jmw1727 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I have been wanting to talk to this girl at the gym for the past couple days. She must be new to the gym because I have not seen her there before, or we have just been going at different times. I saw her today and made some brief small talk, but that was it. I thought she seemed disinterested (vague answers, seemed to want to finish her workout, headphones still in, etc.), so I kept it short and moved along. However, as I kept working I noticed her keep looking at me multiple times. She would even smile sometimes. Not sure what this means if anything. How should I approach her next time I see her or should I not at all? Also, any general advice on how to approach girl's at the gym? I am pretty confident in social settings approaching girls, but at the gym I struggle a bit with what to say or how to approach, especially since every girl has headphones in haha
truth_seeker Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Go up to her, say excuse me, then point to your crotch and say: "Can you give me a spot?" Seriously, though, I've had this problem, too. Now, you've broken the ice with her. That's good. Next time you see her say hi and keep going from there. You have to remember that the gym is a funny place. People are there to work out then get out. It's their personal time. If things get awkward then it can become an uncomfortable environment. I've only spoken to women who made it a point to get my attention as I knew they wanted me to talk to them.
thecrucible Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 That sounds great that you broke the ice. What did you talk about? If she's new to the area, you could maybe use that as a way for further conversation. At least now you've broken the ice you can keep saying hello to her when you see her. This is going to sound slightly stalky but do you know what sort of time she tends to head to the gym and whether it's regular. You could always conveniently arrive at the same time and talk to her around the lockers or something?
Rydo Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I would leave her to it. People like their gym time to themselves not for meeting people. If she is interested she will talk to you since you've shown your interest already. Speaking to someone once is fine but to continually do it uninvited at the gym is a bad idea if you ask me.
TheBathWater Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Good post. I've wondered from time to time how I might go about this too. It's got to be the worst place to try and pick someone up. If there's a way to create a chance encounter or serendipitous moment, that's probably best. Otherwise, the only option I could think of is to simply be direct and forthcoming: "I saw you and you seemed interesting. My name is X, what's yours?".
Charlie Harper Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 This thread reminds me of the OLD Sharon Stone Skit in SNL, when someone approaches her and says : "Hi my name is Joe did I mention I have a penis?" LOL !. If she likes you you will find her at the Gym, just be casual, and don't make small talk, make witty remarks, women like BRAINS and if you have a good body and Brains, she will keep the conversation going...
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