LoveIsMyReligion Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 (edited) So long story short I dated a promiscuous woman and even though I know breaking up was a good thing I can't help but feel like the loser in the situation. This girl was very attractive and didn't have to wear much make-up at all. She didn't talk much and didn't have the best personality but had the most amazing FF breasts a guy could imagine. She wasn't fat, a little bit chubby, but her body and the sex was just amazing. She cheated on her boyfriend, which I later found out about, to be with me. While we were together I noticed she was still pretty flirty with other people. When I called her out on it she would get upset and say sorry it's just her personality. Before we got together she was constantly teasing other guys and even made out with one of my friends frequently (while she had a boyfriend). It's my fault for taking her serious I know, maybe I thought I was "special" and could change her bad habbits... idk. 6/7 months later Lo and behold she loses interests and says she lost feelings for me. Of course she has a new boyfriend 1 week later with whom I'm sure she cheated on me with. I was a pretty good boyfriend (not perfect) and also easy on the eyes. I was ambitious, introduced her to my family and met her family and friends as well. Now I feel like ****... Like a used paper towel or something... It's like, WTF? Do women like this really get away with this **** scott free with no repercussions in life? Edited November 17, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language ~T
GunslingerRoland Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 I don't know if cheating repercussions vary that much by sex. It's more a matter of how ingrained in her life you were. If you were friends with all of her friends, and spent lots of time with her family and developed relationships with them, then she'd have the repercussions of having those people think less of her. But it sounds like you were dating her pretty casually, so yeah, probably no one cares. Sorry... you had your fun, now it's someone else's turn.
Buddhist Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Well men like her typically do so I really wonder why you think divine justice should be metered out merely because she's female. Your post says it all really. You knew what you were getting into and did it anyway because of those 'FF breasts that any guy could imagine'. I guess if we allow our libido to do our thinking for us then we're bound to end up with someone who matches it perfectly. And before you thinking I'm sticking the knife in because you're a guy, think again. I'm saying what I'm saying here because I did the exact same thing. Went with a person because of the lust they inspired and also ended up disappointed in a pretty similar fashion. It's one of those perennial life lessons. Chalk it up to experience. 3
lilmissjava Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Now I feel like ****... Like a used paper towel or something... It's like, WTF? Do women like this really get away with this **** scott free with no repercussions in life? Welcome to the world of many women. Men do this too. Don't generalize. These are HER issues and have everything to do with her own self-worth, which clearly isn't much. If she cheated on her boyfriend to be with you, what would prompt you to think you would be the last? Those FF's got you far didn't they? 1
RecentChange Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 It sounds like you were the one blinded by her tits, and let yourself get emotionally involved even though she had a bad personality and had no qualms about sleeping around. Maybe next time you will think with your big head more, and a bit less with the little head. Hot bod and a bad personality are fine for a **** buddy, but not relationship material. 3
thecrucible Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 And before you thinking I'm sticking the knife in because you're a guy, think again. I'm saying what I'm saying here because I did the exact same thing. Went with a person because of the lust they inspired and also ended up disappointed in a pretty similar fashion. It's one of those perennial life lessons. Chalk it up to experience. Yup, been there done that. Totally agree with all of your post. It's easy to think that lusting after someone can be meaningful in some way that it isn't, or you just move to fast and get yourself in too deep.
stillafool Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 She's a bad girl and men fall for them just like women fall for bad boys because she is a beast in bed. Take your time and get over her. You dodged a bullet. 2
Oregon_Dude Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I know there are good guys out there though. I think you should be hopeful too.Like I said, you're a sweetie. With a positive spirit. But no, I'm not optimistic at all. I've learned through trial and error that women say they want a good guy, but when they meet him, don't want him. So good guys are opting out of the program from being hurt too much, or simply turning into a**holes. A transformation which I am undergoing.
