Kkristine Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Background: I met my boyfriend at work when he first started there 3 years ago. At the time, there were several rumors going around about him & another coworker dating because they were always together. I noticed it as well and believed it to be true. Then again, she had a certain reputation. She flirted with all of the men, and never made friends with any of the women. I quit & we began dating after that, and have been together since. I never took notice to their friendship & their texting was very minimal. About 6 months ago, he tells me that that she has been having marital issues and "hates her life". Around the same time, the texting has significantly gone up. In the evenings after he comes home from work, they are texting. He texts her when we are in bed. He texts her on the weekends. It's pretty constant. He says that their texts are mainly work-related, but I can't help but feel negatively about it. I bring it up to him, but he just plays it off & thinks I'm being ridiculous. I've seen some of the texts. They seem harmless, but there were some that raised an eyebrow. Is it necessary for a married woman to to send a selfie to another guy (who's in a relationship) asking if they like your new haircut? I'm not really worried about my boyfriend doing anything, although I guess if that was true, I wouldn't care if they texted.. I guess I am just asking if this is something I should be worried about? It's obvious that my communicating with him isn't working. We've talked about the texting issue in general, and he feels it would be inappropriate if I was texting male co-workers, so why is this any different?
Glitters Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 It amazes me every time I read something like this. The ' just friends ' , ' just co workers ' is sorry , just a way to minimize your feelings and get away. You can let go only enough times. I work , have co workers but never send my selfies to male co workers. Of course I do to my female friends. If you texting your male friends is not acceptable to him then he should do the same. Call him on it.
truth_seeker Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 He's texting this woman while he's in bed with you? Get some self-respect and throw his ass to the curb! He's at the very least emotionally cheating on you. Would you text another man while you're in bed with your boyfriend? Ask yourself that. Your boyfriend probably hooked up with her in the past, she wants to hook up with him, he's into the idea, so what does that tell you? BTW, 3 years dating? Why no marriage proposal? Get rid of this guy. Writing is on the wall to leave him.
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Yes it's something you should be concerned about. This woman is highly emotionally invested in your BF. He cares more about her mental well being. If it was work related it would go in spurts. there would be periods during a project of frequent communication then there would be lulls. The constant stream of contact is way more than "just friends." He needs to cool it or you need to bow out gracefully because by not respecting your wishes on the subject & toning it down he's picking her over you & your relationship. 1
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