Kylemopar Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Ive been flirting with my coworker, I asked to take her out on Friday at 9pm she said yes and gave me her number. I called her and texted her after to arrange where we will go. She didn't pick up and texted me the next day telling that she meant to reply sooner but she has been working and that Friday night not work for her but wants to let me know if Friday still works because she doesn't know what time she'll be back from her trip. I told her that it was okay and not to worry about it and that maybe we can reschedule to saturday instead and she replied again a day later saying that she's not sure if Saturday might work and then asked if she can just let me know when she is able to. Is she trying to tell me that she's not interested or could she possible have legit reason? I'm going to see her at work on the weekend so I don't know why she or anyone would play games with someone you 'know' you're going to see again.
PegNosePete Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Why not just tell her sure, let me know when you're free. You've got nothing to lose. Don't put your life on hold for her or anything. Make other plans. If she gets back to you with a firm date, then good. If not, no loss.
Tetley Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Sorry your guess is better than mine. A couple of possiblities: 1) She didn't want to hurt your feelings when you first asked her out so said yes. Know doesn't know what to say. 2) She likes you but is having second thoughts about dating a co-worker. 3) She likes you but isn't ready to date because it's brough back feelings of an ex who mistreated her. 4) etc........ Anyhow, (several) balls in her court. Don't take it to heart, don't be an ******* about it - not that you're gonna of course Let her come to you if she does. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Ive been flirting with my coworker, I asked to take her out on Friday at 9pm she said yes and gave me her number. I called her and texted her after to arrange where we will go. She didn't pick up and texted me the next day telling that she meant to reply sooner but she has been working and that Friday night not work for her but wants to let me know if Friday still works because she doesn't know what time she'll be back from her trip. Yet another social misfit who can't be bothered to pick up the phone and has to text a reply. I told her that it was okay and not to worry about it and that maybe we can reschedule to saturday instead and she replied again a day later saying that she's not sure if Saturday might work and then asked if she can just let me know when she is able to. I wouldn't waste my time with Miss Thang. She cant even give you the courtesy of a return phone call, and her lame, impersonal texts - which make damned sure she doesn't commit to anything - take 24 hours to be sent. I wouldn't waste my time with someone like this. 2
truth_seeker Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 You made the move. Now sit back and let her come to you. Women like to feel in control of the situation. I can tell you this: I had a friend who tried to set me up with his cousin. I was interested but not THAT interested. I thought about what would happen if it didn't work and how it would affect my friendship with my friend. For me to put the friendship before her, it meant I wasn't wowed by the girl. If I was wowed, I would respect our friendship but not have it be some kind of hurdle. My point is if she is concerned about you two working together to prevent going out with you, then she is not that into you. If someone is very into you, they make the effort, time and don't let anything get in the way.
Wewon Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Is she trying to tell me that she's not interested or could she possible have legit reason? I'm going to see her at work on the weekend so I don't know why she or anyone would play games with someone you 'know' you're going to see again. Ahhh, the true riddle of the male dating experience, having to decide if you're being fed BS or hearing a legit reason. We've all had to figure this out, and usually through painful trial and error. My mantra, interested people act interested. When was the last time you did this with someone that you were excited about dating? I'm not saying that its automatic that she's blowing you off, but it can't be naively ruled out since women usually reject in this manner as opposed to "Sorry, Kyle, I'm not interested". I'd say, tell her to let you know when she's free, leave the ball in her court and move on. Keep in mind that its a pretty good chance that she won't call.
Author Kylemopar Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 If she doesn't tell me anything after today, should I talk to her when I see her? We work together so I WILL see her...its gonna be awkward, I really want to go out with her so much. Maybe I can make her more interested during that time. She said that she's single with no kids, and asks how my fridays went. Most times she walks towards me she smiles while looking away from the corner of her eye.
Wewon Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 If she doesn't tell me anything after today, should I talk to her when I see her? We work together so I WILL see her...its gonna be awkward, I really want to go out with her so much. Maybe I can make her more interested during that time. She said that she's single with no kids, and asks how my fridays went. Most times she walks towards me she smiles while looking away from the corner of her eye. By no means should you be impolite or unprofessional. You still act in a way that is becoming of your position. I would literally put this off and stop trying. Just keep in mind that she's not interested in you and she most likely won't say it explicitly.
Author Kylemopar Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 So I can't even ask her what happened again on Saturday when I see her? The point of this post is to help me get with this woman, despite when you guys say "don't waste your time with someone like her" I want to waste my time with her. Communication hasn't been my strong suit durum g the weekdays but I'm always talking to her on the weekends when we work together. Is ignoring her or being a casual coworker a good strategy to make her become more interested?
Author Kylemopar Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 For example if another coworker asked me what I did on Friday when she's around can I say something like, "Not much just went on a date and took her to a winery then had a little picnic on a hill." Just to make her feel like she missed out on something? I know it's childish but I want this girl bad, just give me some tips on how to GET her not tips on FORGETTING her.
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