Need a female POV. She's supposed to be ending it tonite, but this doesn't make sense

[Omei]

Leave, you've done your part she doesnt do hers shes just keeping you around as an option to whoever else.

 

Just leave go no contact dump her like she dumps on others.

[Empyrea]

That's not a dress, that's a tank top.. no one in their right mind would go to the BOWLING alley wearing that, think of all the bending over, lol! OP, are you making this up?

 

Stop spending money on her and see if she sticks around. Good luck.

[Mrin]

Oh wow. Yes, you essentially got played. You basically were an opportunity to extract money. First girlfriend. You recently inherited money. Ya - you were an easy mark. Don't spend another single penny on her. She will surface with some sort of story and will put pressure on you towards the end of the month to help her cover her rent. Unless she has other options/cash flow coming in from other "Johns" she will ramp up the pressure for money. She may even try to have sex with you.

 

Do not spend a single penny more. Sorry dude.

[VeveCakes]

Delete her number, delete her from your life. Seriously, how can you still be interested when she is completely pretending she isn't dating this guy but dating him right in your face at the same time? She is probably telling him you are stalking her...she sucks. Big time.

[Toodaloo]

Ok I am only going to focus on your immediate next moves. Do not call her. Do not text her. Do not stalk her. Do not email her. You blew up her phone and then blew it up again. Nothing to do but wait for her to contact you.

 

If she does contact you do not respond.

 

Cut this girl out of your life. You were the guy for money and to buy things the other guy is the one for sex.

 

Do not stand for it.

 

Do not let this one come back.

 

Every time you think of her remember that she lies. Every time you think you miss her remember that you would be a broke virgin if it carried on as she had NO intention of ever being in a relationship with you. EVER.

 

Move on. Even when your heart is breaking remember that it does get better and you will love again. Only next time you will know better than to just go for looks.

[kgcolonel]

OP....Last night was a date!!! It is what it is. Your only move is to simply go dark.

 

NC is the best way to begin to move on. She was dolled up to have a date with him. You are the OTHER GUY not him. You two are not being intimate, i'll bet you big money they are!

 

Under no circumstances should you continue to pay her rent or anything else. She will continue to take until you don't give anymore. If you want to test this, (and choose to ignore our advise) just tell her that you can't help out anymore and see how long she continues with you.....

 

I am very sorry for you in this situation but you said earlier, this IS your very first GF. Chalk this up to a very valuable learning opportunity. Go slow and seek someone with the same values and ethics as yourself.

[xUnknown]

Yep, agree with kg. They had a date...she wasn't going to tell him off at all. They were going out somewhere...

 

Take all the advice here. Don't call/text/fb message/snapchat anything...she'll wonder why you're not contacting her and throw you a breadcrumb. "Heyyyy!!!" (something dumb like that). Don't feed into it. Don't respond. If she wants to see you she knows where you are.

 

Keep looking for your girl. This one isn't it. Believe me, you'll be happier without her. You learned a very valuable lesson.

[Erik30]

I think you are/were her back up. When she told you she needed a couple of days before becoming exclusive , she was basically saying "I'm going to give this other guy a shot. If things don't work out with him I'll come back to you." And yes, she probably has been dating him for a while.

[BlueIris]

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Another excruciating 20 mins later (50 mins total now), in which I almost called her again but somehow resisted, they come out. My jaw drops. She's wearing this super sexy skirt that she has never worn out because it's so revealing. It's somewhat see through and is really short, and although we are here in Jacksonville it was still out of season and looked trashy. She also looked all made up although it was dark and she was too far away to get a good look.

 

Now I'm thinking wtf!? why in the hell would you get all dolled up like that to tell your friend you can't go out with him any more? I called and texted her like 10 times and have yet to get a response. ...

 

Ladies, does this make any sense? Would you dress like that to end it with a guy, a guy who is only a friend who you only went out twice because he needed someone to talk to after a breakup? Why would she do this? This makes absolutely no sense to me at all. :(

 

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My heart is so breaking right now I was looking forward to spending all day with her tomorrow and now she's ruined the whole mood.

 

Nope, it makes no sense at all to dress like that and have him pick her up-- to break up with him. She's flat out lying to you. Your interpretation was correct.

 

I'm sorry you're hurting.

[Buddhist]

Yeah 50mins to get dressed? Hmm.....she was probably texting the OP while in doggy position.

[joseb]

That's not a dress, that's a tank top.. no one in their right mind would go to the BOWLING alley wearing that, think of all the bending over, lol! OP, are you making this up?

 

Yeah, sometimes when things seem unbelievable it's because they are.

 

I hope he is making it all up. If he's not, it's pretty sad.

[Lansing]

Yeah, sometimes when things seem unbelievable it's because they are.

 

I hope he is making it all up. If he's not, it's pretty sad.

 

 

Yeah, I was thinking the same thing in particular after the last update of him getting an inheritance, paying her rent/utilities/etc, etc.