Persiancat Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 So I've known this guy since uni days, 4 years now. Initially he used to have a crush and was obsessed with me. I was dating someone then. Later on it phased out and he found a gf. We remained friends and occasionally flirted around. We spent a lot of time talking and getting to know each other. It's been years now. He had a bad break up a while back and was totally in the dumps. I hear from mutual friends he was sleeping around which he never did before. We met up recently for a party with drinks and he was getting overly flirtatious with me. I thought it was just fun and flirted back as usual and he finally implied he wanted to have sex,for fun. I was totally thrown back by it and i said no. He got really hurt and angry and stopped talking to me. We met recently and had a huge fight and i was like although i like him but that doesn't mean i would get involved. I dont do casual and he knows it . I then cut him out and stopped talking to him (we'd catchup every week for years now). He then sent me a couple of apologies and says he's values me and doesn't want to lose me and is trying to fix things, but i just don't see this as a friendship anymore. I don't get what is it he wants. Is it to try and get into my pants again. I have lost all trust. Any advice from guys on this?
Gloria25 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Why don't you simply ask him. I believe a lot of women are passive. I don't play that. I would ask a guy up front what he wants. All you have to say is something like, "At one point you were into me, had a gf, and now you're back...what's going on here? Are you interested in dating me, trying to hook-up, etc?
mystikmind2005 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 A classic case of flirting confusion. (Guys usually perceive flirting differently than women, in case you didn't know) 1
TheArtist Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 Guy playfully flirts with girl, girl is flattered. Girl playfully flirts with guy, guy thinks he's in. Every. Single. Time.
PegNosePete Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 I don't get what is it he wants. Is it to try and get into my pants again. Yes, most likely. He lost the battle but he thinks he can win the war if he plays his cards right.
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