my_manda Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 I need advice badly......please reply! My boyfriend of nearly three years broke up with me a few months ago. We are both 28. Here is the catch, he moved out of our place and to Texas. Since the beak-up, we have seen each other and spent four weekends together. I have flew to see him once, and then he and I have met in cities since then. He calls consistently, but will occasionally fade off calling because he says he begins to feel "obligated" again. I am so confused....last week we spent the weekend together in Dallas and then we spoke to each other as we were heading back to our respective homes. I called him Monday about something and he never responded until almost midnight when he called to say he was out and would call me back. That was the last I heard from him. Every time he goes through a phase like this I hurt and ache inside. I feel like I will never move on and love him so much. He does not tell me he loves me anymore, but what is happening is so strange. He is moving from Houston to Dallas and I am looking to transfer there from my little town outside of Chicago (many of our friends from college live there now and I am tired of being so lonely here), but feel that if I were to move there, and he had moved on, more heartache is sure to ensue. what is he thinking? what do i do? any advice is appreciated.
FolderWife Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 He's thinking that he wants to be single, but still screw you...you are sleeping with him EVERY WEEKEND, correct? He's USING you. What you do is cut all contact. You and he communicate. You get attached to him. He decides whenever he wants to stop contacting you, because poor pitiful him is starting to feel obligated to you. You are crushed. Then, he decides he's horny and no other chick worth having will spread her legs. So he calls you, tells you enough goody gumdrops to get in your pants, calls for a while after that to keep you strung along, and then backs off again...and breaks your heart AGAIN. So you need to ensue no contact. Don't answer the phone when he calls. Don't call him. Don't go to see him. Don't go anywhere near him. Leave him alone. He doens't love you. He probably doesn't even LIKE you. If you do decide to move to his hometown, don't hope to get with him. Just have no contact. You need to heal and move on...you can't do that as long as he's dragging you around by your heart.
Author my_manda Posted May 26, 2005 Author Posted May 26, 2005 Thanks.... We have spent weekends together, but I will not sleep with him. We slept together twice the first time I saw him after the break-up, and then we never slept together again. You are right that he probably does not even like me though. I feel so bitter because I was left with our mortgage, etc. He got to move out, move cities, start a new exciting life, and have a whole new dating pool. I realize life is not fair, but the bottom line is how can it be This UNFAIR?!!! Dallas is so big that I would not see him much at all, plus I would only be there for twelve months before I would be relocated to our LA or San Diego office.
Jadey Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 No offence but i just can NOT get why people would sleep with their exes after they dumped you. Even i wouldnt sleepwith mine and i love him very much.Youneed to do full NC NOW!! He sounds like a loser and is totally taking you for a ride His heart and head is in his penis Deflate his ego by not answering his calls or messages, and not contacting himagain.
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