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If a guy is a jeans and tshirt type guy on a regular basis, then what does dressing up for a date tell the woman about him? Does that give a false impression of who he really is, or do women just assume he's dressing up just for the date? (dressing up meaning work casual)

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Actually, I was gonna start a thread related to this topic the other day. I wanted to ask a guy what he thinks he should wear on a date...

 

For me, a person putting effort into their appearance shows me that they "care". It also shows me that they have good taste cuz we all have to dress for the occasion. I want a man who understands that cuz the day we have to go family event, a formal dinner and/or something casual like the movies he's capable of pulling out something acceptable to wear.

 

I went out on a date with a guy who showed up in cargo shorts, a T-shirt, and like terrible shoes. He also literally ate with a fork. I could not take this guy to a dinner with my parents. He'd embarrass me and himself.

 

I also recently went on a date with a guy who just put no effort into what he wore. I mean, he even said he came from work and I couldn't believe he went to work dressed like that - an environment where "business casual" would be acceptable.

 

Same way that when I got out with someone - even on a first date - I take time to get my nails, hair, and make-up right to impress them...I expect the same from a man. No, he doesn't have to go out and get a two-piece suit. I mean, even jeans, a decent pair of shoes and a shirt/top can get a dude through a date. But, if he just shows up all grungy and with bad manners then shows he doesn't care about his appearance, the date, and/or can't be taken out of the cave anywhere.

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It depends. Casual date at a coffee shop or to the movies? T-shirt and jeans will likely do fine. Out to a nice restaurant? At the very least, go semi-formal.

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It really depends on the person you have a date with i think. If shes very cute and funny i would take my most goodlooking Casual Dress and would try to impress her. If shes dressed like the girls on that moving pictures on for example http://us.escada.com/[url=http://us.escada.com/][/url] i would think i am not good enough for her because you have to have a lot of money to purchase Escada. I would get a nice Suit and try to impress her too. But until now i never met a "rich" Woman.

 

I always try to adjust my clothes to her level.

 

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If a jeans & t shirt guy shows up for a date in a suit that may give a false impression. A woman who is attracted to a jeans & t shirt guy probably isn't going to be too thrilled about the change in wardrobe, anyway.

 

 

That said putting some effort into a date outfit shows that care & thought went into the planning. A jeans & t shirt guy could absolutely step it up with a collared golf shirt or Hawaiian type shirt (not too loud just that cut) and khakis while still being true to himself.

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I wore a button down Perry Ellis shirt, jeans, and brand new New Balance sneakers on my first date with Timshel. She lived in Boston for a while so I thought it would be cute to show up with a Boston brand for nostalgia sake. :p

 

You shouldn't change your entire personality for a date, but if you're a guy that can't manage to look somewhat nice no matter what then that's probably going to be a strike against you.

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Depends on where the date is at, as long as he dresses appropriately for the venue it's all good in my books. Wearing jeans to fine dining or wearing business casual to mini-golf are both equally off-putting.

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If a guy is a jeans and tshirt type guy on a regular basis, then what does dressing up for a date tell the woman about him? Does that give a false impression of who he really is, or do women just assume he's dressing up just for the date? (dressing up meaning work casual)

 

It would give the impression that jeans and tshirt guy knows how to dress appropriately for the situation. That's a good thing.

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It says everything about you and that you're not fashionably retarded.

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You don't have to put on a suit, but you do need to invest in a nice casual jacket or two you can throw on over your usual fare AND you also need to stop wearing faded jeans anywhere but around home and always keep new looking dark blue or black jeans on hand. A good fitting pair of black jeans can be dressed up or down very easily. You can wear them with a suit jacket or a less formal blazer or leather jacket with a t-shirt underneath. And in cold weather, you can wear a nice new sweater.

 

What you need to avoid is only wearing worn out faded old clothes and clothes that don't fit, are too baggy, or too tight. If you keep updating and keep a fresh new dark couple pairs of jeans and new, unholey and unfaded t-shirts, you will look much more put together. And you need to keep a polished pair of casual shoes or boots for dates and not wear athletic shoes everywhere.

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Well a few things come to mind.

 

Is this OLD where you haven't met before? Usually I have an idea of what he is "about" before the first date.

 

Ages? Are we talking 22 or 52? I think it makes a bit of a difference.

 

Otherwise it depends on the location etc. I am quite fine with jeans and a T shirt, I am a jeans and T shirt kinda gal. But I would like them to be stylish, fitted jeans, and a nice T-shirt, not some worn out old thing!

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Just don't look like Homer Simpson.

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If a guy is a jeans and tshirt type guy on a regular basis, then what does dressing up for a date tell the woman about him? Does that give a false impression of who he really is, or do women just assume he's dressing up just for the date? (dressing up meaning work casual)

 

You can wear jeans and t shirt to a date too. For me, all that matters is that the guy is clean and well put together.

 

My first boyfriend dressed like a slob. Ripped, too-large jeans, shirts falling apart on him, dirty sneakers falling apart. I later uncovered more hygiene problems (surprise surprise).

 

Second boyfriend dressed simply- jeans, hiking shoes, plain long sleeved shirts or plain t shirts that showed off his well-developed chest (he liked to work out). His appearance was great, I had a very good impression of his looks.

 

But I personally don't care about style. A guy can wear whatever he wants, as long as he doesn't dress like a homosexual (I'm not a very feminine woman, I don't like guys who dress more feminine than me, sorry) or like a goth.

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I dress for myself. I might put on a touch of eye makeup.

 

Whatever MAKES ME feel sexy/confident. Not him.

 

That being when I'm travelling, anything goes.

JustGettingBy Established Member

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Just don't look like Homer Simpson.

 

Outfit issue? D'oh!

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You don't have to put on a suit, but you do need to invest in a nice casual jacket or two you can throw on over your usual fare AND you also need to stop wearing faded jeans anywhere but around home and always keep new looking dark blue or black jeans on hand. A good fitting pair of black jeans can be dressed up or down very easily. You can wear them with a suit jacket or a less formal blazer or leather jacket with a t-shirt underneath. And in cold weather, you can wear a nice new sweater.

 

 

I have never in my life ever seen anyone where I live wear black jeans, or even rarely the new dark jeans. Very rarely ever see anyone wear a jacket or blazer around here either unless its a funeral or some sort of banquet.

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I have never in my life ever seen anyone where I live wear black jeans, or even rarely the new dark jeans. Very rarely ever see anyone wear a jacket or blazer around here either unless its a funeral or some sort of banquet.

 

You can wear a blazer w/o it being so formal and actually pull off a "casual" look:

 

http://www.metromela.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Business-Casual-dress.jpg

 

I was also checking out Dr. Drew and noticed he picked up the jeans/blazer combo and is pulling off quite well, here's some samples:

 

https://cdn.lookastic.com/looks/blazer-dress-shirt-jeans-boots-tie-belt-original-1367.jpg

 

https://cdn.lookastic.com/looks/blazer-dress-shirt-jeans-boots-tie-belt-original-1367.jpg

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Same way that when I got out with someone - even on a first date - I take time to get my nails, hair, and make-up right to impress them...I expect the same from a man.

 

Honestly, most guys wont even notice! We're not wired that way. By all means look nice and if you feel better doing these things for yourself, do them.

But if it's a source of stress, then just bear in mind guys notice this far less than you think.

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You can wear a blazer w/o it being so formal and actually pull off a "casual" look:

 

 

Yes, I get that....I just stated that in my community it is rarely seen. This is a low-key blue collar thsirt and jeans type of town.

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