kevin smithy Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 What's this girl tryna do? Last week she messages me, I'm over her so I messaged back and and ended the convoy same time. Now 4 days after I was on fb n we have mutual friends. I saw her on a comment and I was like wtf. Why would you unblock me. We done. You didnt want me in u Your life no more and i gave you that. Now why do these weird things. I just blocked her on fb theere so thats the end of that. Whats she tryna do???
Blanco Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Maybe she was trying to see if she could get you to start a thread about her on Loveshack.org even though you're "over her." 5
Author kevin smithy Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 Maybe she was trying to see if she could get you to start a thread about her on Loveshack.org even though you're "over her." I know me making a thread about it doesnt show being over her but im just confused by this. she did so much to get rid of me and i left her alone. i told her that we can never be friends and she knows that. last time she messaged me i told her im good. why unblock me a few days after. im just confused and would like to hear what others have to say.
Amelie1980 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I know me making a thread about it doesnt show being over her but im just confused by this. she did so much to get rid of me and i left her alone. i told her that we can never be friends and she knows that. last time she messaged me i told her im good. why unblock me a few days after. im just confused and would like to hear what others have to say. I assume she was the dumper and it has been a few months with no contact? I read an article about this online and i looked it up for you. It was an article about why men always come back but you know all the same principles apply to why women come back too. I think the reason that applies to you is this one: "You’re suddenly a challenge. This is particularly likely if you’ve gone no contact or have been ignoring his communication. Like a puzzle waiting to be solved, if you’ve gone dark on him, he’ll want to break down the wall you’ve put up and see if he can get a response. A sign he’s chasing is if he communicates with you, you respond, and he drops the communication completely all of a sudden. It’s frustrating and enough to drive you crazy wondering WTF. Another common time this happens is if you happened to be a little bit clingy during or after the breakup. Once you go completely no contact and go to great strides to forget about him, he wonders why, feels challenged and *poof* there he is again." Just change he to she and him to her in the above quote. If you resisted the break up and didnt want to break up and then suddenly disappeared off the map then you have become a challenge again. Maybe just simple curiosity. 1
Author kevin smithy Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 I assume she was the dumper and it has been a few months with no contact? I read an article about this online and i looked it up for you. It was an article about why men always come back but you know all the same principles apply to why women come back too. I think the reason that applies to you is this one: "You’re suddenly a challenge. This is particularly likely if you’ve gone no contact or have been ignoring his communication. Like a puzzle waiting to be solved, if you’ve gone dark on him, he’ll want to break down the wall you’ve put up and see if he can get a response. A sign he’s chasing is if he communicates with you, you respond, and he drops the communication completely all of a sudden. It’s frustrating and enough to drive you crazy wondering WTF. Another common time this happens is if you happened to be a little bit clingy during or after the breakup. Once you go completely no contact and go to great strides to forget about him, he wonders why, feels challenged and *poof* there he is again." Just change he to she and him to her in the above quote. If you resisted the break up and didnt want to break up and then suddenly disappeared off the map then you have become a challenge again. Maybe just simple curiosity. Ive been No contact for over 2 months. just broke it once on her bday but never after. i did all i could do, i tried my best and gave all i could give. and she just dropped me like nothing. she was ok, but not good and not great. i dont wanna go back into a mess with her i just wanna continue my no contact and move on. thats all. its a first for me, first relationship , first break up. so its all new to me. she wanted me out of her life and thats all i know. i gave her that. she could atleast do the right thing and follow through on what she wanted and thats keeping me out of her life. the little messages and unblocking me is truly little set back. and i dont want that.
Armageddon Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 You should never have replied to her message when she messaged you, just sayin'. But at least, you got her to wonder/think of you which is not a bad thing. I will never ever hear from mine again after what I did. Never. Sigh.
mightycpa Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 You use words and ideas that make you sound like you're not quite over her yet. It sounds like you want to be, but you still harbor some resentment or some negative thoughts about the whole situation. You want NC? Stop sending out messages, and either block and/or delete the ones that you receive without reading them, and you will have it. NC doesn't mean forever, either. Just long enough so that when you're ready to contact them again, you don't care enough to make the small effort.
Samhain Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 If you're over her, you wouldn't care what she does, how she does it, or why she does it. And even if you're not over her, ignore her anyway. Playing games back and forth .. Social media blocking/unblocking is kids stuff.
Jenmarie Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I unblocked my ex. It means absolutely nothing. Trust me on this. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Delete her and be done. You're not over her, which is okay. But be honest with yourself. Go real No Contact and cut her out of your life. I don't think it means much that she unblocked you, for what it's worth. She sounds very young and she likes the attention. That's it.
Armageddon Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I unblocked my ex. It means absolutely nothing. Trust me on this. Were you the dumper or the dumpee? I assume he was the dumpee so it could have meant something.
Amelie1980 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I unblocked my ex. It means absolutely nothing. Trust me on this. So if it means nothing. Why did you unblock your ex? I have never unblocked my ex. I dont want to know what is going on in his life. Unblocking your ex means you must have thought about them in the first place to go and unblock them, and then unblock them why if you have no intention of speaking to them again. The fact that you unblock at all if you still have no intention of having anything to do with them is puzzling.
marky00 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 LOL Amelie, Such a clever post. Maybe Jenmarie meant that she had her EX blocked. Then became so absolutely indifferent bout that person, that she set her block settings back to default (i.e. no-one blocked).
