toogood Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Hey, I am a 23 years old guy that is currently attending university (last semester, grad school next semester). I can usually go to random girls and make conversations and keep the flow going without any issues (except at parties when I feel like a stranger) and end up with quite a few phone numbers. My issue is that once I get a girl's number, I do not know what to say to keep the flow going and progress at a romantic phase and usually the girl does not reply back or replies for a while then she stops.Any ideas?
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Conversation is an art but one you can master with practice. Ask Qs. Be interested in the answers. You don't have to talk about anything in particular just get to know the other person.
Author toogood Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 Conversation is an art but one you can master with practice. Ask Qs. Be interested in the answers. You don't have to talk about anything in particular just get to know the other person. My problem is specifically with texting, since I never know what to say to not sound too casual or too common/boring.
PegNosePete Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Just ask her out. You don't need to have a text "conversation". 2
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 My problem is specifically with texting, since I never know what to say to not sound too casual or too common/boring. Can't help you. Texting is a lousy way to communicate. It should be reserved for "I'm running late" "please bring home milk" "call me" & an occasional "ILY". It is not a place / medium in which to have a conversation.
Redfisher Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Can't help you. Texting is a lousy way to communicate. It should be reserved for "I'm running late" "please bring home milk" "call me" & an occasional "ILY". It is not a place / medium in which to have a conversation. I can understand your views and respect them, But I find I do much better texting....Maybe because I can think about what I'm texting rather then blurting out something that's off... And I'm 41 so go figure, Plus I believe the younger people all prefer it nowadays...Not that I can't hold a good convo face to face but I do really well texting.
Author toogood Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 Can't help you. Texting is a lousy way to communicate. It should be reserved for "I'm running late" "please bring home milk" "call me" & an occasional "ILY". It is not a place / medium in which to have a conversation. That is my big problem to be honest. I have no idea how to use all the emojis and stuff or what to say on a text message since my ideal way to communicate is straight up face to face conversations and a lot of people my age use texting to communicate
Tetley Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Agree with PegNose Pete... Your doing good talking to girls and getting numbers, so no worries there! However getting a number means little on it's own. Be more direct. When you meet a girl you're hitting it off with ask them out face to face, then get the number to set it up. I'm sure you'll get more dates and less text stress If you get a number without asking the girl out before, and your texting, I'd recommend just getting to point and asking the girl out sharpish. Texting isn't a great for "get to know" you conversations.
Lois_Griffin Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 My problem is specifically with texting, since I never know what to say to not sound too casual or too common/boring. LOL. Texting is lame. 20 years ago, you would have had to TALK and actually interact with her, not send silly impersonal lines of text across a phone screen. I think you're light years ahead of today's social misfits who have no CLUE how to interact socially anymore because they depend on a keyboard to do it for them. Do what you do best. Call her talk and to her. Why do you think the talking has to STOP once you get her number?
Toodaloo Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 If your not good at texting then don't text! Play to your strengths. Just call and ask her out to do something that may be fun then you are back on comfort ground again AND you are progressing!
kendahke Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 My problem is specifically with texting, since I never know what to say to not sound too casual or too common/boring. texting is for managing people, not really having a conversation with them. Call her up and ask her out for coffee. Have a conversation in person. That's the easiest way to do it.
Author toogood Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 thanks folks, I will try that
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