionally from you before he broke up with you. It hurts a lot now, and this is understandable. It seems the reasons he gave for breaking up (not wanting to be in a relationship) were not entirely true if he's already with someone else. You did yourself a huge favour by deleting him. He shouldn't be in your life in any capacity anymore.
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