Author LoveIsMyReligion Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 They want a good guy that is hard to get. I've been the ******* and I've been the amazing boyfriend and neither work; you have to be both. 2
thecrucible Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Like I said, you're a sweetie. With a positive spirit. But no, I'm not optimistic at all. I've learned through trial and error that women say they want a good guy, but when they meet him, don't want him. So good guys are opting out of the program from being hurt too much, or simply turning into a**holes. A transformation which I am undergoing. I think women are attracted to guys with an inner self-confidence that it's difficult to put a finger on. For a mature woman, it's a guy who's comfortable in his skin, who can hold his own and someone with integrity. I think also some guys have a fake kind of confidence and some women can fall for it. It just happens that bad guys and confident guys have commonalities so it can sometimes be difficult to distinguish between them. It doesn't mean women don't want good guys however. To go back to what OP was experiencing, I think a similar thing happens to men. Some men can fall for a really in-your-face flirtatious woman in the same way a woman might fall for an overly confident d-bag. Maybe men don't fall for that so much if they become less driven by their ego/sexual desires. Who knows? Anyway, we're diverting from thread topic... Also I know some American women who are totally the opposite of 'insufferable'. 1
StBreton Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Wow you are really bitter about women. Open your eyes to the genuinely awesome women out there who you may have not noticed! There are plenty of shallow people out there, regardless of gender. Ya but they might not have been so easily noticed because they weren't flashing FF breasts Sorry it didn't work out for you OP ... But the experience must have been good for a while:) Nice pic crucible! 2
Oregon_Dude Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 I think women are attracted to guys with an inner self-confidence that it's difficult to put a finger on. For a mature woman, it's a guy who's comfortable in his skin, who can hold his own and someone with integrity. I think also some guys have a fake kind of confidence and some women can fall for it. It just happens that bad guys and confident guys have commonalities so it can sometimes be difficult to distinguish between them. It doesn't mean women don't want good guys however.As someone who has a deep sense of who he is, loves himself and is confident, I can tell you that women SAY what you are saying, but ultimately go for whomever strikes them as most mysterious, or the biggest 'project'. I have had enough relationships and been on enough dates to know that women don't know what they want, and what they want often changes on a daily basis. And that men are blamed for everything in a relationship, and that women don't understand the meaning of the word 'accountability'. Time after time, instead of making things work, they will bail. And I could care less at this point who I rub the wrong way on this forum, because I'm fed up with all the PC discussions that go on here and the white-knighting men. You can be the best, most confident guy out there and still get passed up. Why? You'll never know. Because there wasn't a "spark". Am I pissed? Totally! And that's fine. Somewhere along the line, anger became a crime. F*ck that noise. Dating is a joke. People are independent enough nowadays that there's no reason to do it. The lows aren't worth the highs. We're all just interchangeable and everyone is a commodity. 1
RecentChange Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Seriously dude, I get it, your are dejected, negitive etc. But come on! What do you think is going to happen when your compromise personality in favor of titts? You are the one that was acting shallow here, and it bit you in the ass. Next time? Personality counts. The person inside the skin is the one who is going to treat you well, or poorly. Next time, look for the stunning personality, and consider great tits the iceing on the cake if you will. Your priorities seem out of order if you are worried about your feeeeelings.... 5
Rydo Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 (edited) As someone who has a deep sense of who he is, loves himself and is confident, I can tell you that women SAY what you are saying, but ultimately go for whomever strikes them as most mysterious, or the biggest 'project'. I have had enough relationships and been on enough dates to know that women don't know what they want, and what they want often changes on a daily basis. And that men are blamed for everything in a relationship, and that women don't understand the meaning of the word 'accountability'. Time after time, instead of making things work, they will bail. And I could care less at this point who I rub the wrong way on this forum, because I'm fed up with all the PC discussions that go on here and the white-knighting men. You can be the best, most confident guy out there and still get passed up. Why? You'll never know. Because there wasn't a "spark". Am I pissed? Totally! And that's fine. Somewhere along the line, anger became a crime. F*ck that noise. Dating is a joke. People are independent enough nowadays that there's no reason to do it. The lows aren't worth the highs. We're all just interchangeable and everyone is a commodity. Dating is meant to be fun not stressful like a job interview. Edited November 18, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited out accusation ~ V 1
StBreton Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 (edited) Excellent analysis. I am bitter as a f*cking lemon covered in vomit. In any case... women are picky, choosy, have high standards and can be shallow sometimes. I was THAT girl in my 20s. I didn't think I'd ever get married. I did though. You just have to meet the right girl at the right time in your life. Until then, it's all experiencing life. Try not to let the whole thing get you down and enjoy:) Edited November 18, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited out further baiting of the OP ~ V 1
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