Confusioncreepsin Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Maybe her boyfriend unblocked you on her account since they had a conversation about you the other night....I say this only to make you think in a different way. Maybe she unblocked you because it is time for her to post the 1000 memes to passively tell you things that can be taken 300 ways. Maybe she want to start showing you the pics that will crush you.... From one of my earlier posts... How many times will someone post unhappy pics on social media? Think about that. Its always fake. Some will go meme crazy sending all kinds of posters etc to try to get people to see them as victims or validation. They will always try to post GREAT and wonderful things that are going on. Remember that each time you seek the "truth" through social media. Its all for covering up their sadness or getting validation or sympathy for being a victim. EVEN if it is a vindictive person who is doing it on purpose so you will HURT when you see it, remember that this person is STILL trying to HURT you and make you jealous/crazy. It's just a breadcrumb to send your way to make you react. DO NOT REACT, do not message them, no phone calls, nothing. Pretend that you never saw it if you can.
Author kevin smithy Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 The fact that i made a thread about it says a lot. I'm not as over as I thought I was. But I literally have no more feelings for her. I don't even think about her much. I blocked her when she unblocked me, I thought I made a mistake by doing that but I didn't. I think I'm just a bit weak to be fair. But this is where I have to stand up and be strong. Me and her are through. That's the end of it. I blocked her and I won't unblock cause we have nothing. There's no reason to speak to her so there's no reason to break no contact. I need to be strong here. I really do. And I hope I can.
Amelie1980 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 LOL Amelie, Such a clever post. Maybe Jenmarie meant that she had her EX blocked. Then became so absolutely indifferent bout that person, that she set her block settings back to default (i.e. no-one blocked). It depends what the block is. Facebook: no way can you just unblock everyone by changing settings. You cannot randomly unblock someone on Facebook. It has to be individual. the same with WhatsApp. You have to block individually. My phone has individual settings for making someone a spam contact. Again it isn't group.
Silver_star Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 My two cents: I have unblocked an ex before that I realized when I was bored and on facebook I had blocked him (back when we had broken up). I was pretty indifferent at the time of unblocking him, but still curious about what he was up to. I had ZERO interest in reconciling, but thought it was kind of dumb to have him blocked as he had obviously moved on with his life as well. Its very unlikely she unblocked you to try and pursue you again or as an invitation for you to pursue her.
Author kevin smithy Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 Idk why she did. And with a lot of thought given IDC why she did it. We arent together, we arent friends anymore. I would like to keep it that way. I may have over think why she unblocked me maybe because she had messaged me a few days before that. I just don't know why I'm feeling a bit sympathetic that I blocked her. Why the hell would i feel this way????
Author kevin smithy Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 My two cents: I have unblocked an ex before that I realized when I was bored and on facebook I had blocked him (back when we had broken up). I was pretty indifferent at the time of unblocking him, but still curious about what he was up to. I had ZERO interest in reconciling, but thought it was kind of dumb to have him blocked as he had obviously moved on with his life as well. Its very unlikely she unblocked you to try and pursue you again or as an invitation for you to pursue her. So what do I do. Leave it as it is. ? I'm guessing she just did it because it wasn't a problem anymore. But did i do the right thing by blocking her. I truly feel i did because we have nothing no more. And i do not want to be friends with her. Idk alot about relationships this was my first. Its why im so curious.
mightycpa Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Leave it as is. You're spending way too much time overthinking it. 3
Amelie1980 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 So what do I do. Leave it as it is. ? I'm guessing she just did it because it wasn't a problem anymore. But did i do the right thing by blocking her. I truly feel i did because we have nothing no more. And i do not want to be friends with her. Idk alot about relationships this was my first. Its why im so curious. I get the impression that you want something from this. That is fine. Dont feel you have to hide it from us. You wont be the first or the last who wants their ex back and replies to contact from them. if you want to talk to her, do, but dont expect it work out.
nathan101 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I get the impression that you want something from this. That is fine. Dont feel you have to hide it from us. You wont be the first or the last who wants their ex back and replies to contact from them. if you want to talk to her, do, but dont expect it work out. My ego wants something from this. And that's wrong because decisions made for egos are never good. I deserve a lot better. And I do need to stop thinking bout this. My ego wanted something from this I won't lie. Maybe a message from her, maybe her wanting me back. But it won't work. I don't love her no more and I can't bring myself to loving her again. I really appreciate what you guys are telling me. I sincerely appreciate it.
Amelie1980 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 My ego wants something from this. And that's wrong because decisions made for egos are never good. I deserve a lot better. And I do need to stop thinking bout this. My ego wanted something from this I won't lie. Maybe a message from her, maybe her wanting me back. But it won't work. I don't love her no more and I can't bring myself to loving her again. I really appreciate what you guys are telling me. I sincerely appreciate it. Did you name change? nathan101 / kevin smithy? Are you the same poster?
nathan101 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Did you name change? nathan101 / kevin smithy? Are you the same poster? Name change?? No same name same poster.
nathan101 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Name change?? No same name same poster. Wait I'm posting on the wrong thread. 1